My Girlfriend Came Up Positive. Posted: 07-21-04 16:18pm
Today, my girlfriend came up positive on a
pregnancy test. There's no proof that
it' mine, but theres a 90% chance that it
is.
The woman at 'family planning' estimates
that the baby was conceived eight weeks
ago, but my girlfriend and I have only
been having sex for three weeks. Is
there a possibility that the estimation is
wrong?
Either way, I intent to treat the child as
my own. I know, also, that this is the
least of my worries right now. But, for
the moment, this is one question that has
been erking my mind for the past few
hours. Any advice
--wyatt
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linuxChique
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 May 2004 Posts: 4535
Posted: 07-21-04 16:24pm
Unless she did an ultrasound, yes, its
very possible that she is off.
Especially if your girlfriend has an
irregular period or something like that.
Your girlfriend should be able to guess
pretty close by the dates of her last
period. If she has a normal 28 day
cycle, conception should have occured
about 2 weeks after her last cycle. If
she is irregular, there is no telling.
When she has her first ultrasound, they
will be able to measure the baby on the
screen and come up with a very accurate
age of the fetus, telling you exactly how
far along she is. The earlier in the
pregnancy, the more accurate this
measuring method is. So chances are they
will be able to tell you exactly when it
was conceived at her first appointment.
Well that's a...
That's good to know. Ah, I hope you
don't mind if I bring up annother
question.
Due to many variables in my life:
we're both only 20. I still haven't had
a chance to move out of my mother's attic.
The only health insurance I have is from
my father's military insurance. And
we're both inbetween jobs.
My mother is suggesting addoption. I
don't really like the idea, but what other
options do we have? Abortion is out of
the question.
I support choice, but I don't think we're
under the right circumstances to do
something so drastic. Besides, I want
the baby.
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Ansleyt2004
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Dec 2003 Posts: 355 Location: MS
Posted: 07-21-04 16:57pm
Well it could definitely be off .... With
me when I went to the doctor when I found
out I was preg. She calculated me by my
lmp which I was irregular and she
calculated me to be 13 weeks and 3 days
.... Three weeks later I went to the
doctor and they did an ultrasound and I
was only 6 weeks and 1 day so when I found
out and she told me I was 13 weeks I was
really only 3 so they were 10 weeks off
for me but that is bc of my irregular
period I didnt have one for three months
and they just went by the day that I last
had my period.... But ull just have to
wait til she has an ultrasound and see how
far along she says she is by that good
luck hope everything turns out the way u
want it.
Thanks. That makes me feel good. It
makes ashleigh (that's her name) feel
better too. Still, i'm scared as hell.
well, not scared that the baby isn't mine,
but scared of what i'm going to do about
actually having one. I think my mother
is going out of her mind. I haven't told
my father. Her mother is incredibly
excited and i'm just sitting in the middle
worried about how I can afford this new
gift.
Last edited by Chouchan on 07-21-04 17:12pm; edited 1 time in total
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Ansleyt2004
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Dec 2003 Posts: 355 Location: MS
Posted: 07-21-04 17:11pm
She could get on medicaid. That is what
im on and it covers me thru my whole
pregnancy and the baby afterwards til she
is 18
No, but I do have an e-mail address that I
check often.
I have to pick ashleigh up in a few
minutes right now anyway, so I have to
dissapear for a little bit. The e-mail
is chouc
han@kornfreak.Com if you could
possibly keep in touch. Thanks a
million!
--wyatt
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Ansleyt2004
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Dec 2003 Posts: 355 Location: MS
Posted: 07-21-04 17:23pm
Sure thing ill email ya sum info about it
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lauren22
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Jun 2004 Posts: 647 Location: Alabama
Posted: 07-21-04 19:09pm
Just wanted to say welcome! Sounds like
you and your girlfriend are getting the
info you want! Let us know if there is
anything else we can help with and
encourage your girlfriend to post also!
Good luck with everything!
Lauren
Before I go to bed, I just want to thank
everyone for their support and
information.
I'll have a lot more questions before this
is over. I just hope that i'll still be
able to have internet access when its all
said and done. chances are i'll
have to ask my father for help and move
out on my own.
Ashleigh lives in a house for girls and
isn't allowed to stay in the home if she
is pregnant. Now, to make the situation
harder, my kid brother doesn't approve of
my girlfriend. He, being 16, still lives
in the house as well and isn't too keen on
ash moving into the house. So, my mother
is torn and doesn't want to have ash move
in if my brother wont like it. Ugh, is
this normal?
Oh well, I need sleep... I have to call
my father in jersey and break the news.
My mother, the lutheran minister, took it
well. I just hope my father, the lt.
Colonel, will take it just as well. Who
knows, maybe he'll be proud of me.
Thankyou, everyone, for listening.
--wyatt
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MegEve
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Nov 2003 Posts: 353 Location: Alabama
Posted: 07-22-04 07:39am
Hey wyatt, you sound like a really good
guy, and I hope everything goes well with
your father. Also, I hope you and
ashleigh are able to have a happy life.
You just stay supportive of her and keep
her spirits up. And you are more than
welcome to ask any questions here. We
are all good listeners and give good,
honest advice.
Love,
megan
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lilmama2b_oct04
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Mar 2004 Posts: 1970 Location: Wisconsin
Posted: 07-22-04 07:55am
When I first found out I was pregnant,
according to my last period, when I went
to the doctor I would have been around 13
weeks, the doctor did some external and
internal palpation (he pressed on my tummy
and felt around and stuff) and he told me
I only "felt" like I was only 6 weeks...
That would have made my due date jump from
august 28th to october 12th, which is a
big dif! But then when I went to my
second appt they gave me an ultrasound and
told me my due date was september 18th,
and its been that ever since. So they can
be very off, and with the ultrasound, it
will make it much more accurate, but can
still be around 2 weeks off.
Well, everyone, I come with good news.
First off, my father wasn't able to
throttle me through the phone. Infact,
he laughed and ended up welcoming ashleigh
to the family. I think my mother is
pissed, deep down inside, though. Ah
well.
Annother great moment in today is that ash
and I found the greatest place in the
world for unexpected pregnancies. Tender
care. Has anyone ever heard of it?
Oh! If I can get a job within the next
day or two, I mignt actually qualify for
this low income housing apartment complex
where they only charge a percentage of
anual income. Phew.
Tension is heavy in the air. I feel like
someone is going to bash me with a lead
pipe if I stray even the slightest bit off
the line. What or where that line is, I
have no idea, but aparently its there.
I know, I know, annother stressed
expecting father
, but eh, I
can't help it
.
Thanks though. :p
--wyatt
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MegEve
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Nov 2003 Posts: 353 Location: Alabama
Posted: 07-22-04 21:33pm
Congrats on the good news! Are you and
ashleigh planning on staying together?
Is this tender care close by to where
ya'll live? I hope everything works out
for you!!
Congrats! Ashleigh sounds like a lucky
girl... If you are curious about getting
on medicaid I would suggest calling your
local hospital or going by the local
health department, they can get your
girlfriend all set up!
best of luck with the apartment, and
remember, your mom may be upset now.. But
you just wait until she sees that baby...
Her life is going to be flipped upside
down and your son/daughter will be number
one on her list.
My mom wanted me to give my first child up
for adoption and now... Well lets just
say she loves him more than me! Lol so
better start realizing your going to be
second best once babies here!
Actually this tender care place is very
close. Its all free too. Ash and I
walked in and the woman who runs the place
sat us down immediately ( without an
appointment) and she started calling all
of the places we could stay.
Unfortunately all but one of the places
she called were out of room. That's
where we found this apartment. But
anyway, the way this tender care works is-
ash and I swing by once a week, take a few
lessons, watch videos, read books, etc.
And we gain points. When we get enough
points, we can trade them in for a free
crib or free clothes or diapers or
changing tables. I'm so psyched. I
don't know how ash feels about the baby
though. Sometimes I think i'm more
excited than she is.
About my mother. She, herself, was
adopted and so she thinks the world of the
adoption idea, saying that its not as bad
as we think. Well, pshaw on that idea.
Phew, its just gonna suck when I move out.
No more cable internet any time I want,
no more cable tv, no more food at
convenience.
I'm scared. I really am. Not about
moving out. Not about having a baby.
But for ash. Is she happy about this?
She's the one who begged me to uh, not use
protection. (not to say protection works
all the time..Heh i'm here, thats proof
enough) but now I don't think she's as
happy about it as she thought she would.
I look through magazines and books about
pregnant women and even though I know, for
the sake of photography, the radient
excitement that screams on their faces are
fake. Idunno.
Tell me something.. Are my
ever-so-currious and paranoid ..Feelings
normal? Am I just overreacting? Or am I
just a weirdo?
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bellax0x
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Jun 2004 Posts: 3572 Location: Jersey Baby!
Posted: 07-23-04 07:00am
Welcome wyatt! Ash is lucky to have such
a great boyfriend! That tender care place
sounds amazing!! You could get a lot of
good stuff! Where is t? Ive never heard
of it. =/. Im happy youre excited, and
im sure ash will be too!
<3
gaby
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lilmama2b_oct04
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Mar 2004 Posts: 1970 Location: Wisconsin
Posted: 07-23-04 07:15am
Hey wyatt, you sound like a really great
guy, ash is lucky to have you. Dont
worry, if shes not that excited right now,
its probably because shes got alot on her
mind, and her hormones are getting ready
to just start going crazy... Trust me,
pregnancy isnt as easy as you think.
but when she starts feeling that baby
moving, and once everything starts coming
together, shes is more than likely gonna
be beyond excited, I mean so excited I
cant even think of a word for it lol...
Shes got just as much on her mind as you
do, if not more. Just be patient with
her, and be very supportive. Everything
will come together in time.
chances are i'll
have to ask my father for help and move
out on my own.
, but eh, 
I
can't help it 
.
