Joined: 25 Sep 2003 Posts: 7 Location: North Carolina
How Do You Deal With Stress? Posted: 09-25-03 15:09pm
I am a very
stressed and stessful person. I am 19
years old and married. I am in the
military which was a wrong choice for me.
I love my husband but he has a child from
a previous marriage ( she died from heart
and child birth problems) and he now we
take care of his mother. I have always
hated kids and thought I would get over it
because I love him so much. I thought I
would have been able to change. So my
undue stress comes from his daughter and
his mother who I hate and from the fact of
being in the military. There are some
others strings with these problems but
i'll give it to you short and sweet. My
big problem is my husband wants another
child and I don't mind giving him one but
as you can read I an stressed to much that
I think it has affected my body. Along
with the fact I hate kids, I think this
will help me to change my attitude towards
his child and all the other things I hate.
Help, what should I do?
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rawkeze
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Joined: 25 Sep 2003 Posts: 22 Location: Los Angeles
Posted: 09-25-03 16:30pm
Hate is such a strong word, maybe you
don't hate kids, but just feel better when
they're not around. It doesn't seem like
you have discussed this with your husband,
you should start there. You're young and
have a lifetime to hate. Talk with a
psychologist, sounds like you are
depressed. If you don't want to have
children, then don't. The fact that your
husband wants another child is a good
indication he doesn't know how you are
feeling. Take your time.
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ga_peach02
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Joined: 25 Sep 2003 Posts: 7 Location: North Carolina
Posted: 09-26-03 08:47am
I have talked to my husband about what I
am feeling and he knows exactly how I feel
about everything, but I think I put him
into a situation to where he cannot
provide me with a solution. I guess you
could say I don't hate kids but I would
the problem is I don't want to be around
kids. I wouldn't say i'm depressed
although sometimes I do feel a little low.
I want to have children but the fact
that it's not happening for me cause me to
be stressed along with some other
problems. I would like to talk to
someone to see if it would make things
better but I am not sure of how to do
that. I am only now trying to take it
day by day.
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Cindy1
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Joined: 26 Sep 2003 Posts: 4
Posted: 09-26-03 20:08pm
I'm not sure how anyone can "hate" kids,
as they are an innocent party here but
anyways, about the stress thing, have you
tried anti depressants yet ? You really
need to get some medical advice if it's
out of your control. Breathing excercises
are wonderful to.
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ga_peach02
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Sep 2003 Posts: 7 Location: North Carolina
Posted: 09-29-03 09:52am
Sometimes it is the child's fault but only
in certain people eyes. As for an anti
depressant, I have tried but I didn't like
to way it made me feel so I discontinued
them. I am in the process of finding
help to deal with the stress and
depression. I am open to any suggestions
as a way to deal. Thanks
Hi, isn't there something available
through the military? Like counselling or
medical advice. I know here in canada I
had some friends in the navy and they had
a Dr. And a chaplain on the base that
they could talk to. Do you have anything
like that? I hope that you can wait until
you have some of this stuff figured out
before you have a baby. Believe me,
having a baby won't make your life any
easier.
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ga_peach02
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Sep 2003 Posts: 7 Location: North Carolina
Posted: 09-30-03 09:18am
Being in the military doesn't mean they
tell you everything. I have to run a few
people down to get any information and
that's the process i'm in now. I feel
stupid because I feel I am in a rush to
solve my problems which just cause more
issues later. But i'm doing my part.
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I am a very
stressed and stessful person. I am 19
years old and married. I am in the
military which was a wrong choice for me.
I love my husband but he has a child from
a previous marriage ( she died from heart
and child birth problems) and he now we
take care of his mother. I have always
hated kids and thought I would get over it
because I love him so much. I thought I
would have been able to change. So my
undue stress comes from his daughter and
his mother who I hate and from the fact of
being in the military. There are some
others strings with these problems but
i'll give it to you short and sweet. My
big problem is my husband wants another
child and I don't mind giving him one but
as you can read I an stressed to much that
I think it has affected my body. Along
with the fact I hate kids, I think this
will help me to change my attitude towards
his child and all the other things I hate.
Help, what should I do?
