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PatsGurl_Forever
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Joined: 02 Jul 2004
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Location: North Dakota, USA
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Disturbing~any Input Appreciated
Posted: 07-26-04 14:19pm
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I'm 17(18 in dec), my partner is 21( 22 in
nov). There is a great chance i'm
pregnant. Here's the disturbing part!
He said the other nite that if i'm preggo
that I was to sign "our" kid over to him.
Declaring him a single parent so that he
could get native american benefits:x
...Meaning as being part indian and being
a single parent he would basically get his
college paid for( thats the great usa for
ya: where is other racial help?  )! I'm going to be
a junior in high school & he's going
to be in year 3 of collegel! I think it
is very wrong to even be think of that as
an option! I mean that would be like
child abandonment on my part! I dont know
what to do! I'm so p@ssed off right now I
could just kill him  !
To top it off his dad is a cop &
doesnt like the fact we are together let
alone that we are friends!
I dont know if I could continue this
relationship, but I dont know how to get
out! He is a very controlling guy 
what would you all do?!
holly
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sweetsuzi
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Joined: 11 May 2004
Posts: 831
Location: Bonny Scotland
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Posted: 07-26-04 14:23pm
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Last edited by sweetsuzi on 05-24-06 10:58am; edited 2 times in total
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nikki_caro
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Joined: 22 Aug 2003
Posts: 4921
Location: Right here at work!
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Posted: 07-26-04 14:24pm
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I say you get out now. And if it gets bad
then you get a simple paper called
restraining order. Who cares if his dad
is a cop! That might benefit the guy, but
still this is your baby (if you are
pregnant) but lets not worry on all this
now, first things first. Make sure you
are pregnant. Get a test to find out.
That is so selfish of that guy to want u
to sign over the rights so he can be
cheap. His college might get paid for,
but a baby is wayyy more expensive. I
hope u didnt even consider his awful idea.
That would be just stupid. But either
way, if you are not pregnant by this guy,
dump the weirdo anyways. And if he keeps
bothering you, you warn his dad about a
restraining order. This guy is just your
boyfriend and already controlling?? And
why are you still with him?? I suggest
you end it (relationship), then take a
pregnancy test. Then we can take it from
there.
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linuxChique
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Joined: 05 May 2004
Posts: 4535
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Posted: 07-26-04 14:25pm
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Noooo! Don't do it! He could do anything
he wanted with the child and you would
have no say so whatsoever! He could take
the child away from you and you might
never see it again if you sign for him to
have full custody!
Who cares about those benefits! If he is
as controlling as you say he is, you've
got to stick up for yourself. It sounds
like he is trying to royally screw you out
of motherhood. You are not a baby oven!
He cannot make you do it no matter how
controlling he acts. Don't let him bully
you around.
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babyrae
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Location: Manitoba, Canada
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Posted: 07-26-04 14:26pm
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Im sorry but for the best, I hope u are
not pregnant! Its sad how hes puttin
hiself before his baby, even before his
baby is even developed! I would never let
him do that.. If u dont feel comfortable
in the relationship either, dont stay wit
him! I hope everything works out 
shauna
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sweetsuzi
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 May 2004
Posts: 831
Location: Bonny Scotland
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Shayna
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Location: NY
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Posted: 07-26-04 14:31pm
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I wouldn't do that ...He is really selfish
for asking u to do that !
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bd1012
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Posts: 1998
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Posted: 07-26-04 14:46pm
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I don't know what I would do if my bf said
that to me.
Oh and as for the native american
benefits, look what the so called
"americans' did to them back then. The
europians kicked them out of their own
habitat so they could live here and and
then the government sits there and talks
about how america is the land of the free
and etc and then you have people like the
guy who wrote alice in wonderland. No
place in america for the real americans.
I see it as a payback for what they did
to them. Btw i'm part native american.
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babyrae
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Joined: 19 Jan 2004
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Location: Manitoba, Canada
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Posted: 07-26-04 14:49pm
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I live in a native town (i have some metis
in me) and I totally see how they got
ripped off.. But I also see, what the
goverment does here, is now they give too
much freedom to those. Like some things
are reallt stupid... Some jobs u cant get
on here unless ur treaty or u cant get ur
school paid for unless ur treaty....
Etc.. Its all pretty overblown now....
But there are ros and cons to everything
an this is just one of those lol!
Shauna
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nikki_caro
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Joined: 22 Aug 2003
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Location: Right here at work!
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Posted: 07-26-04 14:52pm
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I know what I would do if my boyfriend
ever said the to me to try to be selfish,
ill say "ill sign them papers when I can
rip your nuts out of your a$$ with no
complaints!!! problem!!!" hehe.
As for the whole indian thing, they got
robbed here like they can only have a few
sections of land and stuff, but they got
some nice casinos so I know some of em
make bank here!!!!
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smith8500
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Posts: 6623
Location: Louisiana
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Hey
Posted: 07-26-04 14:55pm
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do not,
do not, do not do it!
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lee25
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Joined: 30 Dec 2003
Posts: 1018
Location: new york
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Posted: 07-26-04 16:20pm
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Don't do it. These guys from different
countries like to take the babies away
back to their countries. Be careful
there have been many cases where guys
kidnapp their kids and take them back to
their countries and most of the time once
they are there you have no parental rights
towards your child. Just be very very
careful.
Brenda
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newlife
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jun 2004
Posts: 874
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Posted: 07-26-04 16:26pm
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Okay first don't do it. And second you
may want to thik about droppoing his a$$.
I mean how could he think of an unborn
child as basically a meal ticket and a
free ride. I know you may love him, but
umm talk to him and ask him if he really
meant it, and if he does, drop him like
the bad habit he is. That is just sick.
And if you are even thinking about doing
it I feel sorry for you b/c it sucks and,
he could just up an leave with your baby,
b/c you decided to sign over your rights.
Ohh and btw when you ask him again hide a
tape recorder ,and record the convo. B/c
if it comes down to the point where you
have to take him to court for child
support (and with this jerk i'm sure you
will) , you can use the tape to show the
judge what kind of parent he would be, and
the kind of parent that would use their
child, deserves to pay big money, and not
get to see him/her.
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lilmama2b_oct04
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Joined: 01 Mar 2004
Posts: 1970
Location: Wisconsin
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Posted: 07-26-04 20:45pm
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Ok do not sign your parental rights away
to some controling problem, that just
wants a free ride through life, cuz
chances are, hes gonna find out that it
isnt free the hard way, and then your kid
will have to suffer through it right along
with him. I think you should leave him.
Tell him to go find *somebody else* to
donate their baby to the "free college for
controling suckers charity".
As for the native indians... It was the
europians (sp?Lol it dont look right) that
had come here and taken away all the land
from the american indians, and it was
later on, the americans realized it was
wrong and are paying them back for all the
harm. I dont think there is anything
wrong with how american indians are
treated now. Although, black people arent
being payed back for the harm done to
their ancestors, and neither are jews and
the list could go on.... Why isnt anyone
else gettin free crap?
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KC
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Joined: 09 Jul 2004
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Location: VANCOUVER ISLAND
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Posted: 07-26-04 22:03pm
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Dont do it(if u are pregnant)..He will be
able to do what ever he wants if u sign ur
rights over to him.My boyfriend tryed to
get me to sign over rights and isaid
straight out no.Im going to be a very
young mom ...15 but im going to give
custody to my dad till I can move out on
my own and take care of my baby.I love my
boyfriend and we have been together for a
long time now and I still wont give him
custody of our baby when he/she is
born.And plus the baby need the mother
most when he/she is born.And he is being
really selfish about the free ride thro
life
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JenniferN
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Jul 2004
Posts: 136
Location: Tennessee
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Posted: 07-26-04 22:12pm
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No never! Dont do it.. The benefits are
not worth it! Dont
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PatsGurl_Forever
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Jul 2004
Posts: 27
Location: North Dakota, USA
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Thanx!
Posted: 08-01-04 14:42pm
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Thanx every1. I wont ever do it no matter
how hard he pressures me! I'm gonna make
a doctors appointment tomorrow & get a
blood test!
Holly
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