Oommgg--added Convo-no More Worries Posted: 07-20-04 14:13pm
Okay im sittin here on yahoo, right?--i
get an im from someone and he says hi, im
like hey, who is this?
Guess who it is?
Chris! My babys daddy~!, im sooo
frustrated right now---
he said he was taking me to court in like
august or something for joint custody..
Do yall think he can get it? I mean hes
an ex-felon.
Im sooo stressed!
My moms pissed~zanes pissed~
stupid yahoo member search! Argh
sorry needed to vent...
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4921 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 07-20-04 14:18pm
I already told you not to stress about
this. There is no way he can get joint
custody. He doesnt know where you live,
what your number is. Hes not listed on
the birth certificate. Hes not giving you
any money nor has he made an effort to see
the baby. Hes a felon for attempted you
know what. He already has another son he
doesnt take care of. Now you tell me
looking at this list, what judge is gonna
see good in him and let him have joint
custody? The only thing he can possibly
get is supervised visitation. But only
according to your schedule and with the
supervised visitation, he must pay child
support. So why would he even try to do
all that? Hes looking at alot of court
dates before he can even have a peek at
jaydyn. Just dont stress. Hes only try
to make things hard for you, when actually
its gonna get hard for him.
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 07-20-04 14:35pm
No honey, don't worry about it at all.
If anything he will get like partial
custody (like every other weekend or some
crap) but you can request that he gets
supervised visitation. If he is a felon
then I don't think they would have any
problem with that.
But, there is no way he will get joint
custody. You would have to be on the
virge of unfit or something which I am
sure you are not. Try not to stress
about it. I know it is a very scary
thought, but just keep in mind that you
are a great mother and no court is going
to take away your baby to give to a felon.
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lilmama2b_oct04
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Mar 2004 Posts: 1970 Location: Wisconsin
Posted: 07-20-04 14:46pm
How old is he? How old were you when you
first got pregnant? If you have to you
might be able to have your mom get him for
having sex with you under the age of 18...
But I dunno, it all depends on alot of
things I guess... But he is a felon! I
really dont think they are going to give
him joint custody... My dad used to have
partial custody, but then he gave all
custody to my mom. I dont know if he had
to or what... But he is a severe
alcohalic and spent most of my life in
jail... He can ask for visitation
rights, and like the others said, you can
ask for supervised because of his record
and you dont feel he could properly care
for your child... But now you can get him
for child support! My that @$$ pay!
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newlife
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jun 2004 Posts: 874
Posted: 07-20-04 15:10pm
Nikki is right jordan. I mean even if by
some miracle he does get you in to court,
just remember to stay calm. The judge
will ask you or your lawyer why you don't
want joint custody, and then you break out
the big guns. Basically everthing nikki
listed. He is an ex-con #1, and by the
"attemted you know what " that nikki said,
well let's just say I get it. If he
already has another child that he is not
taking care of be sure to mention that.
And that he has made no effort to see
jaydyn.
And believe me no judge in his/her right
mind would grant someone joint custody
after hearing something like that. And
if this does go down, when the judge
denies the motion for joint custody, be
sure to tell your lawyer that you want to
file for child support, and the court will
have all of his info.
So if ya'll take a step back ,and look at
this ya'll will see that there is no
reason to worry at all.
Ohh and if he contacts you again online,
be sure to print it out.
Jordan,
stay calm. There is no way he'll be
awarded anything! Girl, save everything!
And I mean .E.V.E.R.Y.T.H.I.N.G. He
sends! Print it out every time. You'll
need all that to back up. But he's a
felon (never an ex). He is a felon and
he'll never get her. Trust in god to keep
her where she belongs!
Love,
chanda
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sparklypixie12
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Sep 2003 Posts: 3099
Posted: 07-20-04 16:58pm
Cheeky caca! How dare he! No way they
wont let him see her-with his record I
dont think so at all.No one in their right
mind would let him have joint custody.Dont
worry huni-things will be fine &
jaydyn will be better off with zane in her
life then chris.He doesnt deserve to his
her
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KissyBai912
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Aug 2003 Posts: 1762 Location: Venice, Florida
Posted: 07-20-04 18:05pm
Everyone here is right jordan. Gimme his
sn ill give him the verbal beating from
hell. Lol. Its ok we all know he is not
going to get custody hun.
Definatly don't worry. If he is not a
current active part in the babies life..
No way.
Also if his name isn't on the birth
certificate another problem, he has to
prove the baby is his by a dna test which
he will probably have to pay for and those
are not cheap.
There are many reasons I wouldn't worry!
Don't let him get to you, he's probably
just trying to get your panties in a wad!
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*j@ydynsmama*
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Jul 2004 Posts: 129
Posted: 07-21-04 08:04am
*****this was late last nite in a
offline*****
*chris* hey I just got your off line
messages ,,,,anyways we are going to court
I talk to my lawyers already so now I
guess you will get child support but I get
my visitation
*****this was the morninn in an
offline*****
*chris* hey jordan ,, I thought about
things all night and I guess I will leave
you alone and stay out of your
life,,,,,,,but when our daughter gets
older and finds out I did wanna see her
you will be the bad person in the end
,,,,,,,,,,,,,
*jordan* if she wants to see u when she
gets older thats her choice not mine, but
thats a decision I want her to make not b
forced to. Thanks
so no more worries :d
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insurancegirl
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Sep 2003 Posts: 5286
Posted: 07-21-04 08:32am
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*j@ydynsmama*
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Jul 2004 Posts: 129
Posted: 07-21-04 09:12am
Yea plus he aint got no money
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linuxChique
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 May 2004 Posts: 4535
Posted: 07-21-04 09:31am
Haha! He just said he'd rather not see
her than have to pay, and he thinks you're
going to be the bad guy? What a health
question!
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*j@ydynsmama*
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Jul 2004 Posts: 129
Posted: 07-21-04 09:37am
Yea--hes a butt----he doesnt care...Iasked
him to just sign ova his rights but he
said no
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linuxChique
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 May 2004 Posts: 4535
Posted: 07-21-04 09:41am
Tell him if he doesn't you're going to
take him to court to pay child support.
Obviously not paying right now is more
important to him than seeing her. He'll
probably give in rather than pay. Make
sure he knows that if he comes under
judgement to pay and doesn't, then he goes
to jail. You can even put something in
the contract saying that if he signs over
his rights he doesnt' have to pay. Maybe
that'll make him more likely to sign.