I am really upset right now... I realiz
ethat when girls come in here and want
advice ( not others decisions) about
abortion, some of you girls just
automatically say, adoption! I cannot
imagine carrying a baby for 9 months,
giving life to it, hearing its first cry
and actually find it in me to give this
baby, me away. I also believe that
adoption is great and gives many things to
many people, and god bless the woman that
can give those people that gift. But I
also know what its like to have an
abortion. But please when these girls
come in here don't just say don't have an
abortion, thats just making it harder..
Give them advice...Not pursue them..We are
not here for that.. When you are the one
asking for advice everyone is saying do
this, do this...They, we, come here for
venting advice a friend. Thanks girls! I
love these forums, and the people that
help us when we need it the most! God
bless!
Much love,
sami
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Suzy
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Sep 2003 Posts: 530
Abortion Posted: 10-01-03 05:20am
Dear shortee,
you are very right in saying what you
said, I totally agree with you. When I
found out I was pregnant at 16, abortion
wasn't what I chose, I chose to go through
with the pregnancy, but at the same time I
had the full support of my mum. She was
wonderful. Not everyone is lucky enough
to be in that situation and I do
sympathise with the girls who feel they
need to opt for the abortion. They
obviously have their reasons for doing so,
let's face it, it is not the nicest thing
to go through, I think if they felt they
had an easier, nicer option they would
prefer to take that. So when they are
crying out for help and understanding, I
think the last thing they want to hear is
"you can't have an abortion, that's
terrible." I think they know it's
terrible, and that is why it is so hard
for them to deal with the whole thing in
the first place. Women have been known
to kill or even torture their babies
because they have gone through with the
pregnancy and they can't handle the stress
of a crying baby at all hours of the
morning and night. I think under those
circumstances an abortion is probably the
smarter choice. Yes a child does have
every right to live, but so does the
mother, and let's face it we all make
mistakes. Like I said, abortion is not
for me under any circumstances, but I
would never condemn someone if they chose
it for themselves.
Regards,
.::suzy::.
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4921 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 10-01-03 12:08pm
Its true but when people ask "i dont know
if I should keep it or adopt", then thats
asking all the people here their opinion
on abortion or keeping it. And everyone
voices their opinion. They ask, we
answer. Thats all. But I dont get when
you say if you have it, you cant just give
it away, but yet you end the babies life
before it has a chance. I dont know, its
just a thought. If you got one then thats
on you to get. But everyone has different
thoughts on it, so you shouldnt be
offended as long as nobody is singling you
out and saying you did wrong.
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Suzy
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Sep 2003 Posts: 530
Posted: 10-01-03 12:12pm
I must say, abortion is a very touchy
subject. The very thought of it drives a
stake right through my heart personally,
but I who am I to judge who is right or
who is wrong. Like you said nikki,
everyone needs to have their opinion,
otherwise it wouldn't be a forum.
.::suzy::.
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4921 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 10-01-03 12:23pm
Oh yeah its a very sensative topic. I try
to keep my comments short because I dont
want to talk forever and hurt someone. I
read all the posts and they said
everything for me! But yup your right
suzy!
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expectingjoshua
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Dec 2003 Posts: 30 Location: Canada
Posted: 12-15-03 18:58pm
I have to agree completely with
nikki....You say that placing the baby
would be too difficult...But health
question it is easier to deal with? That
I will never understand. Having placed a
baby for adoption at age 16, I know what
it is like, and I know that I made the
better choice. She is beautiful, I get
letters, phone calls, and I know that my
daughter has a bright future. I may
wonder what life would have been life for
us had I kept her, but i'll never have to
wonder what her life would have been
like....Because I gave her the life she
deserves.
So without further ado, yes, we're here to
support and give advice, but when asked, I
don't feel that sugar-coating my responses
to cater to sensitive feelnigs will really
be helping at all. Nor would it be an
honest reply, so what good would it be
doing?
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KariM18
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jan 2004 Posts: 1436 Location: Grand Blanc, Michigan
Posted: 04-30-04 10:43am
Well it really doesnt matter in my opinion
how hard it is to carry a baby for 9
months, then give him/her up.. You have
to be selfless in that situation and think
about which is better for the baby. Not
which is harder for you. And in my
opinion, it should be harder to live with
the fact that u did away with a perfectly
innocent child that could be living with a
happy family right now. And although I
dont tihkn they should all be yelled at,
it really depends on the reason of why
they get an abortion... Im 7months preg..
Sure, iwasnt 'ready' but hey, its doable
and im going to work hard for my son...But
if I wasnt ready, I definitly would be
unselfish and give him to a loving family.
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 04-30-04 12:19pm
Well this particular post started out o.K
the fact is an abortion debate forum has
been created for people to express their
"opinions" this forum is not only to list
facts, or ask questions. If your opinion
on a particular situation is asked for
then so be it, but if not then please take
your opinions to the abortion debate
forum.
If on this forum someone is cruel or tries
to start a debate on this forum, it will
be deleted.
So, if you want to post your opinions on
abortion you are more than welcome to do
so on the abortion debate forum. It is
no longer allowed on here though.
Thanks
