I have been with my current girlfriend for
quite some time now. We went a very long
time until recently having sex. I have a
reputation for being a "player" ( i'm
really some of the things I used do just
look bad to some people) I have fallen so
in love with this girl though. Now
everything changes. She is a little
different than what im used to. She likes
having sex and its really great for me as
well. But she doesnt have an orgasm.
This doesnt bother me. Ive had many
girlfriends that never have before. ( you
would be surprised how many guys in my
area apparently dont like satisfying
women.) usually I talk them through it and
we eventually get things right. But my gf
is a little comprihensive about things
sometimes. She says she can orgasm with
herself ( again ive found to be common)
but she doesnt seem to want to tell me
what she likes. All she says is dont
change anything and shes happy. Ive never
had someone not eventually let me in a
little more. Is there some way I can ease
her mind about talking to me about it. I
think she is scared of my reputation and
the stories about my "freakiness" but
again im really normal. I just like to
have fun in bed.
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aanifant
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Aug 2004 Posts: 101 Location: Galway
Posted: 09-15-04 06:07am
Hi jozizo,
not to be blunt but I think it should
bother you--alot-- that she doesn't have
an orgasm--and no, i'm not surprised men
don't care that they're sexually
unfulfilling in bed--it's obvious since
most of us never have orgasms during sex.
I think you should try to gently ask her
what you can do so she does orgasm since
the pumping in-and-out thing is so boring
for most women.
But she may not know what to tell you if
she hasn't had many partners and doesn't
know how amazing a vaginal orgasm can be.
I thik nyou should take the intiative and
research a place in a woman's vagina
called the g spot. Its behind the pubic
bone on the upper, inner wall about two
inches in. It's stimulated with very
slow, rythmic sex and shallow strokes.
Pull all the way out and be gentle. I
wrote this in another post so sorry to
everyone who's heard me going on about
this.
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hippychick
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Sep 2004 Posts: 25
Posted: 09-15-04 14:35pm
Jozizo,
besides the g spot, you can also rub her
clit while having intercourse. It's easy
to do this if you're coming from behind
her. If you rub her, it gives her two
unbelievable sensations... Also coming
from behind hits the g spot a lot better.
I know I go crazy when it's done to me,
see if she likes it!! First ask her if
it's ok if you've never done that with
her... Just simply say you want to try
something to see if she enjoys it and
explain it. She'll probably be really
interested if it's going to better
her!!!
Good luck to ya!
Kelly
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PattyV
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 May 2004 Posts: 1103 Location: Chicago area
Posted: 09-17-04 09:42am
Give her some time.Women need to feel
comfortable with their partner before
really great sex can happen.Maybe she's
wondering about your wild past and
wondering if she is as good or better than
your other lovers!!!????Does she even give
you a clue about what is pleasing her??Can
you tell by her body language that she's
digging something?If she is groaning and
breathing heavily,whatever you're
doing,keep doing it!Is she just lying
there?If so,you two need to iron out some
other issues besides what's going on in
the bedroom.She may not fully trust you
yet and is having trouble letting go
physically and emotionally.Women are a
little more complex when it comes to
sex.We do not separate the mind from the
body so easily.If we have something
bothering us,the bedroom will also be
affected.Talk to her,see if she will tell
you what's on her mind.Good luck to
you.Patty
Ladies how come its ok to be naked with a
guy but we cant talk about being naked?
Get her to write it down if shes
embarrassed to talk or get a book on how
to please a woman
