Problems..problems.. And More Problems... Posted: 07-19-04 14:18pm
Okay, well I am pregnant , depressed, and
confused. I have so many things to do and
so little time. My baby will be here in
feb. And I am in no way ready, accept for
the love that I feel.
Now jon all of the sudden is having
issues, and he's asking me why am I with
him, and saying that I could do so much
better than him. I have no idea why he
feels this way. I love him. And believe
it or not in my opinion ,all men should
try to model themselves after him a
little. He knows that know I am pregnant,
I feel disgusting, but no matter what he
always makes a point to tell me I am
beautiful. And what makes it so special
is that it is out of the blue. Like maybe
when were watching tv, he'll just look at
me and tell me how pretty I am. Don' e me
wrong we have our share of problems ,but I
know that he is loyal no matter what.
Yesterday, we were talking and he said
that he needed me the other day, and he
didn't call me b/c he felt like our
relationship wasn't on that level anymore.
And it is hard to here something like
that b/c we have been through hell, and
high water together. And for him to feel
that we don't have that type of
relationship anymore, just hurts.
And on tp of that he feels like, now that
we are having a baby, that I don't care
about or need him anymore.
What am I supposed to do?
I feel so sh*tty.
And I have to get all of my stuff ready
for school, and I know that I won't meet
the deadline which means I won't be going
to school this semester. Plus I want to
transfer next semester to another school
with a bsn program, b/c it is more
structured and I think a more structured
program is what I need esp. If it is
going to get me a higher degree in the
end. But how the hell is am I supposed,
to start school with a new baby. I mean
on Dr. Phil, the 15 year old that had a
baby was back at school in two weeks, but
I don't know if i'l be able to do it. At
first I was really excited about
tranfering but now I just don't know.
I am really depending on ya'll for this,
b/c since I am pregnant I really trust
ya'll more than my normal friends b/c
ya'll can really relate in some way. Okay
should I just not go to school this
semester. If I don't go, i'll be able to
work two full time jobs before the baby
comes, so i'll have more money saved up
for the baby and our apartment. But my
mom will be upset. But then again my life
will be much less hectic. If I do go i'll
only be able to have one job, which will
really mess me up (i'll explain). My mom
will be happy, but I will be worn out.
Okay now i'll explain why one job will
mess me up. I don't need a job for the
money really ,b/c jon gives me what I want
, bt to be able to fill out an application
for an apartment I need to have been
working for a certain amount of months
with a certain amount of income, and one
job won't cut it.
What should I do?
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lee25
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Dec 2003 Posts: 1018 Location: new york
Posted: 07-19-04 14:44pm
How far along are you? I found out in
december I was preggo.I was ending that
semester. Then I went for the sring
semester which for us starts the ending of
january and ended in may, then after that
I went to summer shcool that started june
4th and ended last week. You have to
take it a little at a time. I pushed
myself and kept my self busy, and believe
me school housework a 3 yr. Ole and a
husband to maintian was extremely hard.
But I did it! If you feel that you can
do it and you have your mind set on it, it
will happen. Think about this, how long
do you think your going to take off from
school once the baby is here. How long
do you plan to put your life on hold, your
pregnant not handicap. I will be 36
weeks on wed. And I will have my baby in
august, and go back to school in sept.
I'm not saying it's easy, life is not
meant to be easy but think about your
baby. You have to make something out of
yourself to help you throughout your life
to help you raise your baby. How do you
feel? Are you having morning sickness?
How do you feel about this baby? Are you
physically and mentally prepared for it?
You could figure this out only you, you
know your bodies limits, and only you know
how much you could take.
Brenda
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4922 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 07-19-04 14:44pm
Ok im gonna feel really bad but I cannot
remember how old you are. And if you live
with jon or not. Is this high school or
college? If its high school I say you try
to get independant study so you can work
and stuff before the baby comes, yet have
time to get keep your grades up. My
sister did it and she graduated with
honors. If you are in college, then put
off college for a bit and work then maybe
take classes after the baby is a bit
older. Take time to think about this
though and see which is more important to
you.
Ok about jon, any man during a pregnancy
can be affected as much as you can. With
you and the baby inside you he will feel a
bit neglected and his hormones will
change. Just keep reassuring him how much
you love him and stuff. He needs to hear
it often because he might feel all your
attention has gone to the baby. Make him
involved in this pregnancy and tell him
whats going on with the baby, so that way
hes included. His hormones will still be
crazy but he will feel better if you help
out too.
When you get a place will you be living
with jon? So then you can have 2 incomes
listed on the application?
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newlife
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jun 2004 Posts: 874
Posted: 07-19-04 15:05pm
Thanks for replying. First I am 17, and I
am in college. And I am 2 months (almost
3). I was having mornig sickness but now
that I am almost 3 months, it really has
gone away, and i've begun to develop
normal sleep patterns again. I love my
baby, and I am so happy that i'm pregnant.
I am really looking forward to giving
birth. Well of course I am not fully
physically prepared ,but I am getting
there, and I do think I am mentally
prepared, but it is overwhelming
sometimes. I know I can take working b/c
of the type of work i'll be doing. But
going to school and woking while I am
pregnant, looks kind of grim to me.
And nikki, if I were to take time off from
school it would only be this semser or
next semester. No more than that, b/c the
faster I can get my degree, the better
life my child will have ,so waiting for my
baby to turn maybe 2 or 3 is out of the
question.Ohh and no I don't live with jon.
Of course my baby is most important ,but
that is why I need to get my degree asap.
I say that b/c after I get my degree my
starting pay down here will be $60,000.
So that would be much better in my mind
than working making like $20,000 a year
for 2 or three years then going back to
school, and waiting for my salary to
increase.
I am really excited about transferring to
a bsn program, so i'll be doing that in
the spring no matter what. But I really
don't know if I should go through the
trouble of going to school this semester.
I just don't think that it'll be worth the
trouble.
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4922 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 07-20-04 12:50pm
Well if u want to get this done quick,
hold off on 2 jobs, just get 1, then take
off a semester or 2 but no longer than
that and keep up the good work. You can
do it, just dont be so down.
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newlife
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jun 2004 Posts: 874
Posted: 07-21-04 08:27am
Thanks nikki.
Okay this is my plan, I will take off this
semester (i am going to transfer anyway).
And i'll try to work a night shift in a
hospital 11p-7a, and if I can I get a part
time (like every other day) in a daycare
center. That should get my income high
enough. Next semester (spring 2005) I
will transfer, and when I have the baby
i'll put in an app for a leave of absence
from school (only about 3 weeks. But i'll
still take 6 weeks of from work. So after
my school loa is over I go back, but I
won't worry about work for another month.
I know it will be hard, but when I get my
degree, and get a real salary it'll all be
worth it. I am just scared about leaving,
the baby in daycare or something. I mean
if I work at a daycare, it'll be fine when
I am there, but when I work over night
she/he will have to be at the in home
daycare. I am just so scared.
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