Unexpected Father Nervous As Hell!!! Posted: 10-04-04 18:26pm
Hey everyone!
I am new to this site, but I have read
some pretty good posts on here so far. I
am a single, never been married, 25 year
old male that is expecting a baby with a
friend through casual sex!!! (((whew
that's a mouthful!!!) we talked about
abortion because we know absolutely
nothing about each other and are total
opposites in life. I have no feelings for
her, I don't want to be with her, I am
totally in love with someone else, but
realize that I am soon to share a child
with someone that I am being forced to
know! I don't want to be a "guy" that
runs from the challenge of being a father,
rather, I am a "man" who stepps up to the
plate and is a positive influence in my
child's life! I am scared and have no
idea where to start. I guess I should
start with my parents. Even though I am
"grown", they still have the biggest
influence in my life. I was not raised to
do what I have done and I know how big of
a disappointment this news is going to be
to them and my sister. My sister went
through a pregnancy, unwed, but birthed
still-born at 6 months. This was a major
blow to her and the family, but they were
there for her. I am scared that their
reactions are not going to be reciprocated
back to me. I just kinda feel alone right
now, but trying to keep a clear head about
the whole thing. Help!!! Advice!!!
Holla,
goldmine1906
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jessamyn
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Joined: 18 Aug 2004 Posts: 4101 Location: San Diego, CA
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Posted: 10-04-04 18:43pm
This is just a quick comment from my
husband that if you were just a casual
partner does she have any other cassssual
partners??
You can definetly be a daddy with out
being married or romantically involved
hunny. Dont worry things will work out.
I just pray and hope the love interest in
your life excepts your new challenge.
Life throws you curves but you learn to
love. You can have all the great
experiences in life without actually being
married or involved with the person. Haha
have you seen will and grace a woman and a
gay guy wanting to have a baby what more
can you have (sorry trying to make you
smile) anyways just take it one step at
time and dont plan too far ahead in life.
If your parents truly love and respect you
they will understand that things
unexpectedly happen in life and theres
nothing you can do to change that. Good
luck and i'll keep checking for new
updates on your situation and hey theres
daddy to be tips on this forum too
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oangelc543
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Sep 2004 Posts: 521 Location: TX
Posted: 10-04-04 18:45pm
Hey.. Dont worry i'm sure you'll be
fine.. I'm pregnant.. Just found out
last week, and the pregnancy is basically
through the same way your child was
conceived. We were dating a bit, but no
strong feelings for each other. Anyways,
when I told my child's father he
absolutely flipped out.. He's nervous as
hell just like you.
As for your family, if they supported your
sister, then they should definitely
support you. It's their own blood, of
course they're gunna accept the baby.
And props to you for stepping up and
wanting to be a responisible parent.. I'm
not sure how my baby's father is going to
act for the next months, and when the baby
is born.. But then, he's only 19.. I'm
only 15, so I suppose neither of us really
kno what to do..
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goldmine1906
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Oct 2004 Posts: 9 Location: texas
Posted: 10-04-04 20:03pm
Thanks for the quick feedback guys! I
wasn't expecting it so soon. I'll be in
touch here in the forum!
Goldmine1906
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