I quit my job at the beginning of this
year because I was miserable and looking
for something different and new. I
thought I would be able to get a job soon
after but I ended up not having a job for
3 months. I am recently married but we
have been dating for 4 years. The fact
that I haven't had a job is making it hard
on my husband because he is paying the
bills and paying for everything that we
do.
We got into a really huge fight a while
ago. He has been blaming our money
shortage on me for three months now
telling me that he has been spending all
his extra saved up money on bills because
I dont have a job and can't help him out
with rent. Of course I feel horrible
about it. But I found out that he had
been lying to me the whole time. He had
plently of extra money stored away and had
been spending it on his car. While
telling me he was only spending $40 here
and there, the bill ended up being over
$600!! When I confronted him about it he
told me it is his money and he can spend
it on what ever he wants to without having
to consult me about it.
After that, I had recieved a large sum of
money from the university I am attending
which was left over from my student loan.
I told him I was going to spend some of
that money on buying things for our new
apartment and he told me that not only can
I not spend my money, but I had to spend
it on things for us like groceries. I
went off on him because I was mad that he
gets to spend his money on whatever he
wants but I can't do what I want with my
money. He told me that I can't spend my
money because I am a "deadbeat" that sits
at home all day on my ass doing nothing
but watching tv and surfing the web.
Which is totally not true, ever day he
comes home the apartment is sprakling, but
do I get any thanks or recognition?
Anyway, my point is, ever since that I
have been feeling like absolute crap and
not interested in having sex with him.
We havent had sex in over a week (which is
extremly rare for us). Does he deserve
it or am I a total witch?
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 09-10-04 01:59am
I'll tell you what he deserves...A
divorce!
Don't ever let anyone talk to you or treat
you like that. You need to leave him.
First of all, when you two married you
voweled to take care of each other and
that was his turn to take care of you.
You aren't suppose to cry and whine about
it! I can see if he made like minimum
wage and you two couldn't afford to eat,
but he obviously afforded everything fine
with money to spare!
You spend your money on what you want!
Dont listen to him! And you really need
to leave him and find someone who respects
you. He sounds like he is a real loser.
How old is he anyway, 19?
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PattyV
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 May 2004 Posts: 1103 Location: Chicago area
Posted: 09-10-04 16:22pm
Nothing kills your sex life like
resentment!You need to work things out
before you will feel like making love
again.I don't know about you,but the last
thing on my mind after an argument is
sex!I never got the whole"make-up sex"
thing.If i'm pissed,you are not getting
any lovin' until i'm over it.Hope you work
things out,being jobless is a temporary
thing and can be real stressful.Good luck
to both of you.Patty
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