Hi. I know I haven't been here for a
while, but I have been really trying to
make myself ready for motherhood.
Well anyway, am I a bad mother? Jonathan
has become really active, and he likes to
play with me. For example he may kick or
hit me, and i'll tap on the spot that he
hit me, then he'll hit me again. And
sometimes he puts a body part, to the
front or side of my tummy, and just hold
it there, so I will rub him.
But lately I have been busy doing things,
and I can feel him move, and I know he
wants to play ,but since I am busy I don't
respond. Am I a bad mother for this? I
really feel like one. And I thik that I
may be making him depressed because,
sometimes he wants to play when he hears
me talking, and I just don't. I think
that he may think, that I don't love him
am more. Am I just stupid? I have been
crying about this all day.
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linuxChique
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 May 2004 Posts: 4535
Posted: 09-29-04 12:58pm
Oh destiny! Don't worry! He doesn't have
any short or long term memory yet, so when
you play with him, its new everytime! He
doesn't remember what you did last time,
and he doesn't even know that you're his
mother! No you aren't a bad mother!
Aw! Don't think that way...
You have plenty of time to interact with
your baby, you are only 5 months girl.
Honestly, I ignored my baby for 8 months
of my pregnancy and she didn't even notice
it...
Truly huni! He doesn't know the
difference yet~ you are not a bad mother
at all! You are doing good! He doesn't
remember wether you did it before or not.
He's excited when you do..... But ok when
you don't! You aree doing fine huni!
Love,
chanda
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newlife
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jun 2004 Posts: 874
Posted: 09-29-04 13:34pm
Thanks ya'll. Lately, I have been kind of
depressed, chanda. I am about to cry
again, and I don't even know why. I need
a vacation from life. I have to listen to
jonathan (sr.), whinning and throwing fits
in my ear all day. I have to deal with my
mothers pissy ass attitude whenever she
decides to come home. And nobody cares
about me. I mean it's not like I am
struggling in my pregnancy, right now. To
tell you the truth, this is the best part
of my pregnany. And little jonathan, is
the only person who can make me smile, he
daddy surely isn't worried about it.
If I haven't said the before jonathan
(sr.), is a big baby. He is the only
child, which makes him think the world
revolves around him. When I tell him what
to do he tells me, that I am not his
mother. Ohh, but when he is sick, or want
me to scarch his head it's "please, my mam
would do it". I guess he thinks I want to
be his mother, but he is oh so wrong.
And, he also likes to make up issues, and
problems to have. Jonathan is the only
child as I mentioned before, and everyone
basically comes running, when he says. He
is well taken care of, and he isn't he one
doing it. So, he feels that since he
doesn't have real problems, he has to make
problems for himself. I won't get in to
that much, b/c i'll be typing all day.
But he is really pissing me off! He is
jealous of his own son. I went out the
other day to lunch, by myself. And then I
took a trip to the mall. I bough little
jonathan two little outfits. Then I went
to the baby shoe store, and I was looking
at baby shoes. I made the mistake of
calling jonathan, and I told him where I
was, and what I was doing. He said, "
okay, you are buying him shoes, but he
can't whee them yet, and when he gets here
he will have no use for them, but I have a
use for shoes", like I said he is a big
baby, jonathan does not work ,but believe
me his has more than enough to get his own
shoes, but again I am supposed to be his
mother. I love him, but as of now I am
cutting himoff. Today I told him, that if
he needs to talk to me ,to write me a
letter, b/c I refuse to answer the phone.
I may talk to him in a month or so, if I
feel like it. I am so stupid, b/c I know
i'll call his phone from the computer.
Not to talk, but just to make sure he is
still breathing.
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Kia
Supporter
Joined: 23 Jun 2004 Posts: 6594 Location: Planet Tampaxia,
Posted: 09-29-04 13:34pm
Around 4 months your baby starts to
recognise tones in your voice (not
actually what you say but sounds), he
hears these and is comforted because they
are familar and "good" so he will wiggle
and kick or move, let him hear your voice
so he becomes more and more familiar with
the sounds for when he is born.
Doesn't matter how busy you are spend
10mins or so on "me" time each day, listen
to your fave song, put on a face mask,
deep condition your hair, have a mini
pedicure, anything.
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newlife
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jun 2004 Posts: 874
Posted: 09-29-04 13:35pm
Thanks, kia.
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June4life
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jul 2004 Posts: 550
Posted: 09-29-04 13:55pm
He just wants out!! He wants to see
mommy's face!!!
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newlife
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jun 2004 Posts: 874
Posted: 09-29-04 14:04pm
Yea, I think he is trying to break out
sometimes too. Yesterday I could have
sworn that he was trying to push down on
my cervix. And some times it feels like
he is using his fingers to try to scrach
his way out.
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Kia
Supporter
Joined: 23 Jun 2004 Posts: 6594 Location: Planet Tampaxia,
Posted: 09-29-04 14:06pm
Ouch
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IDABABY
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2004 Posts: 2236 Location: ***Wisconsin Baby***
Posted: 09-29-04 20:54pm
I think its adorable that you two play
games like that. When I was pregnant..I
would lay in bed and before I went to
sleep I would sit there and rub him and
talk about everything...It was a one way
conversation but I knew he was listening.
We would talk about the day we would
meet....How he might look..My day..And
everything. He was my little diary at
times.
