Ok for those who dont know I have been
with my bf michael for almost 4 years, and
since I have been pregnant I cant stand
him at all, I mean he got on my nerves
before I was pregnant but I could take all
his quirks, but now I seriously want to
break up with him, so serious that the
only reason I can think to stay with him
is becuz of our baby, but sometimes I am
like I dont care. I just got through
trying to talk to him (trying cuz he wont
ever stay awake) and he just thoroughly
pi$$ed me off and I think everytime we
argue or something like that I want to
leave, but the only reason I dont break up
with him is becuz I want my baby to know
and spend time with his/her father.
Michael is moving to louisiana at the end
of this month but I dont think I want to
go with him or ever meet him down there...
I just want him to leave and I never
wanna see him again, but that is just
selfish of me. I dont know what to do
anymore about him he is always saying he
wants to make things better for me but I
really just dont like him anymore. Sorry
so long I am just really lost right now.
Meagan
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newlife
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jun 2004 Posts: 874
Posted: 08-02-04 20:38pm
Well I mean what is he doing or saying?
And if you really feel like you don't even
like him, ask yourself if you love him,
and if you don't then staying for the baby
won't help anyone. How old are you again?
Anyway if you do decide to come down
here, when jon gets on my nerves and
micheal gets on yours we can get away from
them together. If you do move down here
,have you found a doc yet? Sorry for
getting off of the subject but, right now
me and jon are at one of the points in our
realationship where both of us are just
saying f*ck it. But it doesn't worry me
b/c I know that our love for each other is
real, and knowing that we can go through
anything. But anyway, I don't know if it
is the same for you, but if in your heart
you feel that there is no love there and
the only reason you are staying is for the
baby you really need to leave. I say that
b/c my mom and dad stay together for their
children, and believe me it didn't help us
at all, and we all ended up in therapy for
it. And I think that maybe why I have a
problem controling my anger. So I mean
really think about it.
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tweety12986
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Jun 2004 Posts: 772 Location: houston
Posted: 08-02-04 21:09pm
Well thats the thing michael doesnt really
say or do anything wrong its just his
attitude towards somethings, and how he
views life... Like he is a car freak and
he wants to build a car before the baby
comes and I think it just makes more sense
to put that off for now but he's like I
have to keep waiting for the things I
want, why wait when I could do it now, and
that angers me off. And like its like the
older he gets the dumber he gets or
something I think he is just wearing off
on me, but I do love him, I just dont like
him a lot of the time. And no I havent
found a doc in louisiana if I come down
there yet cuz I havent really gotten my
medicaid settled here and thats another
thing I am not sure whether or not I want
to have the baby there or not, oh yeah and
I am 18. But sometimes i'm like wow I am
lucky to have u and sometimes I am like
why do I like u, but that would be cool to
visit u sometime.
Meagan
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newlife
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jun 2004 Posts: 874
Posted: 08-02-04 21:33pm
Ita on that last comment. And I
understand, it is like our bf's are
brothers. Jon loves cars, money, and
dogs. And that is all he talks about,
and sometimes I think he worries about the
d*mn dog more than he worries about me.
One day last year I decided to teach him a
lesson. He was out with his friends, and
when he is out late at night he usually
calls to make sure I am going to bed cuz
i'm a homebody. That night I went out
with my friend meagan, and she happened to
be on a date that night, but a bunch of
our friends were going out to eat in the
quarter, so they took me. I called jon
on her phone so he would know that I was
out, (he can't stand her), and when he
heard a male voice he went clean off. It
is so funny I am laughing right now. But
that made him realize that he can't always
count on something to be real, but i'd
never do it again cuz we almost really
broke up over it. But anyway back to the
subject sometimes you just gotta try to
get their attention. I believe me I know
you've tried talking to him and it doen't
work, cuz jon is the same way. It always
seems as though something else is more
important. I wish I had the answer, but
the truth is I am trying to sort through
my relationship. But what I can say is
if you really love him, try to give it
some time. We mature so much faster than
they do, that sometimes it is the only
thing we can do. But if it is stressing
you out to the point that the baby may get
hurt, just leave it alone, and sort things
out after the baby is born. And know
that you are not the only one who has a
health question bf, cuz i'm right here
with you.
Oh and did you get your medicaid yet? If
not how long ago did you apply? I'll try
to check and see, if it can just transfer
to down here. But I know down here it
takes two weeks for them to put you app in
the system, and when they do you can call
and get the name and number of your case
worker, and if you have a nice one like
mine she'll certifiy you that day.
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Riversmommy
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 May 2004 Posts: 711 Location: Springfield,Illinois
Posted: 08-03-04 00:03am
Lol meagan, meagan, meagan!! Welcome to
the joys and hormones of pregnancy girl I
was the exact same way w/ raven huni u got
something growing inside of u of course ur
going to be this way!! Beleive me I
wanted to break up and all that w/ raven
but hang in there sweetie it will get
better and its all worth it I promise!
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tweety12986
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Jun 2004 Posts: 772 Location: houston
Posted: 08-03-04 00:36am
Well thats nice to know jen, sometimes I
think its my horomones but then sometimes
I am like "no... I wanna kill him". Lol.
And newlife it sounds like my bf and your
bf could be twins.Lol we just talked and I
feel better, so I am gonna chalk that post
up to horomones, but who knows next time.
Lol.
Meagan
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littlehunybunny
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Mar 2004 Posts: 644 Location: Los Angeles California
Posted: 08-03-04 12:12pm
Darn it, I wanted to say something, but
forgot!!!
well.. Umm... Ok, let me kind of re-read
some of the posts and see if I remember!
Lol!!
Oh well I don't remember, but here are my
two cents. My bf and I got along really
great before I got pregnant. It was an
amazing relationship. I should have know
it was all too good to be true. Well it
seems before I even knew I was pregnant,
things changed quick! I went bonkers, and
became very hard to deal with. The whole
time though I felt it was him! I really
had to sit back and look at things though
to see it was me who was being so hard to
be around. I quickly changed that though.
I still find it very hard to be around
him all the time!
Oh I just remembered what I wanted to
say!!! Woooohooo!!!!
Take a break from him!!!!! Trust me, it
will do you both a whole lot of good!!!!!
Take a vacation basically for 2-4 weeks
from each other! Only talk if you need to
talk during the time away, but for the
most part, stay compleatly away from
eachother for 2-4 weeks, and it should
help a lot!! I'm sure you all know whats
going on with my bf and i, and yes I know
I can be labeled stupid for sticking with
him, and for how I acted on here about it,
but this time I have away from him is
great. And when I talked to him the other
day, he said the same thing. He hates it
in jail, but he is happy he is there,
because its forcing us to take a much
deeded break from each other, and its made
him focus most of his time on getting
close to jesus again!! So my advice to
you is not to end things untill you have
given all chances, and there is no hope
for you two!! I know its hard to be away
from those you love, I know I am going
insane with out him, but it feels soooooo
good at the same time!! I just knwo when
I see him, I am going to jump all over
him! I want to wish you all the luck
hun, and if you know you want to be with
him, then you gotta take steps to make it
work. I know you are having trouble
talking to him. Most guys don't like
"talking". But if you can get him to sit
down with you for a little bit, try
telling him how you are feeling, and what
you want. If he loves you, he will
understand, and try to help things out!
I'm greatful to have a bf who will stop
what ever he is doing 98% of the time to
listen to me when I need to talk! I've
never had this before, ever in my life!
Ok enough I already typed a book here!
But good luck hun!! And remember love is
a lot of hard work! It just doesn't
happen.
stacey
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lilmama2b_oct04
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Mar 2004 Posts: 1970 Location: Wisconsin
Posted: 08-03-04 13:15pm
Meagan, lol is it to the point where just
his breathing drives you insane? Trust
me, its the hormones. I felt the same way
in the begining of my pregnancy, and I
thought I didnt want to be with kevin
anymore cuz he was driving me insane. But
I realized that its just me, and not him.
Im pregnant, and ive got some crazy
hormones and stupid things really bother
me now. Like when he puts his foot on
~my~ foot rest thing on the recliner (we
have a loveseat that reclines on both
sides), or when he breathes out of his
nose and I can hear it, when he wiggles
his foot in bed or when we are sitting on
the couch, when I can hear him eating,
pretty much if I just know hes there he is
bothering me. Its just hormones though.
If you love him and know you want to be
with him(besides the hormone thing lol)
you gotta stick together through thick and
thin. Your just going to have to learn
ways to get away from it. Take breaks
from each other, even 2-3 days is good.
When he starts bothering you, just find
something to do that away from him... I
go and play with stuff in the baby room
lol, I go on the internet, or just lay in
bed with the door closed, taking walks
helps too, and so does going and just
sitting at the park to relax and clear
your mind. Your gonna feel this way until
that baby is out and your hormones are
back to normal, you gotta find ways to get
away that suit you best.
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linuxChique
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 May 2004 Posts: 4535
Posted: 08-03-04 13:36pm
Meagan, i'd wait it out. Pregnancy does
that to you! It should fade after you
have the baby. If you still feel this way
several months after you give birth, then
i'd say maybe its permanent. But right
now, I think its probably the horomones.
