Joined: 31 May 2004 Posts: 852 Location: grand blanc michigan
Is This Normal?? Pls Help~ Posted: 07-20-04 19:44pm
Ok im so frustrated I cant stand it.. I
love garret so much.. But I feel so
weird! I feel like all I am is his
feeding machine..I live with my family
still so they always want to hold him..
And when they hold him I try to get other
things done like get ready, get on here,
eat and whatever else.. But then I feel
like im a bad mom.. And that I only hold
him to feed him .. Then everyone else
does. .And I feel like I miss alot of
his awake moments... I just feel bad all
around.. My mom says im getting the baby
blues and need to nap while they hold him
so that I dont get them as bad (but once
again I then feel like im only with him
during feedings).... Who knows....I need
to go take a hot shower tho to hopefully
get rid of some of this painful milk!
Sorry to vent everyone , its just
different then I expected even tho its
only the 3rd day. Thanks for your help!
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babyrae
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jan 2004 Posts: 2957 Location: Manitoba, Canada
Posted: 07-20-04 20:03pm
Oh kari hun! U know u can vent anytime on
here when u like! We dont mind as for baby, it
does sound like u have the baby blues.
Remember how jordan got em after she had
jaydyn? It's tiring at first and of
course everyone wants to hold him, but u
know the one person he loves bein held by
is u and thats cuz he knows ur body, u do
feed him yes and its from u that he gets
all his good nutrients and dont forget,
breastfeeding strikes bonding he's still a little
newborn so it'll take a few weeks to get
adapted.
Also, dont feel bad when everyone else
holds him. Its very good time for u to
rest and catch up on things. U are not a
bad mother for that!!!! U devote yourself
to ur baby but u also need some "me" time
to yourself! Just rest and relax and when
ur with him, think of all the good things
that come of it. Also by having ur family
around him, ur getting him comfortable to
his surroundings which will help make it
easier for him to get into comfortable
sleeping patterns and eating patterns.
Enjoy being a mother and take some time to
urself without feeling bad!!!!! Ur a
great mother kari and ur a very strong
woman. We, on ehealth, are all very very
proud of u!!!
Shauna
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tweety12986
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Jun 2004 Posts: 772 Location: houston
Posted: 07-20-04 20:10pm
Oh poor baby, it will be ok remember you
are new to this and I think you are
reacting like any other new mom would be.
Maybe its just post partum but you will
make it and when you get used to a certain
routine with garret it will be easy as
pie, and you will be feeding him, making
posts here, and eating a sandwich all at
once. Good luck
meagan
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lauren22
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Jun 2004 Posts: 647 Location: Alabama
Posted: 07-20-04 20:17pm
Hey kari! I'm sure its overwhelming...So
much to take in all at one time! You've
just had a major change in your life so
its going to take time to adjust! Just
remember...You do need to do some things
for yourself! You've got to stay healthy
yourself...Physically and mentally. Just
think of the times you get to yourself as
times to recharge yourself so that you can
take care of garret better! You are so
lucky to have a family to help you out, so
take advantage of those opportunities to
get some quality "alone" time! You are
doing a great job and i'm so proud of you!
Hang in there girl...Its gonna get better
each day! We're here to listen to you
vent anytime you need us, because we all
know a getting it all out and having a
good cry every now and then is good
medicine!
lots of love and prayers!
Lauren
Awe. Kari. You aren't doing anything
wrong. Let them hold him and you relax.
You are having to adjust a lot and it's ok
to need a break every once in a while.
Feeding him is the most important thing
anyway! You have a bond with him like no
one else! You are just expierencing the
changes of becomeing a mother. It's
alright. Jordan had this too and she was
ok! You'll be fine!
Love you,
chanda
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*j@ydynsmama*
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Jul 2004 Posts: 129
Posted: 07-20-04 21:12pm
Yea I had them and they went
away....Rest!!!!!! Dont clean!!!
As for showering to gid rid of painful
milk, no no no! It stimulates teh nipples
and produces even more!!!!
I hated breastfeeding! I told u it was
gonna b hard
Aww hun, keep your head up... Maybe take
baby for a walk... Get out away from
everyone.. And your mom is right, get
some rest.. Baby blues happen to pretty
much every single new mom and you just
feel helpless and like you are on the back
burner... Definatly get sleep and pamper
yourself as much as you can!
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gypy04
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Mar 2004 Posts: 398 Location: florida
Posted: 07-21-04 02:19am
Congrats on having your baby!!! Wow I
have been gone for a long time!! How are
you feeling??
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Mesmerizeu15
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Aug 2003 Posts: 2729 Location: Pittsburgh,PA
Posted: 07-21-04 06:38am
First off congrats on having little
garrett. I think that everything you are
feeling is completely normal. You think
that you will in some way always be
lacking because that is the life that the
world exspects us to live. "the whole bad
mother because we're teens bit", and you
want to be better than that. We all do
and most of us are(meaning in the world,
not praticularly here on the forum).I am
sorry that you are feeling this way, but
how else would you get things dcone, you
cant constintly have garrett on your hip,
how would you make beds, wash clothes,
etc. You need some help. Now if your
situation was idle than your babys daddy
would be there for those times, but he is
not. So you are having to play the role
for two people, you are going to need
someone. I have my family helping me all
the time, if I have tons of stuff to do,
and I feel overwhelmed now that I am
working, I ask my grandma for some help.
That doesnt make me a bad mom, that
actually makes me a better mom, because
then I am not stressed, and dont have to
worry about taking my anger out by
possibly yelling.(that is what some moms
do when they are stressed, I have not
reached that point though, thanks to all
the help.) the moral of this is to let you
know that it is ok to reach out to your
family, each day you reach out to us for
emotional and it is ok to reach out to
them for other things, they understand..
Love, stacie larry and our not so little
seany
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KariM1804
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 May 2004 Posts: 852 Location: grand blanc michigan
Posted: 07-21-04 06:54am
Thanks so much girls! Everything youve
said makes sence and makes me feel alot
better!! Last nite was a better nite, he
slept for once, only on me tho and I slept
too sitting up (i know its not the best
but its only what works yet)i decided to
use the bassinet instead of crib right now
because he wont be set in the crib for a
second without bawling...So were going to
try to make a smooth transition and when
he falls asleep, put him in his bassinet
so hopefully he will be sleeping his nites
in there soon and not on me so I can sleep
laying down like a normal human being lol.
Breastfeeding is hard.. But im going to
tuff it out as long as I can (hopefully
the 4 weeks) and im getting a pump today.
Thanks for letting me know that jordan
about the shower!! It did release some
but the last thing I need is even more
milk or my boobs will explode! Lol.
Anyhow im going to go take a shower while
my mom holds him and eat etc without
feeling bad! I got a lot of bonding time
with him today hes going shopping
with us today so hopefully that goes well.
I will post more pics later or tomorrow
hopefully!
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Mesmerizeu15
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Aug 2003 Posts: 2729 Location: Pittsburgh,PA
Posted: 07-21-04 07:23am
Glad to hear that last night was a better
night, I bet he will sleep while you shop,
unike sean, uhh uhh, I want I
want...Haha!! keep your chin up!
as for baby, it
does sound like u have the baby blues.
Remember how jordan got em after she had
jaydyn? It's tiring at first and of
course everyone wants to hold him, but u
know the one person he loves bein held by
is u and thats cuz he knows ur body, u do
feed him yes and its from u that he gets
all his good nutrients and dont forget,
breastfeeding strikes bonding 
