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KariM1804
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 May 2004
Posts: 852
Location: grand blanc michigan
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Well I Gave Up On It
Posted: 07-22-04 07:28am
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I wouldnt exactly call it giving up I
guess.. But kinda.. Anyhow, I am
quitting breastfeeding.. Yeah, kinda soon
I know.. But its so painful and stresses
me out sooo much and when he wont eat I
feel like its my fault or something...Im a
little scared because I kinda felt like it
was our bonding time that he couldnt share
with anyone else??? So im worried.. But
at the same time, I fed him his first
bottle today (a little breast milk, but
mostly formula)and it felt so good because
I got to see how much he actually was
drinking and I knew he got enough, and
also he looked so happy and full
afterwards. Im afraid I wasnt getting
enough milk because I tried pumping again
and didnt even get a full 1oz in a half
hour! Anyhow, just thought id update.
Idont know if I should be happy or sad
that I quit.. Lol.. Im going to tell
ryan tho that im still doing it for the
next 3 weeks so I dont have to let him
take him yet  im so worried to
let ryan take him ever, I dont want him
to!
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lilmama2b_oct04
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Joined: 01 Mar 2004
Posts: 1970
Location: Wisconsin
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Posted: 07-22-04 07:42am
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It was your bonding time, that nobody else
could share... But you tried, and
breastfeeding just doesnt work with some
people. Dont wory about it, its not gonna
make you two less close to each other,
your his mommy and he will always love you
the same, wether or not you breastfeed
him. I wouldnt like letting ryan take
him either, does he even know how to care
for a newborn? Fathers dont have the same
natural instincts as mothers do. I would
want to wait a couple weeks and "monitor"
him on how he reacts with garret, and how
good of a job he does on caring for him...
I would never be able to let some jerk
like that just come and take my baby and
then me not even know how well hes gonna
be taken care of. How has ryan been
acting lately, since garret was born, and
he knows garret is his kid?
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MegEve
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Nov 2003
Posts: 353
Location: Alabama
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Posted: 07-22-04 07:47am
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Awww, I am sorry, but I know you gave it
your best. And don't worry about bonding
because he knows that you are his mommy.
You have bonded the most already by giving
birth. He already loves you with all his
heart, just like you love him. And as
for the father seeing him, why doesn't he
just come by the house a few times before
he actually takes him out of the house.
Especially if you aren't even taking him
plaes yet, you knmow what I mean? But in
the end, you are his mother, and he hasn't
even been there for you, so you have the
last word. I hope everything goes well
for you!!
Love,
megan
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KariM1804
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 May 2004
Posts: 852
Location: grand blanc michigan
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Posted: 07-22-04 09:39am
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Thanks girls! Ryan has been better. He
got his paternity test and we are waiting
for the results to come back sometime next
week. He must think garret is his though
because hes called every day to see how
hes doing and hes been coming over (every
other day, but 2 times each day he came)
and he said he was coming over today too.
Im not going to tell him I quit
breastfeeding.. I told him im doing it
for a month and that while I am , he cant
take him out of my house. He was ok with
that. One good thing is that he wont
bring him to his house unless his family
is home because he cant in case he has a
seizure (he has had seizures in the past
from head injuries from hockey and cant be
alone with the baby or drive for 3-4 more
months) he knows nothing about caring for
a baby.. But at least his family will be
there. But I dont want garret to go
with ryan ever . . And I dont
want garret around his crazy as$
girlfriend......... This is going to be
so hard.
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lilmama2b_oct04
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Joined: 01 Mar 2004
Posts: 1970
Location: Wisconsin
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Posted: 07-22-04 10:30am
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Maybe if you talk to him he will
understand about how you feel about his
girlfriend... You never know, he could
think she is crazy too lol....But more
than likely, she will be jealous, and will
talk caca, and maybe he will grow up and
realize how immature she is. But he will
love his son to death (you can tell he
already does, in that pic you posted of
him) and she wont like it, so it might
tear them two apart. Just explain to him
how you feel, he may just understand.
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smith8500
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Sep 2003
Posts: 6623
Location: Louisiana
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Hey
Posted: 07-22-04 10:57am
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Kari,
huni it would be your call. But I would
not let ryan take him. I'm sorry but that
is just me. Ryan who did nothing for me
and decided now that the reward is here he
wants to be a daddy. Hell no. He could
come visit, his family could come. I
could go to their house, but alone? My
child would never, never, never go alone.
At least not for the first year. As for
brestfeeding, you tried and it didn't
work. Sometimes it just dosen't work for
people. You did your best. It won't
affect your relationship at all with
garret, you are mommy and he loves you~
love,
chanda
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Wings are blue
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Oct 2003
Posts: 435
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Posted: 07-22-04 11:19am
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I had to quit breastfeeding too. It made
me kinda sad but then again I was kinda
happy because then I knew that she was
getting enough and she took to the bottle
better. It let other people help me too
and give me a break! He's so tiny maybe
the bottle is better so you'll know he's
eating enough.
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KissyBai912
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Aug 2003
Posts: 1762
Location: Venice, Florida
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Posted: 07-22-04 13:13pm
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Girl dont even worry about breastfeeding.
You gave it your best shot and it didnt
work out. That's ok. As for letting ryan
take garret, I would tell him to kiss my
ass. I would never let dewitt take josh
any where alone. Nope. No way.
Especially not his house. His family is
crazy! Lol. But I think you should tell
him straight up, you can visit, but I am
not letting you take this baby anywhere
without me because your a health question
and i'm not comfortable with it. And who
in the hell does he think he is denying
the baby all of your pregnancy and not
being there for you and then as soon as
he's born he's going to rush in and play
great daddy. Blah. Also, tell him that
garret is not to be around his girlfriend.
In the end, it's all your call girl. I
wouldn't let him off so easy. Good luck!
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babyrae
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Joined: 19 Jan 2004
Posts: 2957
Location: Manitoba, Canada
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Posted: 07-22-04 14:35pm
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Aww hun its okay! You tried ur hardest!
And some poeple just cant do it... Im not
sure if i'll be able to do it but the
thing is u tried. If its too tiring and
too hard on u then its best that u stop
it. I hope everything works out well and
I know lil garrett is still happy when ur
feeding him becuz it is still a bonding
time 
shauna
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*j@ydynsmama*
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Jul 2004
Posts: 129
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Posted: 07-22-04 15:46pm
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U sound just like me!! B prepared
tho--formula is wayyyyyyyyyyy $$$$$$$$$$
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KissyBai912
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Aug 2003
Posts: 1762
Location: Venice, Florida
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Posted: 07-22-04 15:52pm
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How come you aren't on wic jordan? Down
here they will give you 10 cans a month if
you aren't breastfeeding. 10 cans is
plenty for a month for josh since he gets
cereal or some kind of fruit 3 times a
day. I have about 15 cans in the pantry.
Anyone care for some formula? Lol.
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smith8500
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Sep 2003
Posts: 6623
Location: Louisiana
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Hey
Posted: 07-22-04 15:52pm
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Kaitlyn was on formula and had wic and we
never ever had to pay out of pocket for
formula!
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*j@ydynsmama*
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Jul 2004
Posts: 129
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Posted: 07-22-04 16:03pm
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Yea im on wic but I only get nine cans an
it only lasts 2-3 days a can but if ur
not on its wayy exp. A can like that is
12 bucks here---
what formula u use?
Similac advance w/ iron is wut I do
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KissyBai912
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Aug 2003
Posts: 1762
Location: Venice, Florida
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Posted: 07-22-04 16:07pm
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I have been using nestle good start. He's
been on it since birth and does great with
it! Did you try it? It's only 9 bucks a
can here. I would ask the dr about trying
that because it's less expensive....Unless
she doesn't like it for some reason!
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*j@ydynsmama*
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Jul 2004
Posts: 129
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Posted: 07-22-04 16:11pm
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Duz it have dha and ara n it/
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Riversmommy
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 May 2004
Posts: 711
Location: Springfield,Illinois
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Posted: 07-22-04 16:26pm
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Yah jordan it does!! We get 9 cans too I
had to buy some more but my sis in law
said all u have to do is call the wic
office tell them ur short and they will
give u some more!
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*j@ydynsmama*
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Jul 2004
Posts: 129
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Posted: 07-22-04 16:39pm
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Well shes startin to eat further apart
like 4-6 hrs instead of 2-4 so we'll see
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KariM1804
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 May 2004
Posts: 852
Location: grand blanc michigan
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Posted: 07-22-04 20:48pm
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Thanks everyone! Breastfeeding is way
hard, formula already seems a lot better
and makes me less stressed.
And about ryan... They came over again
today and already said they wanted to take
him monday or tues for a while! (i felt
on the spot in front of his mom so I said
ok) but noooooway!!! I told my dad and
hes like "hell no, their not taking him
this young!" .. So im going to tell them
no when he calls. Thing is...Once we go
to court, as long as hes payin child
support he will have those rights wether
he was there through my pregnancy or not
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mommabear16
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Jan 2004
Posts: 1222
Location: illinois
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Posted: 07-22-04 21:58pm
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Bottle feeding is a lot easier..I tried it
but after like a day and a half I just
couldnt do it!
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