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pinkpixie1986
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Mom Prob
Posted: 10-07-04 12:42pm
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Hi, I think I should have joined this with
my first pregnancy. I am 18 I have 2 sets
of twins (krista & alex) 1 year old I
now have (kristen & alexzandra) 1 week
old. Both sets have driffrent dads thats
not a prob with me but for my mom I think
it is. I dont know whats wrong with her
but she seems to scare the father of
kristen & alexzandra off. She seems
to take all her maddness out on him or me
about being a father. The thing is he is
a good father he takes care of 2 kids that
are not his and helps me out alot. On the
other hand my mom just stops in says hi
and then bye. I think the longest she has
been with my kids is 2 houres. Does any
one have something I can try. I really
want this drama to stop? I am at the
point to try anything? Thanks for your
help!!!
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Posted: 10-07-04 14:56pm
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Maybe sit her down and talk to her, sounds
as if she has a lot of fears for you.
Why did you give your second twins nearly
the same names as the first set??? That's
wierd
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Mom Prob
Posted: 10-07-04 15:11pm
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Hey iam 18 too and I just found out that
iam pregnate
and you have to twins and then another to
twins 
anyways umm sit her down with the father
of you babys and tell her he takes care of
you nad the kids and the other kids that
are not his umm I have question umm are
you still with him and love him
when you answer that I can finish the rest
cuz I need that info to say what have to
say buh byez
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pinkpixie1986
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Posted: 10-09-04 03:37am
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| kia_breizzze
wrote: | maybe sit her down and talk
to her, sounds as if she has a lot of
fears for you.
Why did you give your second twins nearly
the same names as the first set???
That's wierd |
i know its kinda funny and all but with my
first twins there names were to be krista
(the girl) & then kristen(the boy)
that father did not want that. So I named
the boy of the first birth alex after that
boyfriends grandfather. Then when the 2nd
birth camn along I was joking with this
boyfriend and his parents about the names
and every one seemed to like the name
kristen and alexzandra so me and the
family named them.
Krista-girl
alex-boy
kristen-boy
alexzandra-girl
funny it happend that way.. 
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pinkpixie1986
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Re: Mom Prob
Posted: 10-09-04 03:44am
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| portybeauty
wrote: | hey iam 18 too and I just
found out that iam pregnate
and you have to twins and then another to
twins
anyways umm sit her down with the father
of you babys and tell her he takes care of
you nad the kids and the other kids that
are not his umm I have question umm are
you still with him and love him
when you answer that I can finish the rest
cuz I need that info to say what have to
say buh byez |
yes I have 2 set's of twins.Boy girl &
boy girl angain. I have tried to get her
to understand that he takes care of them.
I have even tryed to tell her b/c I was
not rasied buy my real father. She then
gets mad and yells at me b/c I was not a
perfect child b/c I got pregate and I was
not well behaved. I am with the father
of my 2nd set of twins and yes I love him
I am to be married to him but it is
postponed till my mother can aprove(his
idea).
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Posted: 10-09-04 13:28pm
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I would just try and give it time. She's
probably just upset about you being so
young with four kids already. She's
probably taking it out on him because she
feels like it's his fault your life is
going to be harder for now on. Mom's
want the best for their kids and sometimes
if we make a mistake it can take awhile
for them to get over it. I would just
concentrate on your babies and do what you
can to keep this relationship you have a
stable as you can. Your going to need
all the help you can get from him. If
he's willing to do that and your mom
notices it over time whe may forgive him.
Just give it time though. Good luck!
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Posted: 10-09-04 21:16pm
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| pitterpatter
wrote: | | i would just try and give it
time. She's probably just upset about
you being so young with four kids already.
She's probably taking it out on him
because she feels like it's his fault your
life is going to be harder for now on.
Mom's want the best for their kids and
sometimes if we make a mistake it can take
awhile for them to get over it. I would
just concentrate on your babies and do
what you can to keep this relationship you
have a stable as you can. Your going to
need all the help you can get from him.
If he's willing to do that and your mom
notices it over time whe may forgive him.
Just give it time though. Good
luck! |
yea I can say I would be upset to. I just
dont want it to take longer. It has been
almost a year allready and nothing has
changed. It just gets wores every time
that and the holidays are comming I dont
want a family fighting over dinner. I am
just gladeonly one parent is acting like
this. If all 4 did I would not know what
to do at all. ( my mom wants me to move
back in with her but he would have to come
to would this be a good time to maybe try
to show her.)
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Posted: 10-10-04 00:10am
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No I suggest not moving in with her. For
one in order for her to see responsibility
it has to come without her help
financially. I would just try and be as
civil as you can around her and than move
on with your life. If it's been a year
already and she's the same way she was a
year ago it's probably going to take her a
lot longer than most mom's. But moving
in with her only does two things in my
opinion. It gives her more control over
the situation and it makes you seem more
dependent. That's what I think atleast.
So yeah, don't move in!
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Posted: 10-11-04 20:47pm
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| pitterpatter
wrote: | | no I suggest not moving in
with her. For one in order for her to
see responsibility it has to come without
her help financially. I would just try
and be as civil as you can around her and
than move on with your life. If it's
been a year already and she's the same way
she was a year ago it's probably going to
take her a lot longer than most mom's.
But moving in with her only does two
things in my opinion. It gives her more
control over the situation and it makes
you seem more dependent. That's what I
think atleast. So yeah, don't move
in! |
ok it does seem like that but it seems its
going to be the only way she will see her
grand kids. On the other hand she is
offering to let me and him move in and she
seems ok with that. I am just a lil
afraid that when we are there she will
blow up. She says she wants a chance with
me and her grandkids. On the other hand
my b/f has found a nice house that would
be prufect for 6 people and all the
anamils we have. It means moving and all
of us adjasting to new things and mom says
that its bad and I am only thinking of my
self and not my kids. Do you think that
could be true?
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Posted: 10-11-04 21:27pm
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Okay well take my opinion on this! I'm a
teacher and I know all to well what change
can do to kids. However, if you make it
as easy and as normal as possible they
will be just fine. If you think that
your mom might blow up on you than you
definately need to stay out of her house.
Your kids don't need to go through that
and especially the one's who just got two
new siblings to compete with. I really
think that if you were to move in with
your mom she will be telling you what to
do how to do it and when to do it. I
don't know your mom, but she sounds a
little controlling already. I don't
think it's a good idea and I think your
kids would do better off in your own home.
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Posted: 10-11-04 21:29pm
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Why can't your mom see your kids when you
visit her?
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Posted: 10-11-04 21:56pm
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| pitterpatter
wrote: | | okay well take my opinion on
this! I'm a teacher and I know all to
well what change can do to kids.
However, if you make it as easy and as
normal as possible they will be just fine.
If you think that your mom might blow
up on you than you definately need to stay
out of her house. Your kids don't need
to go through that and especially the
one's who just got two new siblings to
compete with. I really think that if
you were to move in with your mom she
will be telling you what to do how to do
it and when to do it. I don't know your
mom, but she sounds a little controlling
already. I don't think it's a good idea
and I think your kids would do better off
in your own home. |
how would I make it easy my kids are 1
y/old and 2 weeks old. It is better to
move them when they are younger befor the
can speak and make friends. Yea she is
already mad b/c I said I dont want to be
in the way a(i would be) she only has 4
bed rooms and 2 are empty so that dont
give me alot of room. That and she said
it takes alot of people to rase children
maybe but not 9 people in a 4 bedroom
house with 3 dogs and 2 cats. Will its
nice to know I have 2 other people sayin
its bad to move in with her I felt bad
knowing it was only me and my b/f making
are minds up. When me and the kid do
visit she is always tired or to bussie and
then me and her fight about it and then
it seems the kids get fussie and she says
better get them home. That and she didnt
like my b/f parents house b/c she felt she
was introuding on there home I can
understand that. So on thursday I get my
alone time with my b/f for about 2 hours
b/c she cant handle 4 babies and her 9 y/o
son. But it seems no prob for me and matt
with the 4 kids.
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Posted: 10-11-04 23:31pm
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Mostly what I mean about easy and normal
is try and make the rooms they are going
to be in look as the same as the other
place was. Stick to your routines that
you have now. So that when you move they
know what to expect. I don't think though
that if you and your boyfriend moved into
your own house it's going to affect them.
I think if you moved into your mom's it
will though.
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Posted: 10-12-04 08:42am
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I know that have to hard being 18 raising
4 kids how do you do it you need a pat on
the back for you strength. Are there any
twins in their fathers family or yours.
My father is a twin I wouldn't mine having
twins get it all over at once.
Erica 
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Posted: 10-12-04 11:05am
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[quote="pitterpatter"]mostly what I mean
about easy and normal is try and make the
rooms they are going to be in look as the
same as the other place was. Stick to
your routines that you have now. So
that when you move they know what to
expect. I don't think though that if you
and your boyfriend moved into your own
house it's going to affect them. I
think if you moved into your mom's it will
though.[/quot
i know the last room to be moved is
there's so I think we will have no
problom, would it be a prob spleting them
up. Them going from all being to gather
to the 1y/o haven there own room togather
and then the nursry for the new borns.
Then later on when older movin both girls
togather and both boys togather. It
souldnt make that big a diff sence they
are only a year apart right?
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Posted: 10-12-04 11:10am
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| mswebster
wrote: | i know that have to hard
being 18 raising 4 kids how do you do it
you need a pat on the back for you
strength. Are there any twins in their
fathers family or yours. My father is a
twin I wouldn't mine having twins get it
all over at once.
Erica |
it ca be very hard but I al happy to have
help with my b/f and both of his parents.
That is the only way I could stay in
school work my job and have a life on the
side of just being a mom. Between my
mother and father there are 4 diffrent
genarations of twins but none have had 2
sets. That and the twins brance out far
in the family tree like 4 cuzen's or
something. On my b/f's side there is no
twins at all so his parents are happy to
know now there could be more twins welcome
onto there side.
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Posted: 10-12-04 12:12pm
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I don't see anything wrong with that!
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Posted: 10-12-04 12:15pm
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| pitterpatter
wrote: | | i don't see anything wrong
with that! |
so me and him are doing pretty good with
the hole moving the kids and I shouldnt
let my mom get in the way of that.
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Posted: 10-12-04 12:38pm
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No! It's your life anyways do what you
want and don't feel bad about it because
you've got four kids to take care of.
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Posted: 10-12-04 12:42pm
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| pitterpatter
wrote: | | no! It's your life anyways
do what you want and don't feel bad about
it because you've got four kids to take
care of. |
thanks you have been alot of help and I am
thankful for that
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