Your partner needs to get a clue! That is just not right. Number one, if he is with you and can have sex with you when he wants, then he has no reason to be looking at porn!
Number two, yes pregnancy does make you heavier, but pregnancy is a beautiful thing! You need to lay down the law. Explain to him how this is making you feel and that this is his baby too, and how would he feel if the roles were reversed.
Good luck to you and just remember that you are beautiful, and if he keeps this up you need to do something about it. There is someone out there who will love you and desire you no matter what.

I don't think it's at all okay for a man to treat his wife like that. If he's looking at porn and ignoring you that's not okay at all. I know that guys do feel a little awkward when their wife is pregnant, but that is no excuse to make you feel unwanted. There is always a way to work around it. I would sit down with him and make him understand how it feels and then I would tell him that no way under no circumstances is it okay for him to masterbate. Maybe i'm odd, but my husband knows that i'm not okay with that kind of stuff and I see it as cheating. He understands how I feel about it too though. He knows that if he wants to be with me he cant' do that stuff I just don't agree with it. Anyways, good luck and I hope you can get him to understand.

Ok, first of all you are beautiful!!!! Do .N.O.T let him let him make you feel otherwhise! Remember beauty comes with in! He is a compleat .J.E.R.K to treat you this way!!!!! Secondly, if he is married, what the heck is he doing watching porn!!! That is a huge no! My bf watched pron if I wasn't in the mood, or some times I would leave for an hour and he would go to his porn and it would royally piss me off. I told him how it made me feel though and he got rid of it. You need to stand up for youself. Pregnancy is a beautiful thing!! He is so rude to think other whise of you! He better change his ways! You deserve better!! After all you are carrying his child!!!!

Stacey

Hey guys, I am new here, but I have had the same type of situation before. I am sorry to hear that. He actually said that he was no longer attracted to you, or did he just say that he didn't want to have sex anymore. See, some men have trouble comprehending what actually is taking place inside a womans body; leaving them confused and scared. First off, if that is the case, maybe you two should sit down together and do some research on this particular situation (sex during pregnancy).

On the other hand, if he is being an ass, you don't deserve that. Was the pregnancy planned. As far as the porn goes, I agree w/everyone else. That makes you feel 2nd best, and makes your self esteam go way down. Well, maybe things will get better, and always know that you have people like us to talk to at anytime. Good luck!!!

Thnx for the reply's! I figured I should let you in on more information. He hasn't looked at porn since and we did just get the internet so maybe it was a one time indulgence. Also, we do still snuggle and kiss it just never turns to sex. It is his disinterest in sex I find disturbing because I don't understand and if he doesn't want me now why would he want me later? And no, the pregnancy was not planned so perhaps that is another factor. Anyway, I am having the baby in 3 weeks so soon I probably won't be thinking much about sex either.

Well, all I can say is if after you have that baby he is trying to have sex with you, I would shut him off.
Just because the pregnancy wasn't planned doesn't mean that it is okay for him to be an ass.
However, have you really sat down and talked about it? He may be scared of hurting you/the baby. It may not be that he doesn't want you, but maybe he is frightened. I don't know. I hate to jump to conclusions, but from your first post he just seemed like a real low-life. Well, good luck to you both and I hope things work out!

Yeah, I agree with hotasfrick, the first post did not make him sound good, but I can understand more with your last post. It very well could be that he is scared of hurting you/baby. Pregnancy can do that to some men. I do wish you all the luck in the world. And please remember to keep the lines of communication open, and talk to him about this. Bottled up feelings will kill a relationship. Good luck hun.

Stacey

Biologically speaking, he has no reason to want sex now, because he has no need to reproduce. That doesn't mean he can't still enjoy it, i'm just saying the fact that the two of you have reproduced successfully may play a part in his disinterest. I'm sure he will come around after the baby is born and you feel normal again!

Haha I love how you think erin! We are no different from animals, and thats why we are all sexed driven, even when we dont' want children, we still have that need to reproduce just as any other animal does, though we have more since to not in most cases then an animal. But erin could be right about this, once reporduction is successfull, there is no "need" for sex, meaning the drive is not as strong. I am sure he will come around as well.

Haha you go girl erin!! Lol

stacey

You girls are funny!
Actually we are the only creatures who have sex for pleasure and not solely to reproduce.
If he came around after the baby was born I would tell him to get lost! If he didn't want me all of the time then he doesn't need to want me at all!

Actually that isn't totally true hotasfrick, though isn't faulse eather!! munkies also have sex for pleasure. But weather we do it for fun or not, are drive is still there to reproduce. Have you ever noticed yourself get horny at certen times of the month, more then normal? And men are like dogs wanting to hump everything in sight. Its all nature's way to reproduce, we just know it feels good too, and know how to keep ourselves from getting prego.

stacey

I just wanted to say i;m so sorry hun.... I'd hate to go thru with that. I mean I know at times i'll feel like it because I dont 'feel' like he looks at me the same... But I have to trust my heart.... Have you talked to him about it?