How My Heart Was Broken And Still Is! Posted: 10-02-03 12:29pm
I have known my ex-boyfriend for a year
now(the 25th of this month
exactly).Everything was perfect we had the
best times together, the same friends, I
loved his parents, he liked mine.We were
so happy then I was accused of cheating on
him with this one boy b/c our relationship
was knida fading away and that disturbed
me next thing you know I am in a movie
with one of my guy friends and I am
getting broken up with for trying to give
us both some space. I thought to myself
so many times if he doesnt trust me then
we are we in a relationship but ihe told
me he trusted me I knew he didnt and now I
know for sure. He cried the day he broke
up with me and told me he missed me
already that night so we were gonna get
back together he told me he wanted to be
with me then the next day he told me he
thought alot and didnt care anymore.Then
he said he didl ove me. Now he went back
on his words he told me we would always be
friends no matter what and he would always
love me.He did nt stick to that.What do
you guys think he is trying to do?***one
more thing about a day or two after we
broke up I was going on a date with this
guy named billy b/c the last time he broke
up with me I sat around mopeing and
refused to do that this time so we get
there and my ex starts crying and storms
off b/c he said I didnt care anymore and
he does and he doesnt know why. Now he
doesnt want me to talk to him aand says I
never did anything for him that isnt true
I dropped my date that day for him b/c I
couldnt stand the thought of him crying
over me.
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ccn330
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Oct 2003 Posts: 7 Location: IL
Wow Posted: 10-02-03 13:50pm
Honey, if you have no trust in a
relationship, then you need to get out.
You should be able to go out with any of
your friends (guys or girls) and not have
to worry about wether or not he's trusting
you.
If your relationship is over for sure,
then I solute him for always wanting to
stay friends. That's very mature of him
and I really think you both will get more
out of life as friends. Who knows, you
could find "the one" any day now.
Besides, you really shouldn't worry about
him crying. Alot of guys do it. And it
could mean one of two things. Either they
are upset and need time to get over it, or
he lied and is just trying to make you
feel bad. Either way, best of luck with
all. Let me know how everything goes!
Sincerely,
ccn330 (christa)
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niceguy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Aug 2003 Posts: 150 Location: New York
My Two Cents Posted: 10-02-03 14:15pm
I think the fact that he cried means a
lot. He loves you dearly and
here you are dating anyone you can get
your hands on.
He cares about you! Men don't cry over
small matters. He poured his heart out
for you, but saw that you didnt have the
same feelings for him.
Despite that, he was willing to have you
as a friend for life.
Shows how much he cares about you.
At this point you have two choices:
1) love him and only him and forget the
rest.
2) tell him you dont love him and stop
being dishonest to him and
move on and let him move on to someone
that will truly love him.
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4921 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 10-02-03 15:26pm
In my opinion I dont know about a guy
crying. I mean ive seen jose cry and I
know he really means it, but this one time
my sister was dating this dummy steve and
they only went out for a while and on
valentines day he gave her a diamond heart
necklace and then like 2 hours later she
dumped him, he started crying and telling
everyone how much he loved her and blah
blah blah and then like the very next day
he was hitting on her friend and they
started going out and he was telling
everyone he dumped my sis and made her
cry, he was a big sissy. I just dont know
about guys crying over those kinds of
things, I mean I wouldnt fall for it. But
he cried real tears and even let the guys
see it! And he was a big lier too. And
big fake. I dont know about your guy
though, but thats just my thoughts.
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Suzy
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Sep 2003 Posts: 530
Posted: 10-02-03 23:21pm
Dear sammy,
i think it really depends on how open you
want your relationship to be. I mean in
my last relationship, I was with the guy
for 5 years and he used to go out with
other girls to movies and stuff while I
was working, only to find out later he had
been playing around on me the whole time
we were together. I am married to a
wonderful man who has no desire to go out
with other women or date them, and nor do
i. I have no interest in dating my male
friends ever, my husband brings me the
happiness in my life, no one else. Try to
understand where he is coming from sammy,
it sounds as though he wants a little more
closeness with you.
Good luck,
.::suzy::.
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badfish_2
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Oct 2003 Posts: 5 Location: galesburg il.
No........get Away Posted: 10-29-03 12:29pm
Look if he wants you hell stay if he loves
you he has too trust you thats part of the
meaning to the word,as far as crying goes
its dirty trick!He doesnt want you to be
in a relationship with anyone and for some
messed up reason not even with him,look
ive had my fair share of pain and abuse
and from a guys stand point you should get
away from him and not buy into his b.S.
Hes playin head games with you ive been
there myself.
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phil dennison
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Nov 2003 Posts: 71 Location: illinois
Posted: 11-16-03 22:40pm
He is a controll freak . He
does whats best for him. And what's best
isn't you. Get over him!!!!! Thank god
your not married and have kids. Now about
you. You will pick the exact same person,
you must change. Good luck to you..
. He
does whats best for him. And what's best
isn't you. Get over him!!!!! Thank god
your not married and have kids. Now about
you. You will pick the exact same person,
you must change. Good luck to you..