Cheating

Well, let me tell you, I have plenty of experience with cheating boyfriends...Although I cant say for certain...Just do what I did, check his phone...If he's stupid he'll forget to erase phone numbers and stuff. Also, if you have friends that are also his friends they can yu things. But trust me on this one...Thing will go to hell if your wrong so be careful.

Thank you, the phone he is very careful he had cheated on his one girlfriend (from what I hear) and says he wont let that happen again. I dont know if it is one way or the other

Have you heard the saying "once a cheater, always a cheater"? If he did it with one girl, what makes you think he won't do it with you. Has he started taking showers as soon as he gets home, or smell different? It doesn't sound good at all. Maybe one day you can fallow him? I don't know. i'm sorry though if he is. Hope you find out soon.

Stacey

I say check his phone log or his phone bill. Check his car for things. Ask where hes been.

Jose (my husband) says smell his clothes for purfume. Check the pockets and his phone for any new numbers. Has his attitude changed? He says if he has then theres no changing him because he will just keep cheating.

Good luck!

If you think he's cheating he probably is... And like if u think he went somewhere he shouldnt have, ask him where he was... Men always come up with some elaborate story to tell you, and then a little later ask him again and his story will have many holes in it.

Well im very overprotective of jose lol. I always check his phone to see who hes called, I check his text messages, when I do laundry on saturdays I check all the pockets. I have him on check lol. And if he goes somewhere I call to see if hes really there lol. Im paranoid. He dont care though.

Nikki thats the way u gotta be. Not paranoid, just cautious. Lol

Ita. I am just the same way nikki. I have to wait until jon falls asleep in the middle of the day and sneak his phone and his wallet out of his pocket. I also get his phone bill at my house. And I check his voicemail. He doesn't even know the passcode. I never find anything, so maybe I shouldn't look, but it is always reassuring to know.

You cannot have a relationship without trust. If he is giving you a reason to not trust him then you need to find out what is going on/ leave him or trust him. Simple as that. You should not have to check up on the person that you love and who supposedly loves you. It is stressful and worrying and just something that you don't need.

Signs of cheating: being distant, saying he needs time alone, gets very defensive when asked questions related to what he has done/was doing/is going, etc., phone calls at odd hours of the night/day, cancelling plans with you, acts plain wierd, stays out later than usual, leaves for work earlier than usual, talks about friends that you have never heard of before, etc. I cannot think of anymore right now, but if I think of more I will post them. Good luck!

Wow you had a big list of signs. Its not that I dont have trust... Well actually yeah thats it lol. I trust no one. I dont trust til I know they deserve to be trusted. Not even jose, not my mom not my sister. Thats just me. I feel reassured when I find nothing. Cuz I check his voicemail too. Hes fine with it, but I just need to make sure

Oh, it's cool if you don't mind it!Lol. I just cannot do that kind of thing. I mean, don't get me wrong I have in the past but that was when the relationship was nearing an end. Plus, us women have instincts and we do know when our man is cheating. Whether we listen to our instincts or not is a completely different thing, but we do have them. I think a lot of the time we don't want to believe them so we listen to the lame excuses and the lies. Oh, I am gettin mad! I hate men!

Lol your funny! I hate men too! Lol. I know jose isnt but I like to check anyways. Hes with me like every moment so I know hes not. But I dont like cheaters!!!

I know I don't like cheaters either. It bothers me when a guy does that to his girl or vice versa it's just so wrong and hurtful.

With my boyfriend I do ask him things but he is with me all the time so I know he isn't cheating but it's never wrong to make sure. It's good to be cautious especially us women.

I can't stand how there are girls out there who don't even care if the guy is taken or not they just go for it and guys are so weak when it comes to saying no that is why we have to be the way we are. I don't think it's wrong. It's not that you don't trust him but in nikki's case she doesn't lol (nothing wrong with that) but we just have to keep are eyes open.

I think that camarogirl should take some advice and ideas to what these girls said because you want to check up on him but be careful you get caught and you were all wrong.

Good luck girl

madelyne~~

I know. I cannot stand the girls who don't care if the men are taken either. Of course it does take two to tango, but if you are like that it just angers me off.
I actually witnessed this bar fight about a month ago which is pretty amusing. Okay, this girl has this boyfriend named jeff. Well, jeff was text messaging this other girl and trying to get into her pants and whatnot. Well, the girl didn't do anything, but jeff's girlfriend got in her face and was yellin at her and blah blah. Well, jeff's girlfriend's theory was that if there weren't girls who were willing to have sex with jeff even though he has a girlfriend, then he wouldn't cheat on her and everything would be golden. Okay, whatever. Yeah, blame the girls! It isn't his fault at all! He cheats on her all of the time and she takes him back everytime blaming the girls. Stupid. And you know what else? Sometimes these girls honestly do not know that the guy has a girlfriend. I mean if the guy isn't honest to his girlfriend then why would he feel the need to be honest with person he is trying to screw?
Some people just amaze me, and not in a good way!

Oh yeah I cant stand girls like that. The ones that see a guy and want him no matter what. Ugh thats probably why I have like 1 girl friend. Well you all are my friends but I dont have any "in person" friends lol. I told jose if I ever caught him with another girl then most likely whether the girl knew about me or not, id probably beat her down anyways, then id beat jose too. I remind him of this often. Lol. I tell him "if you ever cheat I will not only beat your a$$, I will rip your nuts from your problem!" hehe hes like ok! I know!! Lol. I trust him but I dont. I just never let my guard down! Yeah guys are wimps! They see a girl that wants them and they dont even care if they have someone, they fall for the bait anyways! Dummies. Women are stronger than that, unless they are cheaters. I like to look at the menu but never order if you know what I mean lol. I dont cheat. And I hope to never ever cheat.

Lol. That is funny. Recently when I tell my boyfriends that if they even think about cheating on me then I will rip their dic$ off and make them eat it! And they know that I am freakin serious!!I don't put up with it.
I most likely wouldn't do anything to the girl if she didn't know because that isn't her fault. But if she knew I just may have to hurt her. Depending. Usually women like that are so darn pathetic though that it is pointless anyway. Losers!

Okay I asked raven hes been cheated on a lot and these are the signs he gave me:
-lack of sexual intrest
-unexplained marks ( i.E marks on necks, scratches on back)
-sudden changes in atitude
-unexplained numbers being calling your phone house

Well, ok, now that I got the above out of my system here I go.
Cheating tips. All of the above are good. (i speak from expierence. I was the one he was cheating with......So I know!)

plus, if his answers to why he dosen't call you as much are "i need time". Or "i just need time to think". It's caca.

If everyone in town tells you he's cheating..... I mean, everyone. He prolly is. That is how it was with tessa and me. Everyone and I mean everyone in town knew about josh and me and told her but she didn't think it was true..... But if like, everyone you know says it is........It prolly is.

If you see his car somewhere that it isn't normally at....And you know some chic lives there, he's not visiting her brother..... I promise.

If she's crazy enough to call you.... To talk to him about putting in her new cd player...... She's lying. She's just doing it to make him scared that she's calling you..... But she gets to talk to him and you think it's all about the cd player. He's putting something in, but I promise it's not a cd player......

If you can't figure out why he never had gas in his car when he usually did. He's going visit her.

And he can only go out with his friends so much. That excuse is gettin old. Every weekend or only certain days that aren't normal for him..... Hehe. He's seeing more than his pals!

And as usual the smell/sex and such. You know all that though. Those are a few things I can think of. Been there, done that. I promise all guys are dogs so watch out.