Joined: 19 Jan 2004 Posts: 2957 Location: Manitoba, Canada
Vent... Posted: 08-08-04 23:54pm
Sorry girls.. I need to vent. Ive been
bawling the last two days (probably on
account of baby blues too lol) but im so
frustrated with not being able to
breastfeed anymore. She just wont latch
and ive tried everything so I think its
time for me to give up. I dont want to
tho.. I wihs there was some other way. I
tried pumping too and that doesnt seem to
be working anymore. It just stresses me
out and I cant stop crying aout it. I
feel so bad and I feel like im a failure
but im tryin to not be so upset about it.
I just really wanted to breastfeed ya
know... I unno... I know it doesnt seem
like a big deal but I just feel like its
something I did. And she always turns to
me when I hold her and opens her mouth
towards my breast and I feel so bad cuz I
cant feed her...
Im also scared cuz now I feel like I wont
be able to lose the weight and all this
just stresses me out. I still got a pooch
I need to get rid of... And I sooo miss
that bonding time wit danica... It made
me seem like it was just me she needed...
When she cried it was for me cuz I was the
only one whod be able to feed her.. I
unno its just so hard. Im scared too cuz
my mom said my breasts are gonna hurt sooo
bad that they feel like they're getting
ripped off. Im tired of all this pain! I
need to go take a warm bath to relieve
some of the pain down there now anyways,
bt I just needed to vent. Sorry girls
lol! Im so glad I have this board to turn
too. Thanx so much!
Oh my shauna. You are not a failure or
anything of the sort! You are trying
your best and if it dosen't work, you have
to do like kari and give it up. Kari
isn't any less of a mother but at the time
she felt the same way you are feeling!
Sometimes a child just dosen't get the
hang of it and you have to quit. You
aren't any less of a mother to her for
stopping it. She will always need
you........ Not just for feeding but
you are her mommy! Huni, it's just the
stress and stuff. Take a bath. Calm
down and think. You are doing
everything right and I promise in a few
days or so it'll all be better.
As for the pain, do what you can to
relieve it and just wait. It is going
to go away ok babe! You can do it. I
know you can!
As for the weight. It'll go huni. She
was born very recently! You have time
huni. Wait it out ok.
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lauren22
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Jun 2004 Posts: 647 Location: Alabama
Posted: 08-09-04 00:00am
Has your milk come in yet? I'm guessing
yes because she is like 5-6 days old
right? When you pump are you getting any
milk? I dont really have any advice
except if this is something you really
want....Keep trying! You're a great mom
and she loves you no matter what! Hang in
there girl!
Lauren
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tweety12986
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Jun 2004 Posts: 772 Location: houston
Posted: 08-09-04 00:09am
Shauna you are anything but a failure...
I mean u didnt get an epidural lol I am sure you
can find a way to breastfeed danica, what
about putting your breastmilk in a bottle,
thats what I plan to do, and feed from my
breast too. You will be just fine. It
seems everybody gets depressed after their
baby is born and then they are ok... So u
will be ok.
Meagan
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newlife
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jun 2004 Posts: 874
Posted: 08-09-04 10:40am
Hey. I'll be okay shauna. Go to this
site ,it tells you how to make sure the
baby is latched on correctly. Okay that
didn't work so try this , click on the
link, then at the top of the page click on
articles, and then, look under
breastfeeding basics, there are a lot of
great breastfeeding articles.
Http://www.Breastfeedingbasic
s.Com
and your milk may not have come in yet,
but the lick has of of this info.
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babyrae
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jan 2004 Posts: 2957 Location: Manitoba, Canada
Posted: 08-09-04 11:41am
Thanx girls...
Newlife- my milk came in 3 days ago so the
only problem I can think of with baby is
he latching?? Oh and that site doesnt
work for me :s lol! I'll try again later
tho
thanx girls tho, im feeling a lil better
today but im still determined to try to bf
her... Hopefully it'll somehow work!
Shauna
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MegEve
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Nov 2003 Posts: 353 Location: Alabama
Posted: 08-09-04 12:37pm
I am glad you are going to continue trying
to breastfeed! It is such a bonding
experience, plus she get your antibodies
and she will not get sick very much.
Just stay calm and relax when she is
feeding b/c she can feel you emotions.
Good luck! Keep us updated!
Love,
megan
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laura_girl
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Mar 2004 Posts: 173 Location: Montreal, Quebec
lol I am sure you
can find a way to breastfeed danica, what
about putting your breastmilk in a bottle,
thats what I plan to do, and feed from my
breast too. You will be just fine. It
seems everybody gets depressed after their
baby is born and then they are ok... So u
will be ok.
