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angie518
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Joined: 24 Oct 2003
Posts: 435
Location: Marietta, Georgia
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Sad News From the Dr.:(
Posted: 07-22-04 11:10am
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I went to the Dr. Yesterday b/c I started
bleeding really heavy again and passing
huge blood clots. This is after the post
delivery bleeding and i've already had a
period. So they wanted to make sure there
wasn't any placental tissue left in my
uterus which there wasn't. He said it was
probably just my hormones and as they go
back to normal the bleeding will stop. I
had to see a new Dr. Since we moved but I
know him well b/c I worked for him before
I moved to nc. He sat me down to talk to
me about the eclampsia and how serious it
was and how i'm lucky to be alive. He
then told me that I shouldn't have any
more children unless i'm willing to die to
have another baby. After he reviews my
records from the hospitals in north
carolina he thinks we should do something
permanent like having my tubes tied so we
can make sure I can't get pregnant again.
This makes me very sad b/c I definently
wanted to have another baby in the future.
We did talk about adoption or a seregant
mother which i'm ok with but it still just
makes me sad.  what would you do
in if you were in my shoes?
Love,
angie
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krista57
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Joined: 12 Nov 2003
Posts: 190
Location: ga
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Posted: 07-22-04 11:13am
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Awww bless ur heart! Im so sorry ! I
dont know what to tell you but I will pray
for you!
Krista
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sweetsuzi
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Joined: 11 May 2004
Posts: 831
Location: Bonny Scotland
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Posted: 07-22-04 11:23am
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Oh angie I hope your alright. Can you not
get a second opinion?
I think I would be just as confused right
now. I think if it secures a healthy life
for you and for your already born baby,
then you should take the doc's advice.
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tweety12986
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Joined: 25 Jun 2004
Posts: 772
Location: houston
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Posted: 07-22-04 11:28am
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Angie I am so sorry to hear that, but even
if you wait and give your body lots of
time to heal you cant have another? I am
really sorry and maybe when u do adopt you
will be making someone elses life a little
bit better.
Meagan
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hm_03
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Joined: 30 Apr 2004
Posts: 483
Location: Massachusett
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Posted: 07-22-04 11:39am
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Sorry to hear about that. It's real tough
to deal with especially if you wanted to
have more babies in the future. Perhaps
you could get a second opinion like
sweetsuzi said. Sorry about your news.
God bless you.....
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linuxChique
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Posted: 07-22-04 11:45am
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I agree. Get a second opinion. If the
second opinion is the same as the first, I
think you should stick with what the
doctor says. Your baby needs you more
than you need another baby. You do have
other options, options that could
potentially save a life, if you chose to
adopt from someone considering abortion.
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angie518
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Joined: 24 Oct 2003
Posts: 435
Location: Marietta, Georgia
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Posted: 07-22-04 11:49am
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Well he does want to review my previous
records first but I think i'm gonna get a
second opinion from a specialist. There
are two doctors that I worked with in
labor and delivery that only deal with
high risk pregnancies so I think i'll
consult one of them before making a
permanent decision. Before rylee was born
I would've said yes i'll take the risk but
now I have her to think about too and that
would just be wrong to get pregnant again
on purpose.
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MegEve
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Joined: 13 Nov 2003
Posts: 353
Location: Alabama
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Posted: 07-22-04 11:54am
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Angie, I am so sorry. I don't know if
you know much about me, but I have colon
cancer. I had surgery to remove it back
in october 03, and the docs thought they
got it all. However, they had to take my
uterus, ovaries, falopian(sp?) tubes as
well as other parts. So, jonathan and I
planned to adopt children, however, in may
04 I found out my cancer is back. And
the prognosis is not very good, as I
cannot have surgery to remove it this
time. So I am on chemo, and if, a big
.I.F, we are ever able to have children,
we will adopt. But I don't think we will
be able to b/c of the advanced stage of my
cancer.
Anyway, after all that!! Cherish your
little rylee and when you decide you want
more children, ther are many, many that
need lovings homes like yours. If you
would like to talk about anything, just
let me know.
Love,
megan
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insurancegirl
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Posts: 5295
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Posted: 07-22-04 11:57am
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Last edited by insurancegirl on 11-06-04 11:15am; edited 1 time in total
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Riversmommy
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Joined: 31 May 2004
Posts: 711
Location: Springfield,Illinois
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Posted: 07-22-04 11:58am
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Awww angie im sooo sorry sweetie! I would
gladly carry a baby for u if u cant have
anymore children!! U dont deserve this!
I would deffinitely get a second oppinion
love u sweetie!!
Jen river and raven
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smith8500
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Posts: 6624
Location: Louisiana
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Hey
Posted: 07-22-04 12:08pm
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Oh angie! I am so sorry. I would get
another opinon if I were you. I truly
hope that maybe you can wait a while and
then have more kids! That is horrible!
Make sure you get another opinon before
you get too upset and....... Thank god
for the lil one you do have...... i'm so sorry
hun.
Love you,
chanda
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lilmama2b_oct04
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Location: Wisconsin
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Posted: 07-22-04 12:09pm
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Oh no... Im really sorry to hear that
angie. I definitly agree with getting a
second opinion from a high risk
specialist. Maybe after awhile you may be
able to have a chance at a second child
with alot of care from a specialist. I
dont know what I would do. If it was a
very high risk then I would get the
permanent thing done. You must be
heartbroken... Just keep rylee in your
thoughts. You are so blessed to have her.
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lee25
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Posts: 1018
Location: new york
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Posted: 07-22-04 12:45pm
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Wow! I can't believe it. I agree with
everyone else on that second opinion.
Your right you have to think about the
baby now she comes first now no matter
what.Good luck with everything, i'll have
you in my prayers.
Brneda
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nikki_caro
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Posted: 07-22-04 12:53pm
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Oh no wynona, thats not good news at
all!!! Im so sorry! I think you need a
second opinion though, I mean this is your
new doc right? But the doc my sister saw
had told her the same thing, cuz made it
to 7 months and go pre-eclampsia real bad.
So he sad she cant have another or she
will risk her life. She didnt want
anymore kids anyways though. But I think
if someone told me this, id get a second
opinion, probably another one afer that,
and another and if they all said the same
thing, and I just so happened to get
pregnant...Well id go through with it.
Although doctors are the best and well
trained no one can predict what will
happen to your future except .God. I mean
I just read a story last week of a girl
having this and she had her baby at 24
weeks and her baby weighed a pound! And
they told her not to have anymore, and she
ended up having 2 more! And they are all
fine and healthy. Just keep your head up
ok!
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KissyBai912
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Location: Venice, Florida
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Posted: 07-22-04 13:03pm
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Aww angie I am so sorry hun! I agree, get
a second, third and fourth opinion! And
if it came down to it, I would gladly be a
surrogate mommy for you! I know you
deserve all the children in the world
angie! I hope things gett better but if
not, there ae always other options!
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angie518
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Oct 2003
Posts: 435
Location: Marietta, Georgia
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Posted: 07-22-04 14:33pm
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Thank you for all the replies. You girls
are all so sweet and caring. It's just so
hard to deal with all this right now b/c
we didn't want to have another baby for a
couple years. So to make a decision now
after just having a baby is kinda hard.
We're just practicing abstinence(sp) right
now b/c thay can't put me on birth control
until I come of the dilantin (siezure
medication) and I don't trust condoms
alone. I know there are other methods of
birth control but i've never used anything
else and just not having sex kinda seems
like the best plan for now. It kinda
sucks though being that we are technically
still newlyweds! Oh well!
Love you guys!
Angie
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babyrae
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sparklypixie12
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Posted: 07-22-04 17:18pm
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I'm so sorry angie -id be devastated.I
don't know what i'd do huni if I were you
in shoes but I wouldnt make a rushed
decision-i'd consider every option. I'm
thinking of you right now sweetie
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JenniferN
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Joined: 06 Jul 2004
Posts: 136
Location: Tennessee
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Posted: 07-22-04 22:04pm
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God has a major plan for your life sweety,
keep your head up!
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