Hi, I found this board through a search on
yahoo! I am a 34 year old mother of an
eleven year old daughter, and am now going
into my 15th week of my second pregnancy!
I seemed to have forgotten all about being
pregnant and what goes along with it ~
this time around I am sick to my tummy,
tired all the time (still) and have been
experiencing cramping and some discomfort
that resembles contractions! Last week I
met with my midwife for my second prenatal
appt. And it took her 25 mins. To find
the heartbeat...I only heard two beats
then the baby moved again!!!!
Anyway, I can relate to alot of what i've
read in the threads ~ i'm feeling very
anxious and nervous about starting all
over again...Different age with different
worries. Any others out there with a
h-u-g-e space between that can understand
how I feel???
It's nice to have a place like this, I
wish you all well and hope to get to know
some of you!!
:d
maryellen
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Suzy
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Sep 2003 Posts: 530
Posted: 09-26-03 01:48am
Hi mary,
you seem to be in the same situation as
me, my husband and I have a 13 year old
daughter and we are now 7 weeks pregnant
with our second child so we are very
excited as we have been trying since about
january. We were pregnant in febuary but
lost the baby in may which was very hard
for us to deal with but we managed to pull
through. Our new baby is due to be born
may 12, 2004. So yes I have a big gap
between my children to, but I think it
will be kind of nice, my 13 year old is
very excitied about helping me look after
bubby when he or she arrives.
Hi suzy!
Thirteen years is quite a gap indeed! I
understand what you're saying though,
because my daughter seems to be very happy
as well, and is already acting
"maternally" towards me. My due date is
april 3rd ~ the ultrasound next week will
confirm the date as such.
It's funny, when I was younger I went
through my pregnancy as if nothing in the
world mattered and I had no other worries
~ I guess you could say I floated through
the entire experience. This time I am
much more in tune with my health and
notice many more ailments! When did you
feel fluttering in your first pregnancy?
I was around 5 mos. Last time, and am
anxiously awaiting them now. I hear that
in second pregnancies you may feel them
much sooner.
I'm sorry to hear about your misfortune
earlier this year but am happy that you
were able to conceive once again. My md
didn't think I would ever have another
child, being that after ten years of
trying, I wasn't conceiving. I had come
to terms with that idea.
Then..........Whamo! I think that
everything happens for a reason and that
this was our time, though we are not
prepared financially at all, i'm keeping
hope that things will all fall together.
Have a wonderful morning and thank you for
replying!!
Maryellen
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Gattuch23
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Sep 2003 Posts: 20 Location: Oregon
Gaps Are a Good Thing! Posted: 09-26-03 11:33am
I am 23 years old, along with my 18 year
old sister, I also have a 10 year old
bother and an 8 year old sister. That is
a little over a 14 year gap between my
mothers oldest and youngest. I remember
being a freshman in high school when
mackenzie, the youngest was born. Friends
were always asking me how weird I thought
it was to have siblings that young but I
didn't think it was weird at all. My
mother was a little worried at how she
thought we would react to it. The 18 year
old was pretty laid back about it, but I
was excited...I love kids. My mother
sooned learned that the gap was quite the
benefit. I was old enough to babysit and
that help make it easier for my mother and
step-father to go out. She didn't have to
worry about having a someone that she
didn't really know watch them, or asking
another family to come over, or dropping
them off somewhere. Even to this day, I
watch the kids all the time. I am really
close with them and we do things all the
time. In fact I do more things with those
two than I do with the 18 year old sister.
I don't know if it has to do with the age
gap that made us bond closer. I think the
closer you are in age, the more
competition and sibling rivelry goes on.
There is really nothing an 11, 12, 13 or
14 year old needs to compete with a baby
for. They actually like to help out more
and are a little more understanding to the
babies needs. They know that when mom
says the baby is sleeping and needs to
stay asleep, they better let the baby
sleep.
Ok, I have rambled on long enough. My
point is there is a benefit to a gap, a
lot of extra help and understanding.
