Well I am going to be a single mother.
Right now I don't make that much money,
but is there anything that I can do to get
financial help with the baby. Also, would
you guys recommend taking the father to
court for child support or waiting to see
if he'll actually help out then if he
doesn't take him to court? Should I give
the child his last name even though we
aren't married and probably never will be?
I need some advice please...
Well first of all. Welcome to the forum.
I havent' seen you around. Are you
new? You can get wic and such to help
buy the baby's formula and such once
he/she is born. You can get on walfare
or see about getting on welfare possibly.
I don't know your story so I don't know
how much I can help ya. As for the
father.... What is his story? Does he
have anything to do with the pregnancy at
all? Does he claim to want to be
involved in the babies life? Gimme more
of your story and i'll see if I can
help.....
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kim80
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Jun 2004 Posts: 56 Location: NC
Posted: 08-15-04 22:52pm
I don't post much....But I am 15 weeks
pregnant. The father originally wanted me
to have an abortion and there was no way
that I was going to do that. We had a
wonderful relationship up until this
point. He pulled jeckyl/hyde theme on me.
He hurt me really bad about not accepting
the baby. Now he says that he wants to
but he's not sure if he wants to be with
me cause I decided against his will to
keep the baby. So. I'm 24 and he's 27.
He's an adult acting like a 12 year old.
We are working on our relationship but
it's very unhealthy right now. I haven't
seen him in a month. So I really don't
feel important to him at all. We've been
together over a year...And I would've
never imagined him acting like this. So I
want to raise my child without needing
him...Or feeling like i'm trapped to him.
I am willing to do anything to help my
child. I'm in training with my job and I
will start making really good money after
I finish but it's up until that point.
And I probably won't be where I want to be
until after the child is born in feb.
Can you get help with daycare? Can I get
on wic now? Is medicaid free for the
baby? I don't really know much about this
and the woman that I called for info
didn't really help. Thanks!
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bellax0x
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Jun 2004 Posts: 3572 Location: Jersey Baby!
Posted: 08-15-04 22:58pm
You can go to planned parenthood and they
may give you some baby things. Wic and
medicaid are great programs too! Theyre
also programs to help people afford rent (
if youre living on your own ). Hope I
helped! Good luck!
<3
gaby
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kim80
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Jun 2004 Posts: 56 Location: NC
Posted: 08-15-04 23:01pm
I'm interested in the programs to help
people afford rent....Do you have any more
info about that?
Thanks
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kim80
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Jun 2004 Posts: 56 Location: NC
Posted: 08-16-04 14:39pm
I really need advice....Anything at all
that you can give...Thanks.
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4922 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 08-16-04 14:52pm
Ok first where do you work?
Heres my advice. Get on wic now. You can
get things like milk, eggs, cheese, and
cereal. Second you should not give this
baby the fathers last name. It deserves
yours not his. He doesnt want the baby
remember? You dont need a guy like that.
Second do you live at home? Do you have
insurance? If not get on medicaid. See
if you can apply for food stamps. There
are programs for daycare and rent. When
you have the baby start the paperwork for
childsupprt. Once you have the baby you
can put the baby on medicaid too. Where
are you from? You should call planned
parenthood and im sure they can help.
Your wic office can help too.
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kim80
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Jun 2004 Posts: 56 Location: NC
Posted: 08-16-04 19:05pm
nikki_caro
wrote:
ok first where do you
work?
Heres my advice. Get on wic now. You
can get things like milk, eggs, cheese,
and cereal. Second you should not give
this baby the fathers last name. It
deserves yours not his. He doesnt want
the baby remember? You dont need a guy
like that. Second do you live at home?
Do you have insurance? If not get on
medicaid. See if you can apply for food
stamps. There are programs for daycare
and rent. When you have the baby start
the paperwork for childsupprt. Once you
have the baby you can put the baby on
medicaid too. Where are you from? You
should call planned parenthood and im sure
they can help. Your wic office can help
too.
i'm in training at an upscale hair salon.
I would not need assisstance for a very
long time becuase I will be financially
stable but it's in the meantime that I
will need help with. I have insurance for
myself but it's going to be too expensive
to add my child onto it at first. The
father doesnt have a job so i'm afraid
that I will not be able to get child
support...Which is concerning me right
now. I still live at home because I did
the whole college thing and then went to a
technical school after....I'm almost on my
feet....But it won't happen until after I
have my child in feb. I live in nc.
I'm very curious about the support for
childcare and rent....Where would I find
out information about that? Thank you
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4922 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 08-16-04 20:06pm
You can either ask the wic office or your
local aide. Im not sure where you live or
what it would be called. Im sure the same
place you get your food stamps and
everything can help you. If you tried to
take the guy to court to get child support
the judge makes him get a job and if not
it gets worse like jail time or something.
Have you told anyone else your pregnant?
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CAMAROGIRL42482
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Feb 2004 Posts: 98 Location: FENTON
Posted: 08-16-04 21:15pm
Where you live they might have hud. It
is where you can find a place to live and
they will help pay for a portion of it, or
maybe even all of it. There is a waiting
list sometimes but if you call the
division of family services they can give
you more info on the hud and some
apartments offer a rent assistence, and
have a shorter waiting list. They can
even help you get a home. And you might
be able to get energy assitance where they
help you with your electric bill. They
will also help pay for daycare when you
are working and if you are not working the
will give you some assistane to help pay
for things. This is normally only for 5
years that you can be on it. I would
just sugest to call your local dfs
(division of family services) and ask some
info. Good luck
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