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Huni, it's the new mother thing. You'll have to adjust to the changes that come along with having a kid. Don't give up on anything yet. It will get better and easier. Let me tell you a little secret, and it dosen't hurt the child. When you are at your wits end, you can't hear another cry for at least a minute. Lay him in his crib where he can't like choke or anything. Go out and shut the door. Let him cry for a minute or two. #1: crying is actully stregnthening his lungs so it's good for him #2: you have a minute to calm down, collect yourself again, and be ready toi care for him again.

Now, remember, he's still verrrrrrrrry newborn so I wouldn't reccomend that you leave him alone crying for more than a minute or so. But let him cry. Go where you are alone and calm down a bit. Go back in and try with him again. It'll be ok huni. It's new~
love,
chanda

Kari, kari, kari! Welcome to motherhood! Breastfeeding does hurt, alot, at first..You have to toughen up ur nipples~ they are gonna crack and scab up but I recommend lasinol boobie cream! Its expensive but its good!

About his crying and not sleeping in his crib- think about it from his perspective: he is used to a warm dark wet place where he is surrounded by his mommy where he feels comfortable and safe. All of a sudden he goes through 13 hours of being pushed and squeezed out of a tiny opening into a very cold room with lots of weird creatures he's never seen before poking and prodding him and passing him around. He's cold and dry and now has to wear clothes and diapers and he's got this brand new sense called sight that he's trying to make sense of. He's probably scared as sh|t! I'd cry too, and I definitely wouldn't feel comfortable enough to sleep for a while!

Yea I agree with the girls it's new and you have to adjust to the new changes but within time it will get better. It's your first baby anyways and don't give up on anything.

Hang in there girl! My only advice (even though I have no clue what its like) is to try your best to sleep when he sleeps! Especially for these first few weeks! Things will get better, and he will get more into a routine within a couple of weeks! And remember...When it gets overwhelming like that ask for help! I know you have a great supportive family that will be there for ya! Good luck hun!
Lauren

I agree with erin. And jordan you made me so scared, I didn't know that they got scabs, ugh.

Thanks so much girls! Im still kickin along.. It kills to feed him but I can tell their gettin tougher.. My boobs are getting so big and they kill! Even after I feed him their still full (milk started coming in today) im going to get a pump to pump some too so others can feed him if I need a nap. Anyhow I love him soooo much so I wont give up, but its definitly more then a handful!

Yea breast feeding is tuff but hand in there! A good way that I got alexa to go to sleep after nursing is laying down with her turned toward me.She would always go right back to sleep at night.But if he dont sleep in the same bed as you then you might not can do that.Alexa sleeps with me!
Good luck and hang in there!
Krista

Am I the only one who had easy and painless breastfeeding? The only pain I ever had was the dull ache for a minute when let-down occured. Lol. Oh well I guess i'm lucky. Kari hun, I know how you feel. Sometimes josh refuses to sleep and I just wanna scream!!! Lol. Something I know helps, try not to hold him while he's sleeping. I know during that first week I just could not let go of him for a second. And I brought him into bed with me a lot. My advice: rock him to sleep. Then put him down. Dont hold him any longer than necessary. Swaddle him if you arent already doing so. And rub his belly for a minute after you put him down. Putting him in his crib should be a gradual process that takes about 3 minutes! Lol. Seems like a waste of time but I swear it works! Also, try not to put them in their swing too much. I did that and I paid for it! Lol. Fortunately its not so bad now but dont make that mistake! Hope this helps!

This one girl I know, her baby wouldnt sleep good, so she had her blanky and wrapped her tight like a worm and she slept perfect. I think its because the baby is used to being squished in the belly so in doing that it helps. I dont know maybe try that

Yeah its the same reason why shushing them calms them. They are used to all the noise inside your body.

Oh yeah, I wanted to metion that a couple of weeks ago I was watching discovery health, and a story was on about crying babies. The man said to swaddle the baby, (like they do in the hospital), then to lay them on their side, and that should quiet them down, but if it doesn't all you have to do is say shhhhhhhhhh in their ear (while you are still holding them on their side on your lap). He said to make sure that you are louder than or at least as loud as the baby, cuz if not they won't even pay attention. He said that the shhhh sound works b/c ,while they are in the womb that is all they hear with blood flowing and everything, it gives them a sense of home. I think its kind of cute.

Ohh I just noticed that there are simialar (sp) posts. Ohh well.

Keep your head up sweety, nursing is hard for the first couple weeks, your nipples are toughing up and getting used to it.. After the 4 weeks nursing should be a breeze and it becomes really enjoyable and a wonderful time to bond with baby.

Also.. The sleep thing... Always sleep when they sleep... Showers and cleaning can wait... Sleep you need it!