When Your Husband Changes Moods Like Clothes Posted: 10-02-03 04:56am
I have been married since 7/4/03. The man
was as wonderful and even better than best
and swept me right off my feet. He is
disabled somewhat which I found out was
from 20 years ago when he shot himself in
the head...The injury did not do much
harm--it was the after the fact swelling
of the brain that did the damage, so now
his speech and walk is difficult for
him..Anyway very nice religious man but
when I started living with him after we
got married something went very
wrong...Every so often he would just plain
wake up in a bad bad mood...He would sit
and smoke and not do a whole lot of
nothing for a few days not even eating
much and certainly no grooming...After a
couple of days of this build up---bam it
would happen---he became the most evil man
I have ever met...Nasty rude, mean, and in
your face yelling and screaming etc on and
on...Until after a few days he would be
fine again...He does not drink and there
never--repeat never has been a fight
between us prior to his mood
changes....Odd --talked to few people who
think he has been ill for a real long time
and could be bi-polar or scidzoid or his
brain is swelling again and it could be
causing a personality change....Whatever
the reason--i have pleaded and baged him
to see a doctor...A physical doctor or
even a marriage counselor to disguise the
intent so to speak hoping that at least
these professionals could see what was
going on and recommend some treatment for
him...But no dice...He will not see
anyone...Period..The mental health agency
in this area said all they could do was to
try and call him and invite him in to
talk...When he is like this however he
will not answer his phone for days....I am
out of the house...Could not stand the
rages but he still needs help and he does
not see it at all...He does not really
have friends but a pastor tried to talk to
him and his parents and myself to no
success.....What can I do..I love this man
and realize that he is very ill and
desperately needs help but how can I reach
him to get it to him...I tried very hard
to explain to him about this but there is
no rationality to him at this
time.....Someone please give me some
ideas...I feel as though I am in morning
for someone and I guess I am because I
just lost a husband to this hidden disease
and I can find no answers....
