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asked by: pitterpatter on September 11th, 2004
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Your right it's not going to be easy! However, you have a baby on the way so you really don't have a choice. If I were you I would tell him that you're pregnant, but maybe have a place you can go to for a few days. This way it gives him time to relax away from the two of you. Really though I can't believe your mom and dad were okay with both of you living together under their roof. It's not like it should be a huge surprise to them. My parents would never ever let a boyfriend live with me under their roof. I moved out with my boyfriend, but my parents house was not a place to live with my boyfriend. It was not a option. I think your parents were asking for it. So in a sense it's not completely your fault this happened. If they didn't want you to get pregnant they should have put rules down about that. Anyways, good luck!
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lauren22
replied on September 11th, 2004
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I dont think there is an easy way to tell him. You could just be upfront and honest and say "i have something to tell you and you arent going to be happy, but i'm pregnant". If you arent comfortable doing that, you could write him a letter. I hope all goes well! Keep us updated!
Lauren
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12345
replied on September 12th, 2004
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Help Me And Dads Sanity
Thanx for all the suggestions
i havent told him yet but I will
im gonna wait untill his wife comes back from vacation
that way..Well shell keep him calm
and her daughter got pregnant at 17 too
but anyways is it normal to pee alot at this stage?
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lauren22
replied on September 12th, 2004
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How far along are you?
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pitterpatter
replied on September 12th, 2004
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Oh yes! I felt like I was a leaky faucet for the first seven weeks. For me it stopped around eight weeks. Most though I think get it longer though.
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PattyV
replied on September 12th, 2004
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It will be hard to tell him,but the sooner,the better.I think fathers have a harder time accepting their girls growing up.I think many always see the little girl in the ruffles and bows and to think of their girls as sexual beings is very tough for many men.I agree that you need to have him in a relaxed frame of mind,maybe take him out to breakfast or lunch.Talk after you've eaten,maybe take a walk.Of course he will be upset,any parent would.But,being sexually active is a grown-up action,you need to be prepared for what can accompany the physical act of love.Whatever you decide to do,just let your dad know that you still love and need him.Good luck to you and your family.Patty
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12345
replied on September 13th, 2004
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Wow
i didnt realize that so many would respond
ive come to the conclusion that their is really no choice
theirs a baby on the way
i told my aunt, she freaked out but after the shock she just said
that the family would be their to support me
but she agreeed that my dad would have a difficult time with it
but oh well hes gonna have to deal with it
i am about 6 weeks along and I found out that im due at or around
may 10
well my dads wifes coming home in 2 days so im guessing ill tell him in about a week any last suggestions?
Thanks everybody :d
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jessamyn
replied on September 14th, 2004
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I dont think theres any real good way of telling him he just has to know let him know your scared and you need his help and you would love his support and you know its going to be hard but your going to also try!
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12345
replied on September 20th, 2004
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Well
Well my dads wife finally came back and I told her and she told my dad, so thats how that happened
wow he freaked out like it was the end of days
he had a talk with me my boyfriend and his wife all together
and basiclly it all came down to that all of them including my boyfriend think I should get a termintion, honestly thats not what I want at all... What should I do??? Nobodys supporting me at all, and I feel all alone Crying or Very sad
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jessamyn
replied on September 20th, 2004
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I dont know about you but this is what happened with me. I'm 18 but just turned 18 in june and I found out I was pregnant (currently 15 weeks) got pregnant on my birthday haha. But when my parents found out they went crazy I mean they were yelling and screaming for days so upset. But like all they wanted was me to get a termination. That in their minds was the only sane thing to do. They wouldnt change their mind or opinion or blah it was so hard. I moved out and they just kept their distance however after a little time (about 3 weeks) my mom started turning around and realized I wanted this baby. It was just hard for her to except it. Everything is now all back in order and were getting along all just fine. I dotn know if it will take your parents that long. But mine eventually changed their mind. Good luck keep me updated. If you ever want to talk i'm here. My names jess
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silverlou
replied on September 20th, 2004
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I am so sorry that things are working out like this. Just know that no one can make you get an abortion. My suggestion is to find out what resources you have in your area, like a counselor, planned parenthood, someone who will listen to you, and be on your side, and stand with you while you tell your family what you want for yourself and your baby.

Maybe keeping the baby isn't the answer either, but there is always the choice of placing the baby for adoption.
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bridget28ack
replied on September 20th, 2004
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Hello, do what you want !! Its your body and your baby!! Don't let anyone tell you what to do. It your choice. Have you told them that you want to keep it?? I hope things work out for you.
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passionz12000
replied on September 20th, 2004
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I remember the day that I found out that I was pregnant, the thing that scared me the most was telling my dad, I was even gonna wait untill my second trimester because I didnt want to worry and stress myself into a misscarriage. But I decided not to keep it from him. I luckily live in a different state than him so I called him asked him if he was sitting down and I told him to lite a cigerette, I took a deep breath and I said "dad, I am 6 1/2 weeks pregnant." I felt so much better after I told him. Your dad might freak out at first but give him time and let it settle in. Thats what I did with my dad and he is tickled pink now that he is gonna have a grandson.
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