Hello, I am wondering if I might be
suffering from depression. I am
curently in a realtionship with this guy,
and have been together for 2 and a half
years. When we first got together
things were good then we moved in together
because I was pregnant and things just
seemed to go down hill. During my
pregnancy I became irratible and andgry,
and my boyfriend would leave and not come
back for a week. I had a really hard
time with trusting him, I always thought
that since he would leave me and my
daughter that he didnt love us and that he
might have found someone new. I dont
know what to do. He tells me all the
time that he dont love me and wants me to
leave. I feel as though no one is here
to help, his mom always seems to take his
side. I always seem to pick the wrong
guy. I always wonder what if I stayed
with this guy would things be different.
All I want is for someone to love me and
my kids. I always seem to do things that
drive them away. Help me please.
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babygiraffe123
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 May 2005 Posts: 7
Posted: 07-06-05 16:24pm
Yes, this does sound like depression to
me. I suffer from depression, as well as
panic and anxiety attacks, I am unable to
make eye contact with anybody, cannot
trust people, and I have a devastating
fear of social situations, so I know all
the signs. Crying all the time, feeling
lousy, not wanting to do all the
activities you once loved, and lashing out
at people. As for your boyfriend, he
doesn't sound right for you. If he's
saying he doesn't love you and wants you
to leave, you're better off without him.
I am only 23 years old and have suffered
unbearable heartbreak. First, when I was
5 years old, I was sexually assaulted by
my mom's brother in law, who turned around
and killed my aunt (his wife) when she
confronted him about it, my father's
severe alcohol problem, being the school
nerd, and having a best friend who
repeatedly tried to kill me, which is one
of the many reasons I can't trust people.
I have tried suicide 4 times, but was
unsuccessful. The only people keeping me
going right now are my husband and our 2
daughters. But anyway, if you ever need
someone 2 talk 2, please feel free to
email me. My name's kari and I am at baby
giraffe123@yahoo.Ca
i am always looking 4 some1 to talk to and
offer support.
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jurplesman
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Jul 2004 Posts: 139 Location: Sydney Australia
Posted: 07-08-05 23:41pm
Hello camarogirl,
this is an awful situation to be in, and
with an uncaring boyfriend around it
certainly would be in the best interest of
you and your baby to leave him.
I know that this will be very traumatic
for you and I hope that you have some
support somewhere. What about your own
parents?
Your depression may be both internal and
external. You are obviously under immense
pressure, but since you got some
depressive feelings when you were
pregnant, there may be biological element
involved too.
When you are pregnant you will undergo
tremendous hormonal changes, and at such
time you should have the social support of
the father of the child. He is obviously
too immature to give that support.
As to internal causes of depression it
would be worthwhile to go on a
hypoglycemic diet. This diet will help
your body to build the right hormones and
neurotransmitters for your to cope with
continual stress situations.
Please look up:
“the hypoglycemic diet” at our web
site.
However, behind this is also the question
of your low self-esteem. Why is it that
you got yourself emotionally involved with
an immature man who obviously has his own
problems?
The reason seems to be that you suffer
from a negative self-image and people with
a low self-esteem are likely to choose the
wrong partners.
If you agree that you have a low
self-esteem, be assured that this can be
overcome fairly quickly if you are
prepared to study our self-help
psychotherapy course at our web site, that
is completely free of charge.
This course looks at communication
systems, how people communicate with one
another and how we communicate with
ourselves, how we acquire a self-image and
if this is negative how it affects all
other departments of our life. You can
get rid of a negative self-image through a
series of mental exercises - retraining
the mind as a it were - as explained at
the web site.
You can do this course also with the help
of a counsellor and in about eight weeks
time you start to feel different about
yourself and your boyfriend.
Once you have completed this course I can
guarantee you that you will never allow
yourself to be emotionally caught up with
a dysfunctional man again. In fact your
sense of self-worth will ensure that you
never undersell yourself. It will enable
you to find a man whose worth would match
yours.
