Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4921 Location: Right here at work!
Trouble Problem! Posted: 10-03-03 12:24pm
Ok,
my mom went to mexico last night and she
stopped in arizona to see joses mom and
she was telling my mom how shes been
feeling real sick and shes having heart
problems. I had no idea and im sending
her a card tomorrow, in spanish because
she doesnt know english and I only speak
some spanish. (i know I feel bad about
that) the only thing is, she told my mom
that she told jose and he said no
impieses, which means "dont start". Like
he didnt want to hear it! And I asked
him, did you know your moms sick!? And he
said "she always says that" so I said and
what did you tell her? "oh well" I was so
mad! He says that to his mom! We got in
an argument about it because thats his
mom! And for some reason, he wont tell
me, he holds a grudge against her. I can
tell. He barely calls her but last night
we agreed he would call her everyday now,
even if I have to make the call. Im going
to bring it up at our counceling but I was
so mad to know he doesnt care. Its like
he only cares about me and my family. And
not about his. I dont know what else to
do. I hope he keeps his promise of
calling her but I feel bad.
Either something has happened in the past
to keep him from liking his mom that he
hasnt forgiven her for.Or he is just to
wrapped up in other things and just dont
care.But he cares about you and your
family so he has to be caring>maybe you
should talk to him about it.
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4921 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 10-03-03 13:00pm
Yeah I know, but he wont tell me. He just
says he doesnt want to talk about it
because it makes him mad. And I say ok.
But I do know he had a hard life with no
love, but he is very caring, and I would
like him to be more like that with his
mom, considering shes sick.
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joker13
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Oct 2003 Posts: 3 Location: Texas
Give Me a Break Posted: 10-25-03 09:37am
If only spanish men would stop with their
macho caca. Stop making excuses for him.
I grew up in a spanish home and spanish
women spoil there male children, and tend
to forgive them easer then there
daughters. He needs to get over it. My
dad was a x-con served 20 years. He was
very hateful, no affection what so ever,
my mom told us he didnt want us growing up
like health forum, and my mom did nothing.
Stayed with him no matter what he did. I
dont hate and didnt hate him, I dont hate
her for staying with him. When my dad go
sick were there for him and when he past
away 2 years ago we were all there, and I
would do anything for my moms...
So...Stop making excuse for his behaveior
towards his mom, you stay in touch with
her, let her know how things are going,
dont keep her from her grandchildren if
she have some..At least she'll have
that....Thats whats wrong with people
today....People just cant get over it.
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4921 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 11-07-03 12:11pm
Well she was a drunk all her life and he
raised himself. His dad left him so he
had nobody. Im not making excuses for
him. She cant even take care of her other
kids which is why her daughter will be
living with me soon. He talks to her
better now and we send her cards for the
holidays and call twice a week. Its
better now but hes not even macho at all.
My family calls him a mouse because hes
emotional. I cant speak spanish too good
otherwise id talk to her all the time. So
I send cards. Its the best I can do but
things are better now.
