Miscarriage - I Ask Myself Why? Posted: 07-17-04 11:06am
Just had a miscarriage, couple of days
ago. It was the worst nightmare I ever
experience in my whole life. Only a few
days before my doctor had told me that I
am pregnant. I was 7 weeks far. My
boyfriend and me were very happy about it
when we found out, but then only a few
days after, I started having cramps
combined with bleeding. I went to my gyno
for a check up and the ultrasound showed
everything was allright with the baby as
for now, but if the bleeding got any
heavier I should go immediately to the
hospital. That night bleeding started
getting massive, it wouldnt stop as well
as the pain. I hoped it would go away,
but also was prepared that it could be
something serious. I prayed that my baby
would survive. In the morning I checked
in to the hospital where they diagnosed a
miscarriage. No heartbeat - nothing. I
was under shock and burst out in tears.
They told me they would have to make a
d&c as for to remove the rest of the
bodyparts.
At first I refused, because, I couldnt
realize my baby was dead.
After a long talk with the doctor, I
agreed as it was the best for my health.
I am a mother of a 4-year old daughter, my
first pregnancy was normal, no
complications, nothing.
I still do not know how deal with it all,
and ask myself why? And what my fault
was.
Now I am scared I might have a next
miscarriage or dont even know if I might
get pregnant again.
Thank you!
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sparklypixie12
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Joined: 17 Sep 2003 Posts: 3099
Posted: 07-17-04 17:37pm
I am so sorry that this happened but I
hope you do not blame yourself in any
way-miscarriage happens & is in no way
the fault of the mother.
The d&c must have been so hard but
it's important that you consider your
health in all of this & i'm glad you
realised it was neccesary.
Because of what you've been through its
only natural that you will worry about
getting pregnant again.Many women have
miscarriages & go on to have healthy
pregnancies.My mom for one had 2
miscarriages but went on to have 4
perfectly healthy children.Perhaps you
should take time out to grieve for your
loss before you consider trying for
another baby.It is also important to wait
for a few months to make sure your body
has recovered but these are things for
doctor will tell you.
I wish you all the best for the future
& hope that in term you will come to
terms with this
liz x
After reading your post it helps me a
little to know that there are women out
there who are going through exactly what I
am going through. I had my first
miscarriage at 10 weeks. The dr's didn't
see a heart beat, had a d&c and then
had 3 periods and became pregnant again.
Today june 23 found out that there is no
heart beat again. The first one was in
march. I feel blessed to be able to get
pregnant again so fast but will now be
very scared to become again just incase
this happens again. The most asked
question is why me but I will never know.
It comforts me to know that there are
women who have been through this and can
understand what I am going through, I
really haven't had anyone to talk to about
this and look forward to hearing from
anyone who wishes to share stories and
hopes with me.
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