Ohh lil', i'm sorry it sounds as though you are in a sticky situation. I hope your man can come to terms with the fact you are both having this child because it's a little too late. So for your sake and the child I hope he can except it. As for the cramps, it sounds from what you are saying that these cramps are becoming very painful, and I don't think that is normal, you could possibly expect mild cramping during early pregnancy but severe cramps spell trouble to me, especially if you are spotting at the same time. Keep an eye on the spotting, if at all it becomes heavier and the blood turns red or starts to come out in clots, you will need to get straight to your doctor or the hospital as that is a sign of miscarriage.

Take care lil'.....

.::suzy::.

Its very normal to have cramps. But how old is this guy? Your only 7 weeks pregnant? And is he divorced? Well it sounds like you are in a very not good situation...Hmmm. You need to have a serioous talk with this guy. This is not a time for him to be confused on you. Is he serious about marriage or is this something he said to make you feel good. How does your mom feel? Does she know? Does she like him? How is he with his other kid? Sometimes what you see in the past and present is what you get in the future, so please be careful. And talk with him let us know how it goes.

You know what darling, I think the most important thing to do right now is focus on you and that baby. Of course it will be painful if your man doesn't want to have anything to do with you or the baby but once either way you can do this with or without him. That baby is totally dependant on you, and will be for the next 18 years so for the moment forget about the guy and just focus on giving birth to a healthy baby.

I am so sorry that you are having these struggles. Darling is right, you need to focus on you and that little one. You guys are the most important. I have a friend that after she found out that she was pregnant her boyfriend freaked on her and they did not speak and even broke up. Eventually he realized that she and that baby was the most important thing that ever happened to him. They got married and the baby is almost 1 month now. It could happen to you, but if it doesn't then don't worry you have a very special gift. It will be hard but you can do it. As for the cramping, go see your doctor. It is important that you know that you and that baby is in good health

take care
aswords

I talked to derek (the father....He is 21...Yes he is divorced...He is very good to the children he has now, and my parents love him to death and are fine with me being pregnant.) he apologized emensly for being so small minded and acting like he did in regards to his new "addition". He has agreed to try to be nicer about it and told me he loves me more then anything he has ever known. We are still getting married in august of next year probably in reno. He told me he is really excited for this baby and is glad he has something like this to share with me. He thanks you all for giving me the courage to talk to him about it...He said he didnt know something was wrong...(how could he not!!! Lol) and anyways about the cramping it has eased up quite I bit in the past couple of days and there is no spotting so I should be fine. I have no insurance and havent been to the doctor yet so I cant find out if anything is wrong just yet. But as soon as I find out I will let you know. Thnx muches!!!