Abortion After Cystic Fibrosis Diagnosis Posted: 07-14-04 05:44am
I won't spend time giving my entire story,
but I am looking for someone else that may
be going through what I am. Dh and I had
infertility issues...Decided to
adopt...Got pg naturally... Only to find
out at 13 weeks the baby has cystic
fibrosis. Not trying to sound cold, this
is very devastating news, anyone else gone
through this or have some understanding of
really wanting to be pg, but choosing to
terminate because of the baby's health?
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purple333
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Joined: 01 Dec 2003 Posts: 1420 Location: Sydney
Posted: 07-14-04 07:36am
I had had 2 miscarriages before having our
daughter then another miscarriage before
going through much the same as you are -
my 5th pregnancy - a son - was shown to be
trisome 18 - they usually self-abort as
the problems are so severe - I terminated
the pregnancy, several years later I fell
pregnant again - twins - lost one but have
a son.
I had thought long & hard prior to
falling pregnant (due to experiences of
aquaintances) what I would do if the baby
had serious health (physical/mental)
issues & decided that I would not put
myself, my family or the child through
such an agonising soul destroying
experience.
If this were a dog you would not make it
live without quality of life, if it was
you we were talking about what would you
want for yourself - the life that you
could have such as it would be/wouldn't be
or heaven?
I have never stopped loving my son, I know
he's in heaven & loved but as hard
& as painful as it was & still is
13 years later I would not hesitate to do
the same thing again in the same
circumstances.
To be fair though I know of families who
would totally disagree with me on every
count - the decision must be yours &
your husbands & should take into
account emotional, financial, long term
physical & emotional constraints on
the entire family & the quality of
life of your unborn child.
My prayers are with you all.
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sparklypixie12
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Joined: 17 Sep 2003 Posts: 3099
Re: Abortion After Cystic Fibrosis Diagnosis Posted: 07-14-04 10:54am
honu0612
wrote:
i won't spend time giving my
entire story, but I am looking for someone
else that may be going through what I am.
Dh and I had infertility
issues...Decided to adopt...Got pg
naturally... Only to find out at 13
weeks the baby has cystic fibrosis. Not
trying to sound cold, this is very
devastating news, anyone else gone through
this or have some understanding of really
wanting to be pg, but choosing to
terminate because of the baby's
health?
i am sorry to hear this-it must be hard to
try hard for a baby & then find out it
has health problems.It's not cold to say
that it's devastating for you-most people
would feel that way.
I don't know you but I will be thinking of
you through this hard time & hope that
whatever choice you make will be the right
one for you
liz x
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2ferano
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Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 07-16-04 03:35am
Liz, you are such a sweetheart!
I also will keep you in my prayers. I am
so sorry this is happening to you!
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sparklypixie12
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Joined: 17 Sep 2003 Posts: 3099
Posted: 07-16-04 08:45am
Thank you angie :d I just feel so bad
for that lady & would never condemn
her for having that baby if she didn't
want to hope she's ok
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honu0612
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Joined: 13 Jul 2004 Posts: 4
Posted: 07-16-04 14:29pm
I did survive the ab this morning and
actually i'm feeling okay for the most
part. I had cramping for about 2 hours
after, but took ibuprofen, and now feeling
more like myself. I am very sad for the
little life that was inside of me, it was
not it's fault, but it was not ours
either. I was given very special
attention at the clinic, the counselor
followed me from place to place and
supported me. I was probably one of the
few that were ever there because they
wanted a baby, but decided to terminate
for health reasons. I'm also very young,
as most women with unhealthy babies are in
their 40s. Thanks for the support here.
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2ferano
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Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 07-16-04 17:00pm
I am glad that everything went safely. I
am once again so sorry.....God bless.
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sparklypixie12
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Joined: 17 Sep 2003 Posts: 3099
Posted: 07-16-04 17:33pm
honu0612
wrote:
i did survive the ab this
morning and actually i'm feeling okay for
the most part. I had cramping for about
2 hours after, but took ibuprofen, and now
feeling more like myself. I am very sad
for the little life that was inside of me,
it was not it's fault, but it was not ours
either. I was given very special
attention at the clinic, the counselor
followed me from place to place and
supported me. I was probably one of the
few that were ever there because they
wanted a baby, but decided to terminate
for health reasons. I'm also very
young, as most women with unhealthy babies
are in their 40s. Thanks for the
support here.
i'm sorry this happened to you when you so
wanted this baby life
can be so cruel but I hope you're blessed
with another child in the future.This will
take you time to come to terms with so
look after yourself,take tablets if your
in pain,follow all doctors instructions
& do go to further counselling if you
need it to help you cope.God bless &
don't give up trying if it's what you
want,liz :d
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sandyallen
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Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Posted: 07-16-04 20:49pm
You did the right thing!
God bless!
Sincerely,
sandy
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purple333
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Joined: 01 Dec 2003 Posts: 1420 Location: Sydney
Posted: 07-17-04 00:33am
Take care & allow yourself time &
accept any emotional turmoil as normal,
make sure you include your husband this
will almost certainly be hard on him too
& he also needs to know where you're
at!!
Counselling, love, acceptance &
patience & being young I pray you will
have another child - a healthy one. God
bless.
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PattyV
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Joined: 01 May 2004 Posts: 1103 Location: Chicago area
Posted: 07-18-04 13:38pm
So sorry to hear of your story.Yes,there
are those who would condemn you for your
decision,but if they were in your shoes,i
don't think they would feel the same.I had
a freind who found out at 8 months she was
carrying a baby that would not live(it had
no kidneys and underdeveloped lungs,liver
and heart)she chose to have the baby(a
boy)and held him until he passed away.I
know I would never have the courage to
have done that,knowing my baby would die.I
truly respect and admire anyone who faces
such tough decisions.God bless and good
luck with your adoption.Pattyv
hope she's ok 
life
can be so cruel but I hope you're blessed
with another child in the future.This will
take you time to come to terms with so
look after yourself,take tablets if your
in pain,follow all doctors instructions
& do go to further counselling if you
need it to help you cope.God bless &
don't give up trying if it's what you
want,liz :d
