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strawbrykiwi
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baby or no baby?
Posted: 07-21-03 20:08pm
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has anybody out there had to make the
dicision to have the baby or have an
obortion? how did you decide?
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MellyBaby
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Really think about it...
Posted: 07-21-03 21:08pm
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Well to start off..I never had to make
that choice..yet. But I know that if ever
i would get pregnant I would keep it.
Unless I have a very good reason not to
(no father, no money, no support, no
friends)...Then I could see why you
wouldnt want to keep it..but hopefully
thats not the case for you. They way I see
things...you are responsible for your own
actions. I know that accidents
happen...but you have to think about that
before you have sex. I also dont like the
thought of abortion because It Could risk
ur chance of having children in the
future. This is all my personal
opinion...but try to think about
everything that could happen in the
future. Anyways...Good Luck with whatever
u descide to do... 
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kpgurl99
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Posted: 07-22-03 06:57am
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I decided to have an abortion
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mmtolliver
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Re: baby or no baby?
Posted: 07-22-03 08:21am
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| strawbrykiwi
wrote: | | has anybody out there had to
make the dicision to have the baby or have
an obortion? how did you
decide? |
when i was 17 and prego
, i decided that's what i was going to do
, but then my mom found out and said that
i should not because that baby didn't ask
to come in this world. and did not do any
thing to be taken out of it. your baby is
innocent! let it live. if you have an
abortion then that will be a decision
you'll have to live with the rest your
life. and maybe even feel guilty about for
the rest of your life. i don't think you
really want an abortion because you are on
here asking people to anwser the question
for you. you will always wander what that
baby looked like, whether it was a boy or
a girl. honey i raised 2 kids at 18. there
is so much help out the now for young
girl. PLEASE KEEP YOUR BABY. and let your
mom know too. she is your mom she will
forgive you. she loves you. 
i wish i could hug you and make you feel
better
mmtolliver
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rcs2003
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Posted: 07-23-03 03:09am
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at a young age that i am, i know 2 many
girls that are in jr high having babies.
personally, i feel that there is nothing
wrong with having an abortion if u are 2
young which in my opinion is at least
16-17 because you can at least get a
decent job 2 support your baby
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mmtolliver
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RCS2003
Posted: 07-23-03 08:57am
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Well my mom use to say, if your old enough
to have sex and get pregnant, then you are
and need to be taking responsibility for
the baby.
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MellyBaby
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I agree...
Posted: 07-23-03 18:39pm
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I have to say that I very much agree with
'mmtolliver'. If your responsible enough
to let a guy in your pants..your
responsible enough to care for a
child..that YOU brought into this world.
thats why I don't believe in abortion!
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rcs2003
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mmtolliver
Posted: 07-23-03 23:03pm
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well thats your opinon and i respect that.
all im saying is that if you are having
sex be smart about it and try your best
not to get pg and if you are at the right
age to be able to get a decent job you
will be able to take care of it.
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MellyBaby
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I know...
Posted: 07-24-03 00:59am
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I know what you are trying to say. But you
arnt too young to get a decent job. I work
with a lady who is 28 and she has an 11
year old daughter. She got pg at 15 years
old, and right now..she is working at the
same place as I am and she is getting
payed way less than me...and they are
doing fiiine. So it's not impossible to
find a job that will give you money to
raise a child...and Im sure that your good
friends and family will help you raise it.
But again this is all my own opinon. And
Im saying thats im not impossible to find
a job if thats whats this is all about.
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mmtolliver
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baby or no baby
Posted: 07-24-03 07:17am
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i think the only time i would be for
abortion would be if the doctors new
early, real early that the baby was brain
dead or majorly not capable of living a
normal life, or like if you were raped.
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mmtolliver
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Re: mmtolliver
Posted: 07-24-03 07:19am
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| rcs2003
wrote: | | well thats your opinon and i
respect that. all im saying is that if you
are having sex be smart about it and try
your best not to get pg and if you are at
the right age to be able to get a decent
job you will be able to take care of
it. |
I agree with this too.
use protection.
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allsmiles4rmme
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Dont Kill the Baby!
Posted: 08-06-03 22:36pm
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Even if you do decide you dont want the
baby....Dont kill it....Give it up for
adoption...Thats the least you can
do...There is even a woman on this site
that is desperately wanting to
adopt...Talk to her....I will even go find
her name for you....Plz dont kill that
inocent baby
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Patrick B. Asay
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Posted: 08-07-03 00:14am
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Don't kill innocent life. Do the right
thing and at least give it up for
adoption.
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carvytaph
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Posted: 08-07-03 08:34am
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Think of these things when you abort that
innocent bundle of joy that will have your
eyes, your hair, your smile...
Her/his first look at you, first smile,
first time he/she makes you laugh, first
hug to your breast, first cry, first step,
first word, finding out where he/she is
ticklish, first dream, first taste of real
food, first bath, first dirty diaper,
snuggling, the love you two will share,
the love he/she will give, hurt and pain
that makes all of us grow, laughing, first
tantrum, all the toys a little child can
play with, first time she plays dress-up
with your clothes, or uses mommy's
make-up, first time he plays
hide-and-seek, or bats a ball, the
beautiful moments only you two can share,
and the list can go on forever...
You would take that away from your baby?
Most times possible mothers don't think
about the baby but themselves. After
all, what is sacrafice? That's what
being a mother and raising children is all
about. Don't think being too young will
mean you won't have enough love for this
child. Is the time for a baby ever right?
Young or old? Why don't we take the
"bad" cirumstances with the good? Just
because a baby doesn't "feel" right or you
are too young, doesn't mean things won't
work out and you should feel the freedom
to take it's life. God does the giving
and the taking of lives, not us. It
doesn't mean that we won't grow, mature,
and learn from our mistakes. But you are
taking away the chance to do so. A child
is no mistake or accident. Maybe the
reason for this child is to make you grow
up (if you are too young). Give you some
responsibility. I think that abortion
shows we are hiding from our problems and
the irresponsibility of handing them off
to someone else. Deal with them. Keep
the baby. Raise it and give it a good
home. I am sure your parents would help
you. And be more supportive than you
realize.
There are plenty of couples out there that
would love to adopt because of their own
inability in child bearing. Don't think
that abortion will just make everything go
back to normal. No one realizes the
price you pay when you discard of the baby
that lives inside of you. The emotional
shreds will never heal. They will haunt
you everytime you look at a baby. You
think how you could have had your very own
precious bundle whether you were sweet 16
or 35. It will never go away. It will
make you weep and unforgiving of yourself.
Even when you have a child someday when
the "time is right" you will still
remember the day and the feelings you had
from the abortion.
Well, good luck and hope you make the
right decision.
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mmtolliver
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Abortion--comment From Carvytaph
Posted: 08-07-03 11:57am
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I am applauding you for your reply to this
girls help. It is the perfect answer!!!
:d :d
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MellyBaby
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Posted: 08-07-03 12:47pm
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That was the best answer...I sure hope
this girl realizes what she could be
missing if she has an abortion.
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Denise
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to Keep Or Not
Posted: 08-09-03 21:34pm
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I have to disagree, I don't think that
letting a guy into your pants and getting
pg means that you are responsible!!! But
you do have another option...Adoption! I
agree with the fact that it may cause you
problems later in life or illness/death
now by getting an abortion. Sure people
get them every day, and some people do
have troubles (physical and mental).
Your could always adopt and still be part
of the babies life... Open adoption!
Good luck tell your mom she can help,
expect her to be hurt too but don't give
up on her and hopefully she wont give up
on you!
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carvytaph
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Posted: 08-10-03 07:21am
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I think you must have misunderstood
me...Trials, tribulations, problems,
accidents whatever you may call them
happen so that we can learn from our
mistakes and better prepare or abstain
ourselves the next time. It can either
mold us into who we will become or we will
stay that immature, unresponsible,
uncaring, scared person forever.
Everything happens for a reason. If it
was always good things happening to us,
what would make us change, grow? We would
never learn. Here's a visual:
if a child puts his hand on a hot stove
burner, if he's lucky he will just get
away with a small burn. But I can
guarantee that he will not touch it again.
If he were to touch it and nothing
happened, would he learn from his mistake?
If there are consequences for our
actions we usually learn so much
quicker.
Denise...Maybe the reason she got pregnant
is to give her some responsibility, grow
up, and learn from her mistakes. I
wasn't saying the responsibility lies in
letting him in her pants; the result
though means she needs to take
responsibility and care for this child (or
give it up for adoption).
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Misty
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Me Too
Posted: 08-11-03 10:39am
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Im in the middle of deciding rite now and
I dont know what to do - im to young to
have a kid im still in high school but I
also don't want to give up my own child.
So confused. Let me know how u decide!!!
Good luck~
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Mesmerizeu15
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From a Teen Mother
Posted: 08-11-03 13:21pm
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I am a teen mother to a 3 month old son.
I wouldn't give him back if it meant the
world would come to an end. You have to
do what you feel is right in your heart.
And you have to do what is right for that
child. I agree with everyone who had
posted a message.
Aol sn : mesmerizeu15
your friend-
stacie
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