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jEsSxx
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Im 14 And I Am Pregnant
Posted: 10-01-03 06:44am
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I am 14 and I am pregnant I havnt told mi
boyfriend yet I dont no how he will react
and I havnt told mi mum either I know she
will b upset but I want to hav tha baby I
jst need sum advice
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Dougmeister
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Posted: 10-01-03 07:13am
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Wow. That's a difficult situation to be
in. How far along do you think you
are?
I do not speak from first-hand experience,
but my advice is to not do anything rash.
The world is crawling with people who
will be very adamant about
pro-choice/pro-life and who will turn this
into an argument about that issue rather
than your situation.
You are probably hurting and scared. I
will pray for you, okay? I believe that
life is precious... All life.
They need to know, especially your mother.
Soon, I think.
Best advice for now? Pray. And i'm not
going to preach at you about abortion.
I'm sure you realize that that is one of
the biggest decisions you may ever make in
your life. I'll be praying and watching
this thread.
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Teri
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Teen Pregnancy
Posted: 10-01-03 08:25am
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I feel very sorry for you. At 14 years
old you should not be sexually active.
You are still a baby yourself. You need
to see a good doctor and counseling. If
you keep the baby you will ruin your life.
I would get an abortion right away.
You have your whole life ahead of you.
Your mind should be on school, dance
classes, soccer, gymnastics, not on being
with a boy sexually at this age. Please
seek help!!
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insurancegirl
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Pregnant
Posted: 10-01-03 08:41am
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Don't worry, it'll be ok. I know it's a
couple years diff., but I got preg at 16
and had my 1st baby at 17. I then had my
2nd at 18 and 3rd at 19. I graduated
high school and got my license to sell
insurance. If you try hard enough
everything will work out.
Let me know how everything goes.
Best wishes.
Jennifer 
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Suzy
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Posted: 10-01-03 08:57am
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Excellent advice jennifer,
i also had my daughter at 16, and yet I
went on to become a very well paid gaming
manager. I am now pregnant with my 2nd
child and very happy, I am sure you will
be fine. Be prepared though you are going
to hear lots of opinions from people
either telling you, you should have an
abortion or telling you, you must now keep
your baby, it's wonderful to get lots of
feedback from lots of different people,
but in the end the decision is yours. You
sound keen on keeping your bubby and I
think that is beautiful. Let's face it
your mum is going to be shocked when you
tell her. My daughter is now 13 and I
would fall over backwards if she told me
she was pregnant. But in saying that, the
decision would be hers, and I think if
your mum loves you she will stand by you
and help you through your difficult time
of need. Take care and good luck,
.::suzy::.
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roasted
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Re: Teen Pregnancy
Posted: 10-01-03 09:06am
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| teri
wrote: | | i feel very sorry for you.
At 14 years old you should not be
sexually active. You are still a baby
yourself. You need to see a good doctor
and counseling. If you keep the baby you
will ruin your life. I would get an
abortion right away. You have your
whole life ahead of you. Your mind
should be on school, dance classes,
soccer, gymnastics, not on being with a
boy sexually at this age. Please seek
help!! |
in all honesty, if I heard you say that in
person, I would of just shot you.
Preaching abortion is the worst thing you
can do. I have a neese who just had her
baby, and she's very dedicated to taking
care of it, and she's doing a wonderful
job of it. Keep in mind she is the same
age as this girl is we're talking about
here on the forum. Please do me a favor
and don't preach about abortion. As I
said, if I heard you say that in person,
you wouldn't be reading this. Good day.
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BabyPassion
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Posted: 10-01-03 09:57am
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Sweetie everything is going to be
okay......At your age I was scared that I
was pregnant.....It turned out I wasn't...
But it is a very hard and scary
situation......I had my son at 17.....That
is young as well.....And people will judge
you, but you can't let them get to
you....You are going to have to tell you
boyfriend.... I always said ' if they are
such a man to have sex, then they are a
man who needs to deal with this situation'
as for you mother, she will be shock but I
think she will get over it...Remember she
was pregnant with you and she know what
you are going though and that is her
future grandchild, so she will get over
it......I wish you the best of luck keep
us post and don't mind the cruel 'advice'
some people give here.
Your friend
passion
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carvytaph
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Posted: 10-01-03 10:13am
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Jess:
first tell your boyfriend and your mother.
Once they see that wonderful baby, they
will have a change of heart. Don't let
them discourage you. Keep your head
up!
Lots of kids have had early pregnancies as
some have shared with you, and I believe
that you can accomplish anything you put
your mind to. Don't let them discourage
you. You have already made up your mind
that you are keeping the baby and I think
that is a very wise decision. No one
decides when a baby should come into this
world and we don't have the right to take
it out. There are a lot of programs out
there to help the teen mothers and I think
it's a great idea. Heck, even 45-60 year
olds are going back to college. I was at
a college a few years back where they had
a seperate dorm for girls with children.
I think that's great. Why should we
demolish their dreams. Help them out.
To teri: so really you are telling her to
decide whether to finish high school and
play sports or homicide her own child??
Who said 14 year olds can't raise a child,
having help from others? Once every sees
that small precious, cute, gift from god
in their arms everyone's hearts will be
melted away. In your heart, jess, you
will know what to do.
Adoption is always an option too.
Best wishes!!
Carvytaph
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~*~Bree~*~Bree~*~
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Posted: 10-01-03 10:47am
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Yeah that sucks.....I am 14 two and I dont
know how you would actually do somthing
like that cause boys you age are
immature...I should know....Well be
carfull when you do cause the boys at this
age are very immature!
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Kewball
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Congrats...
Posted: 10-01-03 10:47am
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A baby is a beautiful thing. My mom had a
baby at 14. She went to school but quit
at the 11th grade. She's wise tho.
People will help you. Friends and family
are they best thing for help. They love
you.
God bless.
 **kewball***
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nikki_caro
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Posted: 10-01-03 10:54am
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Dont get an abortion, you are sooo young
but you need to do this. Tell your mom
and your boyfriend. And make sure you are
pregnant.
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totallyconfused
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Posted: 10-01-03 18:18pm
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Im sure once you tell your mom about it,
there may be some discomfort, but she will
still love you non the less. A friend of
mine never got along with her mother,
until she became pregnant at the age of
16, now her mother and her are closer than
ever. Im not saying getting pregnant is
the best way to get close to loved ones,
im just telling you this to reassure you
that your mother will love you always, and
that its not going to be as bad as you may
be thinking. I give you hope and lots of
blessing. Just be sure so see a doctor
and take care of yourself very carefully.
Its easy to loose a child early on.
Remember dont let ne one force you into n
e decision. Do what you feel is best, and
make sure you put a lot of thought into
it. Hell im still afraid to tell my mom
im pregnant, and im 20 yrs old. But its
the best thing to do.
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precious_45885
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Posted: 10-01-03 20:21pm
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I got pregnant at the age of 16 and my
life became very hard. There is no doubt
your life will change and you will have to
except responsibilty for your actions.
Children are a hugh step and there are
people in the age of 30 who cant take on
their responsibilty. So being 14 and
pregnant. Sweetie you are suppost to be
playing and going skating. You will have
your freedom taken away because it is time
to grow up now. I didnt have no one help
me because of course the father ran. He
was very immature and scared. I dropped
out of school and I regret it. If you do
keep the baby keep to your responsibilty
and finish school and be a good mother.
When you bring a child in this world you
commit your life to them. Tell your
boyfriend and mother and then go from
there. Yes my mother was upset but she
got over it and loved me even more. But
she did make sure that I was the one who
was going to take care of the baby and get
a job. Sweetie god bless you and I hope
that all goes well. But think of whats
best for you and your baby. Its your
choice and no one elses. Good luck!
Melanie
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BabyPassion
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Odessa
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14 And Pregnant
Posted: 10-01-03 21:24pm
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I understand your afraid to tell your
mother but I believe she would first be
upset at the situation and then when
everything settles down, she will then
start to understand that things happens.
I had an 18 year old staying with me for a
short time because her mother put her out
because she was pregnant. I helped her
best I could by keeping communications
open with her and her parents. She is
back at home and her mother is now
decorating the spare bedroom for her new
grandchild. I know there's a age
difference in the scenario, but the mother
at one point felt she failed as a mother
because her daughter was pregnant, but
than she started thinking where would her
grandchild wind up and that overrode
everything. I believe your mother will
be hurt but after time passes she will be
there to help you. I am not looking
forward to any of my children coming home
to say "i'm pregnant". I have three
children (all girls)and I know I will be
upset, hurt, feeling everything I tried to
instill in her went in one ear and out the
other and a failure as a mother but the
chose my child make is her chose. I will
be hurt in the beginning but will have to
accept it and try to help any of them the
best of my ability. If they need to talk,
hold their hands or just give them support
I will be their for my child or children
as best as I can. Things happens
sometimes for the best and sometimes for
the worst.
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lynnieg D
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Posted: 10-01-03 23:29pm
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:d congratulations: a baby is a beautiful
thing. I think you are a beautful person
wanting to keep the baby at such a young
age. If he doesn't support the fact that
you are carrying his beautiful child, tha
is his loss and you deserve better. I
wish you the best of luck... Good luck
lynn
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Mommy_2_b
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Posted: 10-02-03 08:54am
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Sweetheart I feel for ya. Being 14 and
pregnant is not a good situation.
Especially since you're so young. First
off be careful what you say back to people
there are a lot of people that are
pro-life on here and may not agree with
things you say - even though you said u
want to keep the baby. You need to tell
your mom and your boyfriend
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jEsSxx
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Thnx
Posted: 10-02-03 09:40am
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Thank - u all 4 ur advice I hav told mi
b/f and he said that he will suport me on
wat I want and we are sorting it out thank
u 4 ur help thou
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BabyPassion
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lil666ane
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Omgoodness....you'll Be Fine
Posted: 10-02-03 17:48pm
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Im 17 and recently found that i, along
with my sister also 17, am pregnant. My
boyfriend was the first one to know
because he bought the pregnancy test and
stood with me to take it. ( theres an
idea for you to tell him.) and we showed
my mom the test when it showed up to tell
her. She was mad but now she has learned
to cope with it and hopefully I have been
some help (try these methods they may work
for you to.) tell us what happens
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