Hi my name is betty i'm meagans friend tha
pregnant one she talks about sometimes....
Yea I have never posted but I read the
posts most of the time but now I have
finally come to a cross roads and I dunno
which way to turn or what to do, ok so I
have been with the father of my baby (a
girl 7months by the way) for a little less
then four years. Dating wise but we have
been married about two months, but three
days after we got married he left, he's in
the army. Ok well thats not the problem
the problem is in like december(that I
knew of at the time) of this year he
started cheating, with this ugly ugly girl
named jasmine and if I was to see her
today I would crack her teeth, but anyway
this lasted about two months till I
finally got fed up and we broke up for
about 3 days. But on meagans birthday we
got back together and he swore never
again. He supposedly told me everything
that happened and I was hurt but ok we
moved on. But as time progressed she was
still around in feb. I got pregnant but
we didn't know till the end of march.
Thats when he finally let this girl go.
But I didn't wanna be with him anymore cuz
I didn't trust him. But i;m stupid and we
got back together a few months later,
meagan and I found out about a time when
billy (my hubby) and michael went to this
super sluts (jennifer's) house but there
was a lot of lies etc. Involved with that
too.... Stayed together... Down the line
like every two months or so I would find
out new things that happend with jasmine
but I would let it go because it was the
past and blah blah blah ok now to my
problem today....I just found out by
complete accident yesterday that there was
a whole nother girl karina (whom I thought
was my friend by the way) that he messed
around with. So now here I am I dunno
what to do, supposedly he never had "sex"
with any of these girls but at what point
and I supposed to believe that.... And
what should I do because its not as easy
as I don't want to be with you anymore
there's alot of other issues. Everyone
keeps telling me that I should be mad cuz
it happened along time ago but I just
found out... And what else is there that
I will find out months from now....
medical question that I thought about it
last night and he has been talkin to other
girls for at least 75% of our
relationship. From the very doing it
beginnning!!!! But what am I supposed to
do now.... Any ideas on the topic would
be great.... Thanks.....
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newlife
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jun 2004 Posts: 874
Posted: 09-17-04 12:41pm
We'll first, welcome and tell meagan hey.
But anyway, I think that you should
confront him wih this. And instead of
letting it go, and just getting back
together, try to make yourself whole. I
mean tell him, that you want to know
everything, about everyone that he has ad
dealings with during your relationship.
That way, if you should decide to get back
with him for a probationary period, and
you find something else out that happened
in the past, you will know that it is not
just in the past. It is in the pesent,
because when asked to tell you everything,
he held back.
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cherriegurl
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Jul 2004 Posts: 1218 Location: Washington state
Posted: 09-17-04 12:51pm
Welcome and I think u should confront him
too. When does he come back?
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BbyBlu0602
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Feb 2004 Posts: 822 Location: Virginia
Posted: 09-17-04 14:09pm
I know a lot of people are going to
disagree with me on this one, but honestly
if it were me I would confront him about
it and let him know that you know the
truth, but at the same time I wouldn't
take him back. The same thing happened
to me with ethan's dad. It took me a
while and a lot of "getting back
togethers" before I realized that I didn't
want someone in ethan's life who would
hurt him like that and even tho it is
possible for some people to change, I
always feel that once a cheater...Always a
cheater. There would continue to be
trust issues there. There will always be
an emotional attachment no matter what,
but just because someone is the father of
a baby doesn't make them a daddy. Anyone
can father a child, but it takes a real
man to step up and be a daddy and take
care of mama and baby. Then again, I
don't know him so he could make a complete
turn around and be the best husband in the
world. No matter what tho, put the best
interests of your children first. Maybe
i'm just babbling and being stupid..Lol.
I dunno, so i'll just leave it at that.
i was kinda in the same situation as you
but only 4 months after I gave birth to my
daughter, he confronts me and tell me that
he was sleeping with another girl. At
that point I had to let him go. Now
despite what he did, we are the best of
friends. We do everything together! The
only advice I can give you is either leave
him or confront him and work things out.
I hope everything works out for the
better!
the problem is in like december(that I
knew of at the time) of this year he
started cheating, with this ugly ugly girl
named jasmine and if I was to see her
today I would crack her teeth, but anyway
this lasted about two months till I
finally got fed up and we broke up for
about 3 days. But on meagans birthday we
got back together and he swore never
again. He supposedly told me everything
that happened and I was hurt but ok we
moved on. But as time progressed she was
still around in feb. I got pregnant but
we didn't know till the end of march.
Thats when he finally let this girl go.
But I didn't wanna be with him anymore cuz
I didn't trust him. But i;m stupid and we
got back together a few months later,
meagan and I found out about a time when
billy (my hubby) and michael went to this
super sluts (jennifer's) house but there
was a lot of lies etc. Involved with that
too.... Stayed together... Down the line
like every two months or so I would find
out new things that happend with jasmine
but I would let it go because it was the
past and blah blah blah ok now to my
problem today....I just found out by
complete accident yesterday that there was
a whole nother girl karina (whom I thought
was my friend by the way) that he messed
around with. So now here I am I dunno
what to do, supposedly he never had "sex"
with any of these girls but at what point
and I supposed to believe that.... And
what should I do because its not as easy
as I don't want to be with you anymore
there's alot of other issues. Everyone
keeps telling me that I should be mad cuz
it happened along time ago but I just
found out... And what else is there that
I will find out months from now....
medical question that I thought about it
last night and he has been talkin to other
girls for at least 75% of our
relationship. From the very doing it
beginnning!!!! But what am I supposed to
do now.... Any ideas on the topic would
be great.... Thanks.....
