I was just thinking and as much as I love
my baby girl with all my heart it angers
me off that theres people around that are
so d@mn immature and think that having a
baby will solve everything..So they bring
this baby in the world and cant do
anything for it beacsue they wanted the
baby out of being selfish for themselves!!
I never in a million years knew how hard
it was to raise a baby and mines only a
mth old and I still have a whole lifetime.
I didnt think it would be hard to get up
every 3 hours to feed her..But elt me tell
you..When your tired it is..Or how I
thought my baby would be wonderful and not
have colic..Well guess some poeple dont
get so lucky..Do thw girls who try and get
pregnant so young know what its like?
Rebekah is up for 4-5 hours every night
screaming from colic..She doesnt stop no
matter what you do so all you can do is
hold and comfort her? Is this what these
kids want so young? Everyone has there
time to have a baby some sooner then
others. But I really never understood
what my mom was talking about until I had
her and now im faced with all this stuff
and I dont know how to react. Or how
about forumal diapers etc..I know soo many
kids who rely on wic and everything else
and dont plan on doing anything else with
themselves and sit at home with 8 darn
kids and no dads..Yeh wic is very helpful
to those who need it. For some reason id
dint get on it..And rebekah takes a
special formula called nutramagin..If
anyone has ever fed there baby this they
know how much it costs..Its outrageous..I
have worked since I was 14 saving and
saving..Putting it all away..And now I
just see it going to formula diapers and
everything else and it does get
discouraging at times..So for all the
girls that want to get pregnant so soon
and rush it..Belive me you dont know what
its like until you have your own..Brothers
sisters necies nephews..Nothing will
compare until its your and you know you
cant hand it back..
Sry if that came off like I dont lvoe
rebekah or dont want her..I love her with
all my heart and would never give her
back..But I wish I would have been smarter
in the choices I made..I was just thinkin
this beacsue its 3:52 in the morning and
rebekah just got done screaming..She got
up at about 12:45 and just now
stopped..Gosh..
<3
marisa
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Kia
Supporter
Joined: 23 Jun 2004 Posts: 6594 Location: Planet Tampaxia,
Posted: 10-14-04 04:54am
One very wise post.
Marissa, sorry to hear but she will grow
out of it and you will be able to look
back with fond memories.
Sound like you got your head screwed on
and that you will do great.
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sdwood2
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Jan 2004 Posts: 645 Location: KY
Posted: 10-14-04 05:39am
Marisahi hun le tell you I know wee you ae
coming from my son had it something alful
only I did not sleep for 2 weeks stright I
had maybe an hour a nigt if that my son
was screaming all the time he hd colic and
all kinds of other things going on so hun
I know how you feel trust me.
Email me if you would like I will post on
here later one tonight after 9 when I am
off work and let you know different things
I did that helped me some if you would
like to try them
shelley
hang in there you are doing great
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babyrae
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jan 2004 Posts: 2957 Location: Manitoba, Canada
Posted: 10-14-04 07:08am
Its so weird cuz I find parenting a lot
easier then I thought it would be. But
danica's been sleepin thru the night since
6 weeks and I also breatsfeed so I dont
have to spend lots on formula or see much
spit up or anything... But even tho I
found it easier than I thought... It
still doesnt make up for everything I had
to miss out on.
I missed my prom, 18th bday and for my
grad, I could barely walk up the stairs to
get my diploma. Life changes a lot.. And
for those who think they'll still see lots
of ur friends.. Ur wrong. Pregnancy is
different, u can still go out and what
not.. But after the baby's here... It
takes plannin to want to go out and
decisions and sacrifices...
I have seen girls, 14, shocked at being
pregnant but yet doing a damn good job of
being a mother... But theres also those
who try to get pregnany.. Have a baby
then act like they can still do everything
they did before.
I know one girl who was 14 and planned to
have a baby... Her baby just turned 3 and
he doesnt even know her as his mother...
He doesnt know who the hell she is.
Always at the bar, getting drunk, sleeping
around.. And trying to get pregnant
again! Some people need lot of growing
up to do and even if ur 16 or somethin...
Or even 20 and u say "i want a baby"..
Take some time before u plan cuz ur never
done growing up.
Rissa,
you and I talk every day and you know how
proud I am of you. In all honesty.... I
didn't knwo how well you'd do with
everything but you are doing awesome! And
one day rebekah will grow outta the colic
(harlee had colic horrible) and it'll get
easier!
Love ya,
chanda
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Mommy2Seany
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Sep 2004 Posts: 315 Location: Sewickley, PA
Posted: 10-14-04 10:43am
Very wise!
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GuitarJade
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Oct 2004 Posts: 330 Location: Pennsylvania
Posted: 10-14-04 11:15am
Definitely. It sounds like you love your
daughter very much and that you've got a
good head on those shoulders. Remember,
if you need anything, we're all here for
you!
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Ansleyt2004
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Dec 2003 Posts: 355 Location: MS
Posted: 10-14-04 18:29pm
I very strongly agree iwth you. I do...
I never ever thought it would be as hard
as it is. She is sleeping longer at night
now and it still hard for me. I stay
tired!! I always thought I knew what it
was like bc I always kept my friends baby
days at the time and my neice but boy I
was dead wrong. And im not trying to say
I dont want mine or anything either just
that I totally agree with what u say bc it
has been very hard for me. Kiersten has
acid reflux so shes on meds for that she
is colicky too. I know most girls think
its a breeze but its not.
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rissalee21
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Feb 2004 Posts: 526 Location: michigan
Posted: 10-14-04 18:54pm
Awe thanks yall.I just needed to vent and
yall make the hard times a little
easier..Thanks everyone..Love ya!
<3
marisa
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rissalee21
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Feb 2004 Posts: 526 Location: michigan
Posted: 10-15-04 16:51pm
*bump for jeni*
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Riversmommy
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 May 2004 Posts: 711 Location: Springfield,Illinois
Posted: 10-15-04 17:02pm
Amen huni I kno how u feel riv is up every
two hours screamin bc he is teething! Its
hard when thers really not awhole u can
do!! Im proud of u tho sweetie I really
am!
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nippz
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Sep 2004 Posts: 2173 Location: ,
Posted: 10-16-04 01:56am
U're a strong girl, and i'tll be all worth
it in the end
