Joined: 07 Aug 2004 Posts: 15 Location: California
Postpartum Sex-yuck! Posted: 08-15-04 23:33pm
I am 9 weeks postpartum and do not have
the desire to have sexual intercourse.
My husband, however, was counting the 6
weeks until the doctor gave the green
light. Besides the usual fatigue, I just
don't want to! My husband wants it
though. It is simply uncomfortable! We
are running out of options. First of
all, my system is mixed up. I am bipolar
and trying to get used to new meds. My
thyroid is out of wack as I have not had a
period yet. (i am not breastfeeding) I
have been sliding up and down with
depression. My meds include trileptal,
zoloft, and remoran. I know zoloft has
sexual sideeffects and trileptal causes
birth control pills to be ineffective. I
don't want another baby now! Oh, also my
husband is having some problems because he
is on zoloft too. I would like to get
off zoloft and just be on remoran, but my
body likes zoloft. I told my husband to
change his medicine, but won't do so until
his next appointment next month. I have
to wait til then?!
This department of our lives really sucks.
I don't look forward to it. I feel
it's work and want to get it over until
next time. There's no romance. I would
like it to improve, but we are stuck. Do
other women feel like this? This is
affecting our marriage bigtime.
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 08-16-04 20:09pm
Well, in my opinion he really needs to
respect your situation. Your hormones are
still trying to equal out, not to mention
all of these meds getting back into your
system. You don't want to have sex?
Then don't. You two are married not just
dating and he needs to understand this.
Besides what is the point of having sex
with someone who isn't in the mood anyway?
That is pointless.
Maybe if he would take the pressure off of
you and you two wouldn't stress about it
then you would want to have sex again.
And if you don't want to get pregnant
again and cannot take birth control then
use condoms!
Everything will even out you just have to
give it time and not pressure each other.
