"it's Ok Not to Want to Have Children"?

But what would be the point/use of this as a new forum?? What purpose would such a forum serve - although I have kids by the way I still agree that it's ok not to want them & that many people shouuld never have them!!

I just posted an idea for a new forum. It's like other topics or threads--like minded people to discuss their own thoughts and/or opinions on that particluar subject.
Maybe there are not enough folks here that want to be, or are, child-free.
That;s ok, too. I was just opening a thread up for any of us that like to be wihtout kids!
No harm intended!

Catnip,

sorry if I wasn't clear - i'm not opposed to the forum & certainly wasn't offended - I just don't see the relationship between the topic & ehealth issues. Which is not to say that there aren't any, or that there shouldn't be such a forum - I would just like to know where it fits on ehealth as opposed to say creating a group on msn or icq or yahoo etc for like minded people??

I guess I just saw all the topics under pregancy and having babies and thought maybe there were a few folks here that liked the chid-free lifestyle.
There are other topics such as the gay lifestyle, etc and I just thought this was another way of life, too.

Sorry if it offended anyone.

Catnip,

you need to relax, get out more, calm down & not apologize so much - you haven't offended anyone that I know of!!

I do agree that there are alot of forums for people who are pregnant or have just had babies, dating, breakimg up, widows, single parents, gay, etc etc but none for the group you mention or for the group I suggested - those with older kids(not babies) who have issues.

Having or not having children is a very touchy subject.Some choose not to have children,some are not able.I wanted to have children when I was younger,but was not able.I am now happy with the way things worked out.I have a wonderful husband and stepson.My husband does not want more children,so it works.I would rather have him and no children than have 4 kids and a jerk who's never around.It is very difficult to express that to people when they ask why we don't have children.Then they start on the fertility issue.I do not feel I was meant to have children and I have accepted that.I do not wish to have fertility treatments and the posibility of multiple birth.I wish more people understood.Patty

It is a great idea! I do not have kids of my own, and I have no regrets! I am around kids a lot with my jobs, it is sure great too come home to my animals! I am kind of like patty, maybe I was not meant to have kids either, of course, being kicked in the stomach @ 5 1/2 months pregnant did not help either, and I am very thankful for my complete hysterectomy, making it a for sure thing that I will not have kids! Just plan on us being bashed, saying we are not whole and complete women by not having kids(b.S.) we are more whole and complete than women that have kids!
I do have a step-daughter and a step-son, but, they are both grown and doing o.K. I did help a friend of mine raise her daughter for 2 years, when she had her nervous breakdown. I saw my sisters, brothers, cousins, friends going thru all of their stuff with there kids, while I was traveling all over the u.S.A., really enjoying life! Working around kids and seniors, I see a lot of these kids having soooo many problems and these seniors that have kids that will not even come see them, this all is soooo sad! I do realize that their are some good kids too!
I do have three ex-husbands and I am on my 4th marriage, so I do know that the 3rd time is not the charm(lol).
I feel this is a good place for us for us just to shoot the breeze!
Sincerely,
sandy

nice to know that i'm not alone!!Patty

Glad there are other people out there who feel the same way I do! I'm 28 and have never desired children of my own. Growing up I did a whole lot of babysitting - only one child was sweet - the rest were hell spawn! (peeing in my winter boots, beating sister with baseball bat etc.) if I married someone with lots of money who wanted kids I would have no trouble with the pregnancy/birth thing as long as he was willing to hire a good nanny! I just have way more patience with foals and kittens than kids (unless you are talking about baby goats)! I'm ok around other people's kids though - you know that when you are sick of them you can just leave!

I was the mother who would have had 10 kids, had I not lost my uterus to cancer at 25. But to hear these story's lets me see the other side, and to me--who would have never went child less--unless medically I couldnt have them, finds this very interesting. I do know a few women, who might have not had any--had not pregnancy gotten in the way.

But I also believe if a person who has gotten preg ---who dont neccessarily want children---should not abort, just cuz that is not what she want. My opinion.