I am a 38 yr old single mother, just
seperated from my husband. I am so
stressed out all the time, worrying about
my kids, my parents, my siblings, you name
it. I try not to worry, but I can't seem
to help it.
Of course I also worry about money. I
have only been on my own for a couple of
months and am so broke. Not that we were
rich, but at least there were 2 incomes
coming in. Now there's only mine and so
many bills. I feel so alone without my
husband, even though I know we have been
unhappy for a long, long time. I suffer
from depression and anxiety and that is
why he wanted to split up.
I can use all the advice I can get!
Thanks
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4930 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 10-01-03 11:45am
Girl you should never worry and be happy
with the things you do have. Dont worry
so much and take things day by day. Have
you tried counceling to get your feelings
out? That always helps. I read this
before and it is so beautiful and true
maybe it will give you some courage!
Do not worry
25"therefore I tell you, do not worry
about your life, what you will eat or
drink; or about your body, what you will
wear. Is not life more important than
food, and the body more important than
clothes? 26look at the birds of the air;
they do not sow or reap or store away in
barns, and yet your heavenly father feeds
them. Are you not much more valuable than
they?
27who of you by worrying can add a single
hour to his life[2] ?
28"and why do you worry about clothes?
See how the lilies of the field grow.
They do not labor or spin. 29yet I tell
you that not even solomon in all his
splendor was dressed like one of these.
30if that is how god clothes the grass of
the field, which is here today and
tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he
not much more clothe you, o you of little
faith? 31so do not worry, saying, 'what
shall we eat?' or 'what shall we drink?'
or 'what shall we wear?' 32for the pagans
run after all these things, and your
heavenly father knows that you need them.
33but seek first his kingdom and his
righteousness, and all these things will
be given to you as well. 34therefore do
not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow
will worry about itself. Each day has
enough trouble of its own.
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4930 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 10-01-03 11:45am
Girl you should never worry and be happy
with the things you do have. Dont worry
so much and take things day by day. Have
you tried counceling to get your feelings
out? That always helps. I read this
before and it is so beautiful and true
maybe it will give you some courage!
Do not worry
25"therefore I tell you, do not worry
about your life, what you will eat or
drink; or about your body, what you will
wear. Is not life more important than
food, and the body more important than
clothes? 26look at the birds of the air;
they do not sow or reap or store away in
barns, and yet your heavenly father feeds
them. Are you not much more valuable than
they?
27who of you by worrying can add a single
hour to his life[2] ?
28"and why do you worry about clothes?
See how the lilies of the field grow.
They do not labor or spin. 29yet I tell
you that not even solomon in all his
splendor was dressed like one of these.
30if that is how god clothes the grass of
the field, which is here today and
tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he
not much more clothe you, o you of little
faith? 31so do not worry, saying, 'what
shall we eat?' or 'what shall we drink?'
or 'what shall we wear?' 32for the pagans
run after all these things, and your
heavenly father knows that you need them.
33but seek first his kingdom and his
righteousness, and all these things will
be given to you as well. 34therefore do
not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow
will worry about itself. Each day has
enough trouble of its own.
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4930 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 10-01-03 11:46am
Girl you should never worry and be happy
with the things you do have. Dont worry
so much and take things day by day. Have
you tried counceling to get your feelings
out? That always helps. I read this
before and it is so beautiful and true
maybe it will give you some courage!
Do not worry
25"therefore I tell you, do not worry
about your life, what you will eat or
drink; or about your body, what you will
wear. Is not life more important than
food, and the body more important than
clothes? 26look at the birds of the air;
they do not sow or reap or store away in
barns, and yet your heavenly father feeds
them. Are you not much more valuable than
they?
27who of you by worrying can add a single
hour to his life[2] ?
28"and why do you worry about clothes?
See how the lilies of the field grow.
They do not labor or spin. 29yet I tell
you that not even solomon in all his
splendor was dressed like one of these.
30if that is how god clothes the grass of
the field, which is here today and
tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he
not much more clothe you, o you of little
faith? 31so do not worry, saying, 'what
shall we eat?' or 'what shall we drink?'
or 'what shall we wear?' 32for the pagans
run after all these things, and your
heavenly father knows that you need them.
33but seek first his kingdom and his
righteousness, and all these things will
be given to you as well. 34therefore do
not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow
will worry about itself. Each day has
enough trouble of its own.
Thanks nikki, that was a nice reading.
I am in counselling
and that definitely helps. It's great to
have someone to talk to, who really has no
involvement in what's going on. That's
also why I started chatting on these
forums. It is helping too, to see that
there are other people out there with the
same kinds of problems....Poor us........
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ambra
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Oct 2003 Posts: 5
How Can I Stop Worrying So Much Posted: 10-05-03 16:16pm
Maybe you should, at least temporarily,
talk with your doctor about putting you on
anti-depressant or anti-anxiety
medication. I take celexa and it really
helps me.
Good luck.
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Eloise
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Oct 2003 Posts: 21 Location: Georgia
My Sister's N Your Shoes, But I Have Been Depressed!! Posted: 10-05-03 18:52pm
I'm not all that good on the computer, but
I will do the best that I can for u to
understand me. I had brain surgery in
1998, that's when things were turned
around for me. My sister's husband died
after they were divorced. She has 3
children, all teenagers. Sometimes I feel
so sorry for her, because she's going thru
the ringer with them. I've never stood in
her shoes when it comes to what she's
going thru. I met my husband in 1979
& we're still together. My depression
(i think) stemmed from the brain surgery.
I am the total opposite of what I use to
be. It was very hard for me to cope with
myself. I really thought that I would be
working 6-months after surgery, but I just
started having 1 problem after another.
I'm have about 12 different symptoms now.
For years I tried to be the way I was
before surgery, after trying for so long,
I finally decided to accept me the way I
was, of course I prayed a lot. I love my
husband very much, he's an original, he
has always been there for me, but it was
hard for him to accept me the way I was
after surgery. I told him once that it
was very hard for me to accept myself.
After a lot of praying & researching,
I came to the realization that I wasn't
the only person n this world suffering.
Who was I to even think that I deserved
more attention than the doctors were
giving me. I had a ruff childhood
(mentally & physical), but thinking
back to my child hood, is what made me
think about things differently. It
doesn't matter how much pain we're n (and
believe me, as far as pain, i've been
there a lot) or what we're going through,
there's always someone out in this world
prostitute doing 5x's worst than us. When
I realized that with god's help, I started
feeling better about myself, even though I
can't drive yet, cook 1 thing at a time,
sleep more than usually, no alcolic
beverages, making sure that when I walk
there's someone with me, etc.......... I
have a lot of symptoms, but i'm always
thinking of other people. I do have other
mental issues, but I know that I can't
stop it, but I can control it. I know I
really don't know your situation totally,
but I can imagine, because of what my
sister's going thru. That's about all I
can say. I hope you don't wait until it
get's 2 late before u do anything. U
need help now, if u can read, write &
talk u will do fine, because your children
r going to need u more than any body.
When u know that u r depressed it's better
to get help sooner than later. I did
later & i'm just a big jumble or
problems because I waited to long. Best
of success to u. Because u have kids, so
right now u have to do what's best for u
& them. Good luck to u & your
children. When I started seeing a
psychiatrist, is when I started feeling a
little better.
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Eloise
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Oct 2003 Posts: 21 Location: Georgia
My Sister's N Your Shoes, But I Have Been Depressed!! Posted: 10-05-03 18:56pm
I'm not all that good on the computer, but
I will do the best that I can for u to
understand me. I had brain surgery in
1998, that's when things were turned
around for me. My sister's husband died
after they were divorced. She has 3
children, all teenagers. Sometimes I feel
so sorry for her, because she's going thru
the ringer with them. I've never stood in
her shoes when it comes to what she's
going thru. I met my husband in 1979
& we're still together. My depression
(i think) stemmed from the brain surgery.
I am the total opposite of what I use to
be. It was very hard for me to cope with
myself. I really thought that I would be
working 6-months after surgery, but I just
started having 1 problem after another.
I'm have about 12 different symptoms now.
For years I tried to be the way I was
before surgery, after trying for so long,
I finally decided to accept me the way I
was, of course I prayed a lot. I love my
husband very much, he's an original, he
has always been there for me, but it was
hard for him to accept me the way I was
after surgery. I told him once that it
was very hard for me to accept myself.
After a lot of praying & researching,
I came to the realization that I wasn't
the only person n this world suffering.
Who was I to even think that I deserved
more attention than the doctors were
giving me. I had a ruff childhood
(mentally & physical), but thinking
back to my child hood, is what made me
think about things differently. It
doesn't matter how much pain we're n (and
believe me, as far as pain, i've been
there a lot) or what we're going through,
there's always someone out in this world
prostitute doing 5x's worst than us. When
I realized that with god's help, I started
feeling better about myself, even though I
can't drive yet, cook 1 thing at a time,
sleep more than usually, no alcolic
beverages, making sure that when I walk
there's someone with me, etc.......... I
have a lot of symptoms, but i'm always
thinking of other people. I do have other
mental issues, but I know that I can't
stop it, but I can control it. I know I
really don't know your situation totally,
but I can imagine, because of what my
sister's going thru. That's about all I
can say. I hope you don't wait until it
get's 2 late before u do anything. U
need help now, if u can read, write &
talk u will do fine, because your children
r going to need u more than any body.
When u know that u r depressed it's better
to get help sooner than later. I did
later & i'm just a big jumble or
problems because I waited to long. Best
of success to u. Because u have kids, so
right now u have to do what's best for u
& them. Good luck to u & your
children. When I started seeing a
psychiatrist, is when I started feeling a
little better.
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gg
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Oct 2003 Posts: 2 Location: charlotte
Stress Posted: 10-06-03 11:09am
I am worrying I have anixty toqward
medicine and I am so scared that something
will happen to me. I go rto the dentsist
today I hate the novacaine shots will they
harm me help
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phil dennison
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Nov 2003 Posts: 71 Location: illinois
Posted: 11-14-03 23:59pm
Give and god will give.
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qt3
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Nov 2003 Posts: 264
Re: How Can I Stop Worrying So Much? Posted: 11-27-03 02:05am
stressedout
wrote:
i am a 38 yr old single
mother, just seperated from my husband.
I am so stressed out all the time,
worrying about my kids, my parents, my
siblings, you name it. I try not to
worry, but I can't seem to help it.
Of course I also worry about money. I
have only been on my own for a couple of
months and am so broke. Not that we were
rich, but at least there were 2 incomes
coming in. Now there's only mine and so
many bills. I feel so alone without my
husband, even though I know we have been
unhappy for a long, long time. I suffer
from depression and anxiety and that is
why he wanted to split up.
I can use all the advice I can get!
Thanks
the answer for me was cognitive behavioral
therapy (cbt). I was on meds for many
years before I found cbt and it cured me
and got me off meds in a remarkably short
period of time. Cbt is not like other
talk therapy. A good cbt therapist does
not care much about your past or why you
think you feel the way you do etc. A good
cbt therapist knows they cannot change
what's already happened to you but they
can help you change how you deal with what
happens in your life from here on out.
It's all about using the tools to learn to
think more clearly and accurately about
things and once you do your anxiety, panic
and depression will miraculously begin to
lift before your eyes. My favorite
starter book on cbt is "been there, done
that? Do this! By sam obitz based on
what I have seen with the people I know
who used cbt the more dedicated you are to
the tools the faster and deeper the
recovery regardless of how bad their
anxiety was when they got started. It was
inspiring to see the people that dove in
head first and how fast they started
seeing results to those of us like me that
were more skeptical and less dedicated to
using the tools in the beginning. Good
luck.
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purple333
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Dec 2003 Posts: 1421 Location: Sydney
Posted: 12-20-03 10:42am
All of you should go to an on-line search
engine (google or yahoo perhaps) &
look up trytophan it's what releases the
chemicals in our brain to balance our
serotonin levels which will then reduce
stress. It's in lots of foods, turkey,
most nuts, ricotta cheese, bananas,
pumpkin seeds & soooooooo many more.
Try something simple, natural & as I
assume you have to eat & this is in
food it's cheaper than medicines etc.
Another thing which works to balance
serotonin is the particular impact from
the suns rays between 6 & 7 am (even
if it's overcast) so take a gentle 30
minute walk (outdoors) at that time, take
the family, you'll all benefit.
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I am in counselling
and that definitely helps. It's great to
have someone to talk to, who really has no
involvement in what's going on. That's
also why I started chatting on these
forums. It is helping too, to see that
there are other people out there with the
same kinds of problems....Poor us........
