Hey folks, I just found this forum, and it
looks like a godsend. Its my first post
but I hope to make many more!
I'm 24, 5"8 140 pounds, so i'm a little
thin but lots of muscle. I'm fairly
healthy, and the doc says I dont have
diabetes (my dad is diabetic).
I smoke, drink very occasionally, love
coffee (drink a lot of coffee).
The last 3-4 years I have had intermittent
(sp?) problems with getting an erection.
Sometimes it happens, and when it does its
good for 5-6 days. Then sometimes,
nothing. I'll give you an example of the
last few days to give you an idea.
My gf and I had sex 4-5 days in a row. It
was great, I made her cum, timed it with
my orgasm, was great. No problems getting
an erection. Then last night, I got a
little excited, and came before she did.
It killed the mood, I felt like I let her
down, went to bed. Ok, no problem, but
the next day, I was hooped. Could not get
it up in the afternoon, nor the evening.
When we are laying there and making out,
it goes up, nice and hard. Then I think
about it and think about it staying up,
(like when i'm taking off my pants or
finger banging her) and it goes down.
Then it will not come up at all. I'll go
down on her to make her cum (and hope that
it will get erect) but it doesn't. Do you
think i'm thinking about it too much?
I'm not really worried about my
performance, just getting it up. When I
first told her of my problem, she was
totally understanding, and I got hard 5
mins within telling her and we had great
sex. Its very strange.
Also, I am pretty stressed out with my
room mates. Like they are driving me
nuts, plus I just changed jobs so money
was a little tight. Sometimes I feel like
i'm not giving her what she wants, needs
or deseverves. Could this be affecting my
erections? I am moving into a new house
in 2 months (my own house thank god) and
do you think this may help?
Thank you so much for reading my
ramblings, and I look forward to your
responses.
-darren s
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the one
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jun 2004 Posts: 139 Location: Miami Beach
Posted: 07-23-04 23:36pm
You basically answered your own question
in your post. You seem to be too worried
about it, and when you feel she's okay
with it, you're fine. I think you're
worried about what's she's thinking about
you when you can't please her, and this
makes you nervous. Atleast this seems
physchological and not physical, so you
just have to try to control it yourself
instead of going on meds which might
sprout new problems.
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PattyV
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 May 2004 Posts: 1103 Location: Chicago area
Posted: 07-24-04 08:31am
The one did a great job answering you
questions.Yes,i would agree you are too
stressed .Maybe you and your girl could go
to a hotel or go camping,away from you
roomates.Sometimes a change of scenery can
make all the difference.Try not to think
too much about if you will or won't be
hard.Just start out nice and easy and
whatever happens,happens.It sounds like
you are not leaving your girl "high and
dry" if you do not stay erect .Very good move on
your part.If this is an intermittent
thing,don't be too worried.If your doctor
says you are fine and nothing is
physically wrong,then try to relax.Stress
can really put a damper on things.Best of
luck to you!Patty
.Very good move on
your part.If this is an intermittent
thing,don't be too worried.If your doctor
says you are fine and nothing is
physically wrong,then try to relax.Stress
can really put a damper on things.Best of
luck to you!Patty