Lately my relationship with my boyfriend
(brent) has been bad. He's bein treatin
me like sh*t for the past week. The other
night he came into my work and gave me a
braclet and said how sorry he was for
treating me like that and said he would
change. We have bad communication and
everyone sees that in our relationship so
I was tryin to talk to him and tryin to
talk about our relationship. At the end
of our conversation I felt nothing but
hurt. Alls we accomplished was the fact
that we found out that my feelings are a
lot stronger for him than his are for me.
He said he didnt realize that I loved and
cared for him so much. He did say that he
loves me just not as much as I do him. Is
anybody elses relationship like that?
Last night I was so pissed I got all my
stuff and was ready to move out at 2 in
the morning. He ended up stopping me from
leaving after having sat in the other room
with his friends on the computer knowing
that I was packing my stuff. I just want
to know if anybody elses relationship is
like this.
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bellax0x
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Jun 2004 Posts: 3572 Location: Jersey Baby!
Posted: 08-28-04 10:57am
Well mine isnt. But im sure its common,
girls are more clingy then boys are. Im
sure if you work on your communication
issues with him, it will help a lot! Good
luck hun!
<3
gaby
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June4life
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jul 2004 Posts: 550
Posted: 08-28-04 11:19am
Hmm, my relationship isnt like that
either, but that doesnt mean its wrong!
My boyfriend is the kind of person that
had to wait for me to initiate things. I
said I love you first, I hugged him first,
kissed him first, all that stuff I
initiated. I guess I was kinda clingy to
him (and still am) but I mean, thats all
it took and now out relationship is
amazing. Now he initiates pretty much
everything else.
Maybe he acted like that because his
friend was there? I know my bf acts
differently around his friends. Not bad,
but different. Maybe he was afraid to
show his true feelings for you because his
friend was there?
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Shayna
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Jul 2004 Posts: 180 Location: NY
Posted: 08-28-04 12:11pm
He sounds like a dirtbag ...He loves u but
not as much as u love him? I probably
would have left if I was u. Maybe he's
afraid of commitment??
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Michelle1337
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Aug 2004 Posts: 1739 Location: Houston, Texas
Posted: 08-28-04 14:24pm
Chris pulled that whole I love you but not
as much as you love me thing on me once.
I got really mad at him. But atleast
he's being honest. Maybe he feels like
he isnt giving as much love as he's
recieving but he dosent know how to give
more? I've felt that way before. It
makes you feel like your using the person.
Have you told him how much you feel that
y'all dont communicate?
Do the two of you start to fight and yell
alot when you do try to communicate?
Me and chris had that problem...Mainly
this happens because the both of you are
being selfish and closed minded. If you
stay calm and open minded to what he has
to say he will do the same back. But as
soon as you get mad and aggravted he will
too.
Try telling him that y'all need to
communicate and then just stay very calm,
and if he starts to freak just be
like..."baby, calm down, i'm not upset so
you have no reason too be" everytime he
starts to freak...
Well good luck!!
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tweety12986
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Jun 2004 Posts: 772 Location: houston
Posted: 08-28-04 14:27pm
Ok me and michael fought alot, but then I
broke up with him and now he's like great
and stuff, so I think you just have to
make him realize he cant just take you for
granted, becuz when u leave they realize
they were a-holes and try their hardest to
change for you to come back, but dont go
back real soon, make him hurt and want it
bad.
Meagan
