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sweetsuzi
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Worried About My Friends
Posted: 10-09-04 14:48pm
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Ok heres the situation. My friend lizzy
shes 21 too, has a little girl called
alice whose 4, shes only had one boyfriend
and has been single for the past 3 years.
So when her new boyfriend came along
about 7 months ago, I was really happy for
her. Even though he was from england,
but he promised to come and see her all
the time. Then after a few times of him
being up here and then her going down.
She didnt meet his family, even though he
lived with them! I thought that was
weird and I told her! Anyway she put
herself through college and was goign to
start university last week. Her mum and
dad have been supporting her, they bought
her a house and a car. She is
financially dependant on them!! Anyway I
called her last night and suprise and
suprise shes isnt goign to university and
her house is up for sale and shes using
the money to move hundreds of miles away
to live with some guy shes only spent the
odd week and weeked with for the past 8
months. And shes taking alice too, even
though she has just started nursery and
will be going to school next year! Shes
fallen out with me because I called her a
stupid fool. Do you girls think I was
wrong! I dont want to see my friend make
a huge mistake and I dont want her to drag
alice down with her. Not only that she
hasent told ali's dad who moved up from
england to be near her! I am soo upset
because she fell pregnant at 17 to a boy
from england who came up and visted her
and they got engaged and it wasent till
the moved in to her parents house she
decided she didnt want him anymore. I am
so worried about alice!!
Sorry for the rant I just had her mum
crying down the phone to me, I dont know
wat I can do!!
I know I do think shes selfish sometimes,
but I have known her since I was 10 so
thats a good eleven years we are like
sisters!!
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linuxChique
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Posted: 10-09-04 15:36pm
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Man! Sounds like a horrible situation. I
hope you can convince her not to do it!
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bellax0x
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Posted: 10-09-04 16:12pm
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Wow, im with erin. I hope you can
convince her to change her mind
<3
gaby
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pitterpatter
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Posted: 10-09-04 16:17pm
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I agree! However, the more you and your
mom push her to stay the more she'll want
to leave. I would just tell her how you
feel and leave it at that. Hopefully
she'll figure out what she's doing isn't
smart.
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nippz
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Posted: 10-09-04 17:09pm
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I'm with gaby, hope you can help her
change her mind ;\
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sweetsuzi
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Posted: 10-09-04 17:16pm
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At the end of the day it's her life, shes
making a mistake, I hope to god im wrong!
But she knows my feelings and thats the
end of it. It's her mum thats phoning me
crying
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Kia
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Posted: 10-10-04 07:01am
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Surely if her parents bought the house it
is theirs and she has no right to sell it
maybe her parents can stop that going
through, and then she will realise how
dependent she is and that she can't afford
to do this.
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sweetsuzi
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Posted: 10-10-04 07:28am
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Her parents will let her pay of the
mortgage and whatever profit she makes on
it she can keep, I dont understand why
they are letting her do it either! I mean
she is moving to noriwch I can imagine
that being sooo expensive!! She is an
ass! Im really angry at her for being
such a spoilt brat
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sdwood2
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Posted: 10-10-04 11:53am
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I hope that you can get her to change her
mind
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Kia
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Posted: 10-10-04 13:01pm
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oh swanky,
.N.O.T what does she wanna move there for,
i've been twice to be in the audience on
"trisha" nothing else in norwich - sorry
to anyone from there but...
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sweetsuzi
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Posted: 10-10-04 13:12pm
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I thought norwich was posh lol I owuldnt
know im from glasgow lol you ever been
here kia??? What is your real name
anywayz ha ha
omg trisha is a goddess lol
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smith8500
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Posted: 10-10-04 13:13pm
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Stupid girl! She should know better than
to do that. Suzi, huni. You did what you
could. Don't beat yourself up. She's
going to do what she wants to do wether
you agree or not. Tell her what you think
and your reasoning.... But it's all you
can do.
You are a good friend!
Love,
chanda
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BbyBlu0602
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Posted: 10-10-04 13:20pm
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I honestly think this is an issue of not
having her priorities in order. She's
thinking irrationally based on her
feelings for this guy, when in reality she
needs to be thinking what's in the best
interests of alice and the best interests
for her future. If you ask me, she needs
to get her priorities in line. You
don't just up and move your whole life and
your family for a man you hardly know
anything about. Just my opinion...
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Kia
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Posted: 10-10-04 13:21pm
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Nope the closest i've been is up to ayr or
sleaford, not sure which is furthest
north.
Himself sometimes goes to glasgow for a
week for work if they are short on
engineers up there.
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Kia
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Posted: 10-10-04 13:30pm
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Mind you, I upped sticks and left for
great yarmouth (8 hours by train or coach)
for some guy. Then again I was having
parent trouble and it took them 3 days to
notice I wasn't there - took a lot for me
to forgive that I can tell you.
Plus when I was 13 I used to go and stay
in essex with this guy I met at butlins,
told my parents I was staying at a friends
house 
only got caught when a friend phoned me
while I was there and we were talking
about school when he came in - he thought
I was 18 
he was 24!
I told you guys that i've been a bad girl.
However I am totally reformed now 
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sweetsuzi
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Location: Bonny Scotland
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Posted: 10-10-04 15:58pm
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She is just a little selfish and stupid
sometimes. Everything goes out the
window. But I can see where she is coming
from. She does need to be more
independant of her parents considering she
is one herself! A degree isnt the most
important thing in the world and she is
lonely, I know she just sits night after
night on her own in the house and she
keeps alice up till after 10 for company
now. Nick has come along and to her he's
prince charming and I can with so many
things it's always the people on the
outside that can see the problems!
But on the other hand her parents arent
short of a few bob and she is kept in a
nice style. I dont whether she thinks
life is like that! She is so sheltered!
Ya know what I hope they do get up and
sell their house, they need their own life
too. Sooner they get rid of selfish cow
the better it's just alice im worried for!
By the way I called her a selfish cow to
her face thats why we fell out ha ha but
we are ok now I told her I hadent changed
my mind but I will her friend no matter
what.
They are like my 2nd mum and dad. She
treats them like there public enemy number
one!
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