(back Again) Bf Cant Ejaculate In Front of Me? Posted: 10-05-04 20:19pm
Wow ive had a lot of issues with this guy
but here we go again... Ok, he has had
problems gettin his penis hard (hes a
virign 21yrs old) b/c he was nervous and
all he could think about was what was
going to happen, not so much as the
pleasure, so his penis lost hardness as we
were about to have sex. He went to to Dr.
Afraid it was pshysical so they gave him
viagra. It didnt work for a while, it
would get semi hard then lose it again,
but now hes more comfortable, and he can
get it hard enough to enter, and have
intercourse for (so far) like 5 min, but
its still semi hard, I feel a little
sometimes. But usually I get on top, or
he does but when we start, and try to
switch positions, he looses all
hardness... We go through this all
freaking day hopeing he;ll become more
comfortable. Ne ways, after all this hie
penise hurts (blue balls I guess) so last
night he wanted to 'releive' himself and
tired to in front of me (with a porno on I
might add) and couldnt, nor can oral sex,
hand jobs, or the little sex we do have
make him cum. Whats going on!?!? He can
do it just fine all by himself!? Is he
nervous in front of me, or is this still a
physical prooblem? Why wont he just stop
thinking about it and enjoy the moment!?!?
We are very open with each other, we take
showers together, oral sex, pornos, ect..
And like I said, we can have sex for a few
min then he says he starts thinking about
how it might not stay hard and looses it!
He says sinces he a virgin, hes not used
to this feeling and its taking him a while
to get used to it, and he said it was the
same when I first tried to get his penis
hard with my hand and mouth, at first it
couldnt happen, now hes used to it and
that part is easy? Whats the deal!??!
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southcoach
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 May 2004 Posts: 65
Posted: 10-10-04 15:04pm
This is just a thought....I don't know
what you guys have discussed regarding
this, but it is understandable that he is
nervous his first time. I do agree
though he should be more comfortable now.
Perhaps he is even more nervous becuase
now it is almost like he is under extreme
pressure (especially if you are not a
virgin and he is--you have expectations he
must meet and he has none). Now he
probably freaks out because he knows that
if he can't perform well right then, he
will suffer yet another embarassment. If
he is able to do it by himself then it
might be related to this. I agree with
you most definitely, but it sounds like
this guy needs to relax and rather than
worrying and telling himself over and over
to 'stay hard' perhaps he should be
thinking about the moment (as you said)
and how special it is to be with you.
Just try and put him under as little
pressure as possible, and if you care
about this guy let him know it is okay to
go slower...At his own pace. Good luck!
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 10-10-04 23:08pm
He doesn't need viagra. He just needs to
relax and calm down.
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