I kno im not the only girl in this
situation...Im 16, and the cliche of the
saying "young and dumb"
i has sex with a boy ..And as he was
getting ready to orgasm it felt warm "in
there" he widthdrew and said he came on
his shirt...But I am so scared... I have
no one to blame but myself, but I cant
help being mad at him. I think hes tellin
the truth but I know theres such a thing
as pre-cum.
And thats the little voice in my head.
Im afraid 2 ask my mom to get me a
pregnancy test and im about due for my
period..But im not getting bloated, or
crampy and my attiudes fine, but im
getting a thick white discharge...
Please I can eat I cant sleep...I cant
consentrate in school
help me please
-lost little girl
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laura_girl
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Mar 2004 Posts: 173 Location: Montreal, Quebec
Posted: 09-29-04 18:23pm
(((((hugs))))))
i know what you're going through - we all
make mistakes in the heat of the moment.
Pregnancy scares are stressful, scary
times when you just keep kicking yourself
and going "how could I have done that??"
to your question, just because you're not
getting any symptoms of pregnancy dosen't
mean you aren't preg. However in the
horrible catch-22, being late for a period
dosen't either, especially when you're
stressing so much. The only way to know
for sure is to take a test. A test will
be accurate on the day of your missed
period, or if you're irregular and don't
know when it's due - about 14-20 days
after the incident.
You mentioned that you didn't want to ask
your mom to buy you a test, I understand
that, certainly there are very few teens
who feel comfortable letting their parents
know that they've been having sex (let
alone unprotected sex!), but you do need
to test. A good test will cost you about
$15 at your local drugstore, if you don't
have the cash, maybe ask your boyfriend,
or look into the resources around your
town. Many pregnancy crisis centres
offer free testing. From what I read,
planned parenthood also does, but check
your local branch....I'm canadian and
there isn't a pp near me so I don't
know.
And finally, if you aren't pg, get on some
form of birth control. Your mom dosen't
have to know, again, go to pp, they will
help you out with financing. And if you
still can't afford b/c then at least use
condoms!! They're cheap, and not only
will save you from pregnancy - they'll
save you from icky std's. You're right,
there is such a thing as pre-cum, and not
only can it get you pregnant - it can make
you sick. Protect yourself.
Here's hoping for a negative hpt!
Let me know how it all turns out
laura
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elise
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Sep 2004 Posts: 3 Location: albany
Posted: 09-29-04 21:47pm
Thank you so much. I always thought that
when I was ready to have sex I would be in
love and I would b on birth control and it
would be a great place and I dont
know..All that "romance crap" but it
turned bad I guess..My dream of being that
sweet little girl ran away from me. It
was only my second time.....I feel so
bad.
Thank you for all your advice and I will
go to pp tomorrow after school.
I really appriciate it..I could never talk
to my parents or friends about this, so im
glad theres an alterative..U helped..A
lot. Thank you
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laura_girl
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Mar 2004 Posts: 173 Location: Montreal, Quebec
Posted: 09-30-04 11:36am
I'm soo glad I could help you. Did you
get a result yet? And you don't have to
give up your drem of only having sex in a
loving environment, just don't do it again
untill you're on b/c and feel secure.
There is no rule that just because you
have had sex that you have to do it again.
Let me know how it all works out!
~laura
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Cassy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Jun 2004 Posts: 103
Posted: 09-30-04 21:03pm
Oh! I'm hoping you'll get this message in
time! I agree with everything laura said
but don't forget about emergency
contraception! It's works until 72 hours
after intercourse, so you could try to get
that!!!
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elise
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Sep 2004 Posts: 3 Location: albany
Posted: 10-02-04 15:57pm
Great news , hpt came back negative.
Thank you so much for your support. Means
a lot to me. Next week on start on b/c .
I cant thank u enough!
