Thanx to All of You..i Choose to Hold Off On Sex!!! Posted: 09-28-03 16:22pm
Im new to the forum earlier this month and
ive read alot of frightening things.I came
to this forum to seek help about being
scared I was pregnant! Im not! You guys
have given me advice and I appriciate it.
The boyfriend I have now is in jail and
ive been with him for 2 years. Ive always
been a sucker for love and sex has always
been precious to me. When I had sex I
took it personal and thought that this guy
must like me a whole lot to share his body
with me.Huge mistake!! I had some guys
take advantage of me and never talk to me
again.Totally ignore me!!(like I dont
exist) my boyfriend now that im very in
love with says he loves me and we'd always
make up when we have a fight. He hopes
someday we'd get married. He often asks
me for a baby. Id agree but thank god it
never happened. I thought that having a
baby would be a blessing and with the love
of my boyfriend.Its weird because he wasnt
the first guy to ask me for a baby.(again
I thank god that im not pregnant). I
always like to be taken.I hate being
alone!Now I see even though ive been with
this guy 2 years it is not enough to know
how certain we're going to stay
together.If a fight with me and his family
can tear us apart...And he rather believe
them than me.....Im not so sure if hes
worth me my future and having a baby
alone unsure if he is going to be there or
listen to all the lies his family is
saying about me.His family already "loves"
is ex-fling for him to be his girlfriend.
If he choses to stay with me I have
decided to hold off on sex( he'll probably
be mad cuz you know coming out of jail and
all..) and wait till I believe I am ready
and that I know are relationship is
stable. If not him..Then the future
boyfriends. I have goals and I want a
future with a family with someone who
really appricates me for me not my
body..Itll take along time to find this
person..I hope not though!I wan to respect
my body and myself and future.Im kind of
dissapointed but I know its the right
thing to do.I'll try my hardest to
fullfill my plan.I hope it works but im
not perfect.....So maybe I might make
mistakes......Ill keep reminding my self
about my plans.I hope love doesnt screw me
over(lol).I hope this can touch someone
else out there at least one and itll be
worth it. Just becuase you said yes
before you can say no now! Im 17 and been
active since 14...If I can say no so can
you.Thank u to everyone!!!Good luck to all
young mommies...It is a blessing from god
that u have been blessed with one of his
children...
Lildreamer.
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Darling
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Sep 2003 Posts: 876
Posted: 09-28-03 16:53pm
That was amazing. You should be so proud
of yourself. It takes some women years to
come to such conclusions. You are going
to succeed in life, even if you make
mistakes along the way. Wow im so proud
of you!!!!!! *hugs*
i wish you the best of luck in the future
much love
Wow! That was very inspirational! That
is an amazing set plan and I know that you
can do it! If your boyfriends loves you
as much as you love him than he will be as
support of your decision as we all are!!
Congratulations!!
Much love
-jessika-
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4930 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 09-29-03 12:47pm
Dreamer I am sooooo happy for you!!!!!!!
I cant believe you came to that!!!! I
know there is a guy waiting to meet you
and he will respect you and treat you like
never before!! And it will feel like a
fairy tale!!! Trust me! I have met guys
that treated me like scum and I still
waited by their side and gave them the
world. It should have been the other way
around! But I was too young to realize
that! Then in a town (i hated going to) I
met the most wonderful guy! And he lived
6 hours away! We made it work and he
treated me so nice! He bought me roses,
opened my door, kissed my hand! Took my
family to dinner every night and paid for
everything. Trust me I was thinking, this
is not happening to me!! And now, hes
moved out here with me. Has a job and we
are still in love. He tells me so every
morning, and night. You need to be
patient and let him come to you. Dont let
no guys treat you terrible. The best guys
to find are in school, have a job and go
to church! I know it sounds hard but
youll be lucky.
Congratulations!!!!
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illusionsmamma
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Sep 2003 Posts: 210 Location: las vegas
Posted: 09-29-03 13:16pm
Wow lil dreamer your decisions were well
said and hopefully you can overcome all
the things you have in your mind and
realize you have a whole future in front
of you and someone not so far away and not
so far behind is waiting to meet you and
greet you like it was with nikki good luck
girl and stay strong be a leader be an
inpiration be strong!!!
Hey I just want you to know that I am so
proud of you. I am only 13* 14 in 38
days, and I have been active since I was
12, I was almost 13 at the time. But now
I just find it hard to say no anymore.
Your story really touched my heart, and I
am trying now to say no, I went about 8
months before I did it again, and now I
think I am pregnant, and I am very scared.
I am also like you, and I hate being
single, I always want someone here with me
by my side, I want someone to be with me
and hold me close at night. But your
story has truley inspired me, and I am
going to try to say no as much as I can.
So I want to thank you for sharing your
story wiht me.
Vanessa
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HongKongChick
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Aug 2003 Posts: 222 Location: Oklahoma
Posted: 09-29-03 18:43pm
You know? If I was gonna write a book,
i'd interview you to put ur story in my
book.
I have only met or known a few people that
amaze me, and u are now one of them!!!
I am so glad u know what u are doing and
so smart about it!!
Congrats and I just hope there are more
girls like you!!
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