I have this male friend of mine and i'm
female. We've been friends for years and
during our years of friendship we've had
some sexual encounters. Every time we do
something intimate together, it seems that
he avoids all contact with me for about a
week or so, then comes around again as if
everything is ok. We don't talk much
about our feelings for each other. We
both value our friendship very much and
would hate for anything to come in between
it. Over the recent years, i've grown
more attached to him and expressed my
feelings to him both in writing and
verbally. He feels similar, but persists
that he doesn't want to pursue anything
for fear of us not being able to keep our
friendship in tact. We're both adults
(late twenties-thirties) and I feel that
we can handle a relationship and keep the
friendship, but don't know how this can be
done if he's so chicken about it. We are
truly a seinfeld episode!
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4921 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 10-14-03 18:34pm
Well, it looks like hes pretty much using
your for sex. Why is it that he can have
sexual encounters but can have a
relationship. Having sex with a friend is
what usually ends a friendship not a
relationship. You need to decide if your
happy as that, or if you want to change
things. He looks like hes happy habing
sex with no strings attached, why should
he change it if you do not enforce a
change?
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sparklypixie12
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Sep 2003 Posts: 3099
Posted: 10-23-03 11:18am
One of a kind-nikki's right.I also think u
need 2 sit him down & talk about this
cos he can keep running off every time
something happens.This way, you'll find
out what he wants & be able 2 resolve
this
gud luck
liz x
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insurancegirl
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Sep 2003 Posts: 5286
If You Are That Old, Posted: 10-23-03 13:24pm
And I don't mean "old", you should know
what this means. You should no longer be
naive, it's just not natural. I know it
takes some a long time to grow up, believe
me I know, my mom still acts like a kid
and she's 37. Anyway, let him know that
if he doesn't want anything more, or at
least to admit this is just the thing that
you won't be there anymore.
Good luck and best wishes,
jennifer
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TX_momy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Jan 2004 Posts: 120 Location: TX
Hi Posted: 05-21-04 10:38am
It sounds like he can get a booty call
when ever he wants too..... Do you get
this ? So you see what's going on? Do
you want to have a relationshipp with him
(sex) or do you want to have a very good
friend? Just make up your mind and ask
him what he wants friends don't have sex
this is just not working... He can break
your heart, if
you
let
him
belive me ....
you 