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Effervescence
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Binky Issues
Posted: 08-15-04 01:12am
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This section of the forum isn't very
lively!
Okay, I have to admit, I have issues with
binkies. More specifically, I have issues
with binkies (pacifiers) that are in the
mouths of children older than one. I hate
walking into a store and seeing a child
three years old with a binky.. I want to
steal it and run! I tell my husband, if I
ever get ocd, I guaruntee it will be
manifest in randomly stealing children's
binkies.
Does anyone else have feelings on this
issue? How old is too old for a
pacifier?? Do you think it is healthier
for a child to become emotionally
attatched to a teddy bear or blankie, or
is that the same as a pacifier? When do
you feel it is okay to use a binky? I use
them as last resort, if nothing else eases
the child, or only when they are sleeping
(i gradually ween them off of the need to
use a pacifier for naps as they get closer
to one- the parents I work with love this
method, and I have them thanking me all
the time for it) maybe i'm too gusto about
the anti-binky thing, but I want to hear
other peoples opinions. For those who
don't use pacifiers, how do you calm your
baby?
-eff
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purple333
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Posted: 08-15-04 04:02am
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Before I had my daughter (she's 16) I
swore I would never use a "dummy" as
they're called here but "little madam" had
her own ideas - so she had a dummy but she
also decided that she no longer wanted one
by about 7 months - again all on her own -
thank god she didn't want one much longer
as I hate them.
My son(9) was never that interested in
them & never after about 6 months.
I loathe seeing kids older than 1 maybe 1
1/2 with them but I also loathe seeing
kids this age who can not be without some
filthy toy or blankie - both of mine still
love to have a cuddly toy (yes even the 16
year old who is at university!!) in bed
sometimes (caps) I guess when they feel
sick or lonely or scared. But never have
or did they drag them around.
Beyond all else though when it comes to
dummies I hate seeing parents pick them up
off the ground & put them back in the
child's mouth or let an older child do it
for themselves even if the parent sucks it
clean - gross foul & it should be
banned.
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pitterpatter
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Posted: 08-26-04 18:28pm
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I would agree with what both of you are
saying. My little sister probably used
her binkin till she was almost two. I
didn't like how my mom would just let her
suck on it all day. Besides chances are
if your kid is using a binkin past the age
of one they probably have some emotional
issue. Either it's the only security
they have or it's just a habit now and the
parents haven't taken it away. However
when comes to blankets that kids are
attached to I think it's sooo important to
let your child have that. My mom took
mine away that I had had for years. I
was six or seven I think, but I was
devastated and still to this day I get on
her case about it. It's harmless to have
a blanket or something around whereas
binki's can cause dental problems. I was
probably an insecure child seeing as my
mom had to work all the time and my dad
was never around so the closest thing to
security I had was my blanket. Anyways
just thought i'd put my two cents in.
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purple333
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Posted: 08-27-04 08:26am
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Yes, I do agree about a child sometimes
needing a blanket or cuddly toy - I just
hate it when the parents let it get filthy
& the child is cuddling this filthy
dirty thing - I mean they can (caps) be
washed!!
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pitterpatter
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Posted: 08-27-04 11:22am
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Oh yeah, and then they still have it when
they are twelve and it's thilthy dirty.
Yeah that's gross!
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Kia
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Posted: 09-04-04 02:52am
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Ok so now I know what a binky is! 
i hate seeing kids (toddlers) with them in
their mouths all day especially when they
try to talk round it while holding it in
their teeth!
I think it becomes habit and if you can
prevent the habit, or a least minimise it,
that you will reduce the need for them to
have something in their mouth when they
are older, be that food or
cigarettes!!!!!!!
Oooh and filthy blankets and toys  I
remember helping my nan peg my toys up by
their ears on the washing line many times
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chipsmom
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Posted: 09-14-04 09:40am
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My son uses one but right now he chews on
it more than anything. Its a soothie and
he's teething and if its something that
comforts him during this time i'm all for
it.
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callie8323
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Binky
Posted: 09-14-04 09:53am
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I work in childcare so I see kids 0-2
years of age with a binky. I think its ok
when they are newborns but once you give
it to them its hard to take it away all a
binky does is keeps the kids from crying
they are a life saver in childcare a kid
crys and you sick that in there mouth they
stop. They are very dirty too! In
daycare everyone but your kid uses your
childs binky they like to share it! I say
its up to the parents but you know when
you give it to them they most likly will
use if for a long time best bet is not use
them. My neice used one till she was 1
she is 6 now and sucks her thumb.
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Kia
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Posted: 09-14-04 14:24pm
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| chipsmom
wrote: | | my son uses one but right
now he chews on it more than anything.
Its a soothie and he's teething and if its
something that comforts him during this
time i'm all for
it. |
probably the most vaild reason for having
one
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pitterpatter
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Posted: 09-14-04 17:39pm
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I think a lot of it depends on the kid.
My nephew didn't care for it so he never
used it. My little sister really could
use it as a baby. I think as long as
they can get along for the most part
without it than they probably won't even
need it. The kids that do use it for a
long time have some sort of security thing
going on. I think they are fine as long
as you don't overdo it.
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2littlegirlz
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Posted: 09-24-04 09:22am
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Afetr the first three months the babies
urge and need to suckpretty much stops.
So the really dont need one. It will be
easier to get rid of it. After this time
it is more a habit.
nothing is worse then having to get up 20
times a night to put the darn thing back
in their mouth. They will learn to soothe
themselves alot quicker without this
good luck everyone
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KatieKaboom
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Posted: 12-04-04 03:24am
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Ok, I don't really see what the big deal
is. My son has his "bupie" until he was
3. I never let it get all nasty and if it
was dropped, it didn't go back in his
mouth until it was washed. Children who
use pacifiers that long don't necessarily
have emotional issues, as one person
stated. It's called a security item. And
snatching a security item away from a
child before they're ready *can* cause
emotional issues.
Now about the "oral fixation" thing, think
about this; as a baby and into my toddler
years, I never had a pacifier or sucked my
thumb. My mom told me I just wasn't
interested. So no oral fixation as a
child....But i've been a smoker for 8
years. My husband, on the other hand, had
a pacifier until he was a toddler...Was
very attached to it. And he has no oral
fixation whatsoever now.
My younger brother is taking a psychology
class and is learning about oral fixation.
He said mine might be due to the fact
that I breastfed until I was 18 months
old. Seriously....So if you're going to
blame future oral fixations on pacifiers,
you can go right ahead and blame
breastfeeding, too.
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Kia
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Posted: 12-04-04 04:23am
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| katiekaboom
wrote: | | it's called a security
item. |
only insecure kids need security items, if
it has become that then you kid is in
effect addicted to it's
binkie/bupie/blankie no kid should be
dependent on an item for security that
should come from mom/dad/family
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justacanadiangirl
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Posted: 12-04-04 05:34am
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| kia_breizzze
wrote: | | katiekaboom
wrote: | | it's called a security
item. |
only insecure kids need security items, if
it has become that then you kid is in
effect addicted to it's
binkie/bupie/blankie no kid should be
dependent on an item for security that
should come from
mom/dad/family |
sometimes security items help. I know I
have one. I've had it since I was a kid.
It's not something that I depend on so
much that I can never be without it, but
it's something I don't plan on getting rid
of. And i'm almost 19. I have an old
doll blanket tha for some reason just
makes me feel better when i'm sick or
whatever. It's not like I drag it around,
but i've often slept with it covering my
pillow. It's just something from my
childhood that is old and familiar and
makes me feel safe for some reason. I
could do without it (which I do most of
the time since I don't live at home much
anymore) but I choose to keep it because
it's a part of my past. I'm not dependent
on it, it's just something I like to keep.
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Kia
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Posted: 12-04-04 05:52am
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Thats fair enough but I see kids who drop
their filthy grubby blanky they have been
draggin round and mom doesn't notice til
the next ailse and all hel| breaks loose
cuz they can't find the blanky, so the kid
won't settle at home and won't go to sleep
and all sorts.
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KatieKaboom
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Posted: 12-04-04 14:25pm
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That's kind of a narrow-minded view to
have on it. I've seen some pretty secure
kids with favorite security items. Just
because some children are unhealthily
attached to certain items means that no
child should be allowed to have a favorite
blankie/paci/stuffed animal? Pretty
bleak. Bottom line; not *all* children
who have a security item have emotional
security problems. You can be the most
caring, attentive parent in the free world
and your child may still have on certain
anxiety inducing aspect of their life and
they want something to comfort them. Just
because a child *wants* to carry around a
blankie or other such item doesn't mean
they're messed in the head or the parent's
are bad.
We as adults have things we do for
security, as well. Biting our nails,
twirling our hair, smoking, drinking.
These are all things done to make one feel
more in control and secure.
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Kia
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Posted: 12-04-04 16:11pm
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I think you are twisting what I am
saying.
The original post asked for opinions.
That's my opinion - not what is right or
wrong but how I see it.
Niether me or my brothers had any of the
"offending" items.
I had a pink dog for bed time but he
stayed in bed - I wasn't allowed him
anywhere else - made sure he never got
lost that way and my nan put him in the
wash at least once a fortnight.
I just hate seeing kids with filthy grubby
dirty blankies and I hate seeing kids who
just chew on a dummy/binkie while trying
to talk around it - wouldn't be so bad if
they took it out to talk instead of trying
to talk out of one side of their mouth
while chewing on the thing.
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KatieKaboom
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Posted: 12-07-04 16:18pm
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Ok, so then that's a problem with the
parent's, not the child. I understand
what you're saying...Because it is kind of
nasty to see that. We made our son take
his paci out to talk and he wasn't allowed
to drag his blankie around with him unless
it was to his grandma's house or
something. Definitely not to the store.
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babylugo2000
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Binky
Posted: 12-21-04 09:34am
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Ok finally people feel the same I have 2
children one is 4 he used his binky til he
was about 8 months old and I have a 4
month old who is using one but my
brother-in-law is going on 6 he still has
one when he sleeps I can't stand it I just
want to throw it away and my mother-in-law
has no problem with it.... Ugh it drives
me nuts..He has to go everywhere with it.
And my 4 year old looks at him like "what
are you doing with that thing in your
mouth"
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SweetAnGeL09
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Posted: 08-03-05 02:49am
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I hate pacifiers!! My nephew who is 2 1/2
years old still sucks on one! I tell my
sister (the mom) that he doesn't need it
and she says don't tell me how to raise my
kid. So whatever...My mom (the
grandmother) also lets him use one. I
think that its okay to give a newborn up
to 3 mos. A pacifier cuz they don't
really get teeth till then, do they? But
then it'd be hard to get the baby off it.
So whenever I have my first child, i'm not
going to give him/her a pacifier. I don't
know thats just what I think..Does anyone
think that too?
Thanx,
~anna~
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