In Desperate Need of Help!!!

Sorry,i've never heard of masturbation causing infertility,even with the heat.The only way to determine your fertility would be to have your hormone levels checked.You may have to explain your situation to your doc,as such tests are not usually done on someone so young.Good luck.Patty

See the things is it's not on the clit. If it was I wouldn't be so worried. The fact that i'm flooding my womb with boiling water is what concerns me.

I'm not sure what you're describing - full insertion of a showerhead in your vagina? Or just flushing your vagina with hot water?

Either one is bad for the tissues of the vagina and cervix and with high pressure, I can imagine that there might be some transfer of the water to your uterus. This can at the very least lead to infection, a ph imbalance and or damage to the tissues via scalding.

I know it's hard to stop, but it is not healthy. You sound like you have signs of being a sexual addict. You're still young and it's possible that it's a hormonal imbalance. There are other ways to gratify yourself that are not as dangerous to your body.

There are groups like h ttp://www.Sarr.Org/ that can help you get help.

I urge you to go see a gynecologist. If you're uncomfortable talking about your practices, that's okay. Have a complete exam, if you've done damage, the doctor should be able to tell with the normal pelvic exam. If you can't talk about your masturbation, at least broach the subject of your sexual drive and ask for a hormonal workup.

Please take care.

Full insertion! Wholly caca! Hell no. Though ai guess I should have been more specific. I've never had an infection. And it has never stunted my sexual apitite and if anything it has increased it. As for the whole sexual addict thing. I was dryhumping my best friend at 6. Get the picture. I've never bothered seeing a sycologist coz I don't think it's that bad. I don't believe in manual masturbation, i'm too lazy and it's not as good. The whole concept of vibrators disgust me so..I dunno about switching techniques...Unless I was just having sex more often. And the more I have sex the more I need more i'll demand. And I really can't demand a whole heap without a boyfriend. And they usually get a bit tired with me constantly disrupting their day with ear lobe sucking, and general arousal. Maybe this whole thing is more complexed than a shower nosel. But either way it's the most dangerous factor. I don't want to see a gyno unless he's a youg male. I don't trust old males and I certainly don't want a female searching my bits. I have a thing with anything female to female, I don't touch people unless they are male or it's a hug.

Ps what is a hormonal workup?

I'm not quite sure what your question is here now.

You asked if you may be endangering your future fertility by your masturbation practice. You may still have an infection without knowing it. Or you may have had an infection in the past which caused scarring. Generally, just douching with warm water is not a health hazard, so unless the water is hot enough to scald you, I don't think you could have hurt yourself seriously.

A hormone workup is when they test your blood or saliva for all hormone levels. Some hormonal imbalances can be caused by things like ovarian cysts, tumors, thyroid problems or pituitary problems.

A doctor can test those things without a pelvic exam.

Personally, if you can't bear to have a pelvic exam, I don't think you're mentally prepared to engage in sex responsibly with another person.

You've asked for help, so you are obviously concerned about your own behaviour. I did not suggest seeing a psychiatrist - I suggested a support group for sexual addicts. Some are groups that have online bulletin boards like this one.

It's up to you. Decide what is most important for your future.

I wanted to know weather or not this can effect my fetility weather I could have scared somthing to prevent my being fertile or what not. Along side that i'd like tp point out that the water is as hot as what you'd make your tea with and i'm ot joking I could prove it and go make some tea with my shower. As i've grown up the water temperature keeps getting high so it doesn't hurt me, my hands do look older than they should be. But that's all that is obvious. And I don't think the temperature is the only problem, the pressure I build up before releasing this water is so strong it can hurt.

As for the pelvic exam I don't see whats so wrong about not wanting women or old men look at my vagina wether or not they are there for medical purposes only. It is not a question of my maturity. I know I should but I like to know people before they go anywhere near there.

I don't know about being a sex addict either, there is a difference between having a high sex drive and being a nymphomaniac. Besides if I was an addict why would I shun such tests?

I shun needles and bloodtests just like a gyno. And i'm responsible with contraception because i'm baby petrified

I don't particularly like being given links to a christian help group either.

You wanted to know if this could affect your fertility? Yes. It can. But only a doctor can assess that accurately. You could be scarring your cervix to the point where it is not able to produce the normal discharge during ovulation that helps fertilization. You could be changing the ph of your vagina so that it is hostile to sperm. You could be opening yourself up to chronic infections when you stop. The scalding water may have damaged the lining of your uterus and might prevent an egg from implanting properly or a baby from being carried to a healthy full term. You may have contracted a uterine infection without knowing it and it might scar your fallopian tubes so that an egg can no longer pass. Such scarring also increases the chance of an ectopic pregnancy which can mean removing that tube and possibly that ovary.

There is little way to diagnose something like this accurately on a chat board.

If you are doing something you know isnt' particularly safe (you're concerned about it) and you're unable to stop, then you have a problem. Perhaps not a sexual addiction, but some sort of problem that makes you unable to stop doing something you know might be hurting you.

Again, I said that you could go to a doctor and not discuss this activity in particular but talk about your sex drive and have them check your hormones. Perhaps if you get to know your doctor over a period of years you'll be more comfortable with a pelvic exam. Cervical cancer used to kill hundreds of thousands of women - it no longer does because we have a simple and relatively painless test called the pap. When you're ready, you should definitely get it done regularly if you're sexually active and/or over the age of 21.

I apologize for the religious nature of the website. There are plenty of other non-denominational groups out there. You should probably do a keyword search on google or elswhere for "sexual addiction" if you want help.

I don't particularly like being refered to as a sex addict at all. Especially now that I have read up on the symptoms and signs of a sex addict. I know you were only suggesting, but I think it would have been more apropriate to not jump to conclusions and just encourage me to see a doctor.

As for going to see a doctor. If I felt comfortable doing so I wouldn't have posted here. I will find the courage to go to a gynocologist when i'm ready. And I won't ever talk to a doctor about my emotional issues, because it's not for a doctor to here. If there is somthing truely wrong with me i'll talk to a shrink first, they can go refer me to a doctor if need be. I can't afford either so it's going to have to wait.

No I don't want children, while the lack of fertility would be great I have to worry about the other implications such as infections and cervix cancers etc.

Before you imply that I am being rude just be aware that the last post wasn't meant to be read as hostile, so perhaps i'm not being as rude as you think. I was merely stating my opinion on the help that people offered and returning a result on weather or not I will choose to use it.

Sometimes a doctor needs to know an emotional side of a person to detect what is going on. There are cheaper (great) ways of getting help; mentally, physically or whatever. The truth is you are going to have to see a physician; if you want the help and assurance that everything is fine with you.