Joined: 11 Dec 2003 Posts: 7 Location: Fort Washington, Maryland
Don't Take It Personal...???? Posted: 09-10-04 13:48pm
Has anybody ever experienced this?
You meet somebody in person for the first
time and you're attracted to them. You
initiate conversation, you ask for some
means of opening communication with them
(phone number, e-mail address, whatever),
but they nicely turn you down.
Or...
You meet someone and you get to know them.
You're attracted to them physically and
you discover you're attracted to their
personality too. You're both not
involved and are open to dating. You ask
the person out on a date, and they say
'no'.
Does the rejection still hurt you? Do
you find yourself being told "don't take
it personally," but that just doesn't feel
like a resolve you can accept, because in
your mind, if the person was attracted to
you, you would have been successful?
Love yourself first
everything happens for a reason when its
time its time and you will know the
difference
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billagurl
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Oct 2004 Posts: 11 Location: Grande Praire
Boy Or Girl??? Posted: 10-19-04 16:42pm
Unfortunatley I believe that it comes down
to whether your a guy or a girl , both
sexes ahve very different reasoning ..If
its a girl who turns you down, then I
definatley wouldnt take it personally,
aswomen we are constantly "hit on" all the
time so were used to having a wall up to
protect us ...You wouldnt belive what some
guys say to get a girl in bed, so weve
come to expect or belive that most not all
but most guys only want one thing from us
when they try to ask us out..So if a girl
says no shes really just saving herself
from the drama.....
As for a guy regecting someone...As I
quote "sex and the city"
...."he's just not that into you"...
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fighter12389
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Oct 2004 Posts: 32 Location: minnesota
Reply Posted: 10-24-04 14:38pm
Yeah i'm going through something sorta
similar.The guy that i'm attracted to is
attracted to me too. But he won't go out
with me. He wants to be friends with
benefits. Which we are but it's not a big
relationship.Were not even doing anything
really but when I ask him why he doesn't
want to go out or if he really likes me.
He says he does but theres something or
someone holding him back. I'm fiquring
it's someone. Some times it feels like
were dating but were not. It's a very
confusing situation and sometimes it even
hurts.