Really Want to Make the Relationship Work. Posted: 07-24-04 19:04pm
I met this one guy a little over a month
ago and we both hit it off really well.
I really like him a lot and he has told me
at one point that he liked me, although we
are not going out yet.. I recently
became aware that he is bipolar and it has
a great effect on out relationship. Even
though we are still keeping it at a
friends level he has told me that he likes
me and has even told me that he wanted to
kiss me a couple time. At other times we
are just friends and nothing more, even
though that is understandable because like
I mentioned we are still not quite going
out. The real problem is that there are
times when he doesn't even want to talk to
me; where he just sees me as annoying and
clingy. I tried talking to him about it
earlier but he had to go and we couldn't
talk long. I asked him if he had
feelings for me and he just gave me a flat
'no'. I know if I wait a while
eventually he will come back to liking me
again because it always goes through this
cycle. He does not see anyone about his
problem nor does he take any medication.
I was just wondering what I can do to help
him out. I know I have to sit down and
talk to him, but at the moment he doesn't
even want to do that. I just really want
to make this relationship work because I
care for him a lot. Any advice would be
greatly appreciated.
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purple333
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Dec 2003 Posts: 1420 Location: Sydney
Posted: 07-26-04 11:39am
Regardless of any mental health issue you
haven't known each other long enough to
know him well enough or to have developed
a cycle:
"i know if I wait a while eventually he
will come back to liking me again because
it always goes through this cycle" you can
not develop a cycle in a month.
Perhaps you are being too clingy - we
should all look first at our own behaviour
in a relationship before assuming that the
problem lies purely with the other person
regardless of whether they have a mental
health issue or not.
