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bellax0x
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Being a Grandparent
Posted: 10-02-04 18:57pm
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Do you think if your child got pregnant as
a teenager (working part-time or not at
all) you should have a say so in what she
does with the baby, keep it, abort,
adoption?
I dont to a point, I would want her to
listen to my advice, and id support her
through anything. I wouldnt force
anything on her tho.
<3
gaby
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IDABABY
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Posted: 10-02-04 18:59pm
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I would want her to keep it!! Thats all
there is to it really...I do believe its
abortions are wrong...And think she might
regret it by giving it away. But that is
her choice but I would say that I would
have a huge say in it. Although I would
try to prevent an early pregnancy as much
as I could
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bellax0x
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Posted: 10-02-04 19:03pm
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Yeh, im going to be open with my daughter
and hopefully she will be comfortable
talkin to me like I was with my mom which
is why im on birth control right now.
I do believe in abortion, but would never
doit. But I support people who do.
<3
gaby
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Kia
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Posted: 10-02-04 19:17pm
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I'd like to think my kids could come to me
and tell me what they wanted.
I'd also like to think my kids would be
comfortable enough to come and confide in
me that they were becoming sexually
active, and that I would be able to guide
their choices so that this didn't happen
until they were ready.
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smith8500
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Posted: 10-02-04 19:52pm
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My choices for her:
abortion~not an option
keep it~yes
adoption~i'd be the one to adopt it.
So.... Either way the kid would still be
in my fam!
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bellax0x
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Posted: 10-02-04 20:46pm
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I like your adoption idea chanda!
<3
gaby
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Michelle1337
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Posted: 10-02-04 21:33pm
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Abortion is wrong, adoption is an option.
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cherriegurl
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Posted: 10-02-04 22:53pm
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Lol chanda those were my parents options
for me!!
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linuxChique
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Re: Being a Grandparent
Posted: 10-02-04 22:56pm
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| bellax0x
wrote: | | i dont to a point, I would
want her to listen to my advice, and id
support her through anything. I wouldnt
force anything on her
tho. |
i agree with you gaby. If my daughter is
old enough for sex, she is old enough to
make that decision herself. I know I
would have an opinion, and I would voice
it. I would expect her to listen to what
I have to say, but I would also expect her
to make her own decision.
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bd1012
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Posted: 10-02-04 22:59pm
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It's up to the kid to decide. Forced
gestation is just as bad as forced
abortion in the terms of the person
carrying the pregnancy. If you want me
to have the baby .A.N.D keep it,
then you better take care of it 100%.
Having a kid would totally totally mess up
my plan for my life and it would hurt me
very bad.., if you read what I wrote about
how I feel about life in the "just
thinking" thread you know how I feel if
something happens to my bf.. Should I
choose suicide I don't want some kid tying
me to this earth. I am on birth
control and am thinking of either getting
sterilized or and iud.. Only the
highest birth control forms for me
regardless of any negative side effects
(no side effect could be worse than
getting pregnant imo) not to mention I may
be infertile anyway so i'm not taking any
irresponsible risk here and I only have
sex once a week on a good month so it's
not like i'm a prostitute or anything so I
don't want to hear it. I'm sorry but I
don't give a rat's behind how bad anyone
may want grandkids.. They aint getting
one from me and the sooner they realize
that, the better.. What I will do is
let them hire a surrogate and then pay me
to give up my eggs or whatever it is they
need from me or my bf and then when the
baby comes, they can take care of it and
no I will not babysit... Ever!
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nippz
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Posted: 10-03-04 00:16am
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I would definitely support her, and tell
her to keep it, because look @ me. At my
age look how young i'm having a child, so
I wouldnt definitely be there for her
100%.
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noodleandshorty
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Posted: 10-03-04 01:11am
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I'd be there 100% for her just like nippz
said. I cant really say shes stupid for
gettin pregnant at a young age since I got
pregnant at 16 had her when I was 17. But
all I could tell her is that id be there
for her 100% if she did end up preggers
but before she has the chance to do that
id explain how hard it is etc so she
thinks about the concicounces(sp?) before
having unprotected sex.
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jessamyn
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Posted: 10-03-04 01:31am
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I got pregnant at 18 and they were trying
as hard as they could to force me into
abortions they said if I was under 18 id
have no choice or options in the world and
would be forced by them or my life a
living hell :-/
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Kia
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Posted: 10-03-04 04:52am
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I don't know where the girl was from in
america, but on a program I watched
recently a 15 year old gave birth.
She had been trying for 3 months to get
pregnant! Because she was under 16
legally she could not take responsibility
for her child, she was lucky in that her
mom agreed to sort things out and to take
legal custody of the baby so she could
keep it.
Is that quite widespread for you guys, not
being able to legally take custody of your
own kid if you are under 16 when you give
birth?
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bellax0x
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Posted: 10-03-04 06:45am
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You can have a baby at any age and you
have full custody
<3
gaby
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sparklypixie12
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Posted: 10-03-04 11:38am
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| bd1012
wrote: | | it's up to the kid to
decide. Forced gestation is just as
bad as forced abortion in the terms of the
person carrying the pregnancy. If you
want me to have the baby .A.N.D keep it,
then you better take care of it 100%.
Having a kid would totally totally mess up
my plan for my life and it would hurt me
very bad.., if you read what I wrote about
how I feel about life in the "just
thinking" thread you know how I feel if
something happens to my bf.. Should I
choose suicide I don't want some kid tying
me to this earth. I am on birth
control and am thinking of either getting
sterilized or and iud.. Only the
highest birth control forms for me
regardless of any negative side effects
(no side effect could be worse than
getting pregnant imo) not to mention I may
be infertile anyway so i'm not taking any
irresponsible risk here and I only have
sex once a week on a good month so it's
not like i'm a prostitute or anything so I
don't want to hear it. I'm sorry but
I don't give a rat's behind how bad anyone
may want grandkids.. They aint getting
one from me and the sooner they realize
that, the better.. What I will do is
let them hire a surrogate and then pay me
to give up my eggs or whatever it is they
need from me or my bf and then when the
baby comes, they can take care of it and
no I will not babysit...
Ever! |
what are you doing on a teen pregnancy
forum if you're so anti-children??? Don't
you think that's hypocritical?! Because I
think it is. Maybe you should get
sterilised & have it over & done
with
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bd1012
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Posted: 10-03-04 12:19pm
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I'm not antichildren, and i'm on here
because someone mentioned this place from
another site i'm on and I just liked it
here so I kept coming. To me, kids are
like cats (no offense meant).. They are
cute but to have one is a diffrent story.
It's not up to anyone but me whether i'm
12 or 22 whether or not I have a baby.
To me life is like a poker game.. I try
to play all my cards right and if I don't
I may lose, and who knows my cards better
than me? You don't know my cards so
don't tell me to fold my cards when I
could have a good hand, if you did that ,
you would make me lose and you especially
don't do that, because you don't know how
big I would lose. Understand kind of?
Sorry for the corny analogies. Right
now I am hearing they wont give iuds to
people of my age, let alone tie my tubes
which I believe is ridiculous because its
my uterus, not theirs. If I say no.. It
don't go and vice versa. I have 150% say
in what happens with my reproductive
organs, not my mother, my bf or even god
if he exists has a say, let alone some
strange doctor. If I got the money and I
consent, than you tie my tubes with no
if's and's or but's. I'm thinking maybe
it's possible that if someone denies you a
sterilization and you get pregnant, you
can sue for the cost of the abortion or
the childbirth and for any punitive
damages that may come from having the
child or the abortion.
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smith8500
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Posted: 10-03-04 12:50pm
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Totally different view of you now......
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bd1012
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Posted: 10-03-04 12:53pm
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A view that i'm a health forum?
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bd1012
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Posted: 10-03-04 13:04pm
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Guess so.. I dont' mean to sound cold but
that's just my opinion.. It's no one
right to force someone else to gestate and
if you use the "you should've kept your
legs closed argument" than you should say
the same thing if you smoke and get lung
cancer. I don't see how you can see
forced abortion as wrong but not forced
gestation. It's just my opinon, you all
gave yours, I gave mine. Everyone elses
just happens to "fit" within what everyone
hear accepts.
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