Joined: 15 Aug 2004 Posts: 619 Location: United States
Posted: 09-11-04 12:30pm
Your right it's not going to be easy!
However, you have a baby on the way so you
really don't have a choice. If I were
you I would tell him that you're pregnant,
but maybe have a place you can go to for a
few days. This way it gives him time to
relax away from the two of you. Really
though I can't believe your mom and dad
were okay with both of you living together
under their roof. It's not like it
should be a huge surprise to them. My
parents would never ever let a boyfriend
live with me under their roof. I moved
out with my boyfriend, but my parents
house was not a place to live with my
boyfriend. It was not a option. I
think your parents were asking for it.
So in a sense it's not completely your
fault this happened. If they didn't want
you to get pregnant they should have put
rules down about that. Anyways, good
luck!
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lauren22
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Jun 2004 Posts: 647 Location: Alabama
Posted: 09-11-04 23:51pm
I dont think there is an easy way to tell
him. You could just be upfront and honest
and say "i have something to tell you and
you arent going to be happy, but i'm
pregnant". If you arent comfortable doing
that, you could write him a letter. I
hope all goes well! Keep us updated!
Lauren
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12345
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Sep 2004 Posts: 4 Location: ne
Help Me And Dads Sanity Posted: 09-12-04 12:15pm
Thanx for all the suggestions
i havent told him yet but I will
im gonna wait untill his wife comes back
from vacation
that way..Well shell keep him calm
and her daughter got pregnant at 17 too
but anyways is it normal to pee alot at
this stage?
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lauren22
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Jun 2004 Posts: 647 Location: Alabama
Posted: 09-12-04 14:01pm
How far along are you?
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pitterpatter
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Aug 2004 Posts: 619 Location: United States
Posted: 09-12-04 14:01pm
Oh yes! I felt like I was a leaky faucet
for the first seven weeks. For me it
stopped around eight weeks. Most though
I think get it longer though.
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PattyV
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 May 2004 Posts: 1103 Location: Chicago area
Posted: 09-12-04 18:54pm
It will be hard to tell him,but the
sooner,the better.I think fathers have a
harder time accepting their girls growing
up.I think many always see the little girl
in the ruffles and bows and to think of
their girls as sexual beings is very tough
for many men.I agree that you need to have
him in a relaxed frame of mind,maybe take
him out to breakfast or lunch.Talk after
you've eaten,maybe take a walk.Of course
he will be upset,any parent
would.But,being sexually active is a
grown-up action,you need to be prepared
for what can accompany the physical act of
love.Whatever you decide to do,just let
your dad know that you still love and need
him.Good luck to you and your family.Patty
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12345
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Sep 2004 Posts: 4 Location: ne
Posted: 09-13-04 08:58am
Wow
i didnt realize that so many would
respond
ive come to the conclusion that their is
really no choice
theirs a baby on the way
i told my aunt, she freaked out but after
the shock she just said
that the family would be their to support
me
but she agreeed that my dad would have a
difficult time with it
but oh well hes gonna have to deal with
it
i am about 6 weeks along and I found out
that im due at or around
may 10
well my dads wifes coming home in 2 days
so im guessing ill tell him in about a
week any last suggestions?
Thanks everybody :d
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jessamyn
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Joined: 18 Aug 2004 Posts: 4107 Location: San Diego, CA
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Posted: 09-14-04 15:17pm
I dont think theres any real good way of
telling him he just has to know let him
know your scared and you need his help and
you would love his support and you know
its going to be hard but your going to
also try!
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12345
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Sep 2004 Posts: 4 Location: ne
Well Posted: 09-20-04 11:04am
Well my dads wife finally came back and I
told her and she told my dad, so thats how
that happened
wow he freaked out like it was the end of
days
he had a talk with me my boyfriend and his
wife all together
and basiclly it all came down to that all
of them including my boyfriend think I
should get a termintion, honestly thats
not what I want at all... What should I
do??? Nobodys supporting me at all, and I
feel all alone
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jessamyn
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Joined: 18 Aug 2004 Posts: 4107 Location: San Diego, CA
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Posted: 09-20-04 11:28am
I dont know about you but this is what
happened with me. I'm 18 but just turned
18 in june and I found out I was pregnant
(currently 15 weeks) got pregnant on my
birthday haha. But when my parents found
out they went crazy I mean they were
yelling and screaming for days so upset.
But like all they wanted was me to get a
termination. That in their minds was the
only sane thing to do. They wouldnt
change their mind or opinion or blah it
was so hard. I moved out and they just
kept their distance however after a little
time (about 3 weeks) my mom started
turning around and realized I wanted this
baby. It was just hard for her to except
it. Everything is now all back in order
and were getting along all just fine. I
dotn know if it will take your parents
that long. But mine eventually changed
their mind. Good luck keep me updated.
If you ever want to talk i'm here. My
names jess
I am so sorry that things are working out
like this. Just know that no one can make
you get an abortion. My suggestion is to
find out what resources you have in your
area, like a counselor, planned
parenthood, someone who will listen to
you, and be on your side, and stand with
you while you tell your family what you
want for yourself and your baby.
Maybe keeping the baby isn't the answer
either, but there is always the choice of
placing the baby for adoption.
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bridget28ack
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Jun 2004 Posts: 40 Location: Ohio
Posted: 09-20-04 11:30am
Hello, do what you want !! Its your body
and your baby!! Don't let anyone tell
you what to do. It your choice. Have
you told them that you want to keep it??
I hope things work out for you.
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passionz12000
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Sep 2004 Posts: 7 Location: north carolina
Posted: 09-20-04 22:31pm
I remember the day that I found out that I
was pregnant, the thing that scared me the
most was telling my dad, I was even gonna
wait untill my second trimester because I
didnt want to worry and stress myself into
a misscarriage. But I decided not to keep
it from him. I luckily live in a
different state than him so I called him
asked him if he was sitting down and I
told him to lite a cigerette, I took a
deep breath and I said "dad, I am 6 1/2
weeks pregnant." I felt so much better
after I told him. Your dad might freak
out at first but give him time and let it
settle in. Thats what I did with my dad
and he is tickled pink now that he is
gonna have a grandson.
( I know ditzy its
old haha)