Joined: 16 Jan 2004 Posts: 1222 Location: illinois
Girls, I Need Help..i'm Breaking Down. Posted: 10-15-04 17:19pm
Today I got home from looking for
houses...Things are going kinda bad with
that....Some bad news.
Goodnews: I may be working part time at
ribshack.
Bad news: mom seems to think that since
i'm 16 that she can get in trouble by the
law for letting me move out.
More bad news: I spazzed out on her
because she got some law guy involved in
this and he's going to check it out...So I
spazzed out and started to cry, because I
really really wish she would stop picking
on me. She says she knows how it is to be
me..And here is what I said....
" you don't know how it feels everyday
wishing that you didn't wake up..You don't
know how it feels wishing that your son
could have a better life...You don't know
how it feels to be 16 and poor....You
don't know how it feels to want to grow up
but your mother thinks she needs to hold
your hand...And get in your effing biz."
all the while I said this when I was
talking to my boyfriend cause I called him
out of frustraition...
He cried.
I bawled and I just wanted to go into the
kitchen take all the medicen in my cabnit
and kill myself.
No i'm not asking for sympathy...I'm just
sooooo sooooo tired of everything.
This morning, when I woke up...I couldnt
find any jeans for alex to wear..You know
why? He only has 4 pairs. 2 jeans 2
sweatpants. So, he's wearing these
sweatpants that are too small....I
dunoh...If things don't start looking up,
i'm going to be in the nut house.
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mommabear16
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Jan 2004 Posts: 1222 Location: illinois
Posted: 10-15-04 17:27pm
Wow, 6 veiws and no replies....Hmmm....
Does anyone know about this 16 thing? I
know a lot of people that moved out when
they're 16..Does anyone have a webpage or
something that they could show me?
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GuitarJade
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Oct 2004 Posts: 330 Location: Pennsylvania
Posted: 10-15-04 17:30pm
Awww, honey, I know how it feels to be
tired of everything. My parents got
divorced when I was 11 and everything when
to sh*t. I raised my 2 younger sisters
(at they time they were 7 and 2) and
basically ran the house. I attempted
suicice 3 times in 5 years, and when that
didn't work, I resorted to just about
everything else. I'm doing well now...
Thanks to my best friend and boyfriend.
They saved my life. If you ever ever ever
need anything, you can always call on me.
And if all else fails, think of your son.
What will he do if his mother is gone?
Chin up... When you've reached the
bottom, there's nowhere else to go but up.
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GuitarJade
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Oct 2004 Posts: 330 Location: Pennsylvania
Posted: 10-15-04 17:31pm
And about the 16 year old thing, I don't
think it's legal but I don't think your
mother can get in trouble for it. It's
not like she's kicking you out, right?
You're leaving of your own free will. If
it's consentual between you and your
mother, I don't see a problem with it!
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HypnotiqPassionz
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Oct 2004 Posts: 29 Location: Nebraska
Posted: 10-15-04 17:36pm
Girl don't give up, I know things may seem
crappy right now but the only way to go
from here is up and I know sometimes you
just want to tear somebody's head off
girl all you need to do is just let it out
scream, kick, punch anything to help
release the pain,. And i'm pretty sure
you can get imanstipated especially at 16
and I agree with guitarjade if you and
your mom both agreed on you moving out I
dont think she can get in trouble
Nikki.....What size does alex wear? I'll
have something in the mail to you by
monday. What size is he in in everything.
Clothes, shoes, everything.
I love you and I know things are
tough....But you'll pull through. I
promise that you will....You can do this!
Calm down and take a break. And when you
think of killing yourself..... I want you
to think of kaitlyn (my niece). Think of
the fact that she will never know her
mother. Never see her mothers face.
Never hug or kiss her mother..... Do you
want that for alex? Do you? No. So come
on. You can do it.
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Riversmommy
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 May 2004 Posts: 711 Location: Springfield,Illinois
Posted: 10-15-04 18:55pm
Hey huni im w/ chanda im like a couple
hours from u what size does he wear in
everything im serious I kno I dont have a
lot but I have to pack that stuff up for
tessa and I get paid on monday I can at
least buy him a couple things alont w/
rivers things so tell me wat sizes he
wears....Also if ur mom gives u permision
to move out u can I would get emancipated
ur mom has to give the reason why u want
to move out and permission but this way u
can get things in ur name instead of
waiting till ur 18!! Huni im here for u
caca we live close enough seriously if u
need anything let me kno ok?
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IDABABY
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2004 Posts: 2236 Location: ***Wisconsin Baby***
Posted: 10-15-04 19:00pm
*hugs* I know that its hard, but you
really are amazing nikki! Things will
work out and you will be in my prayers.
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jessamyn
Moderator
Joined: 18 Aug 2004 Posts: 4101 Location: San Diego, CA
Thanks: 11
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Posted: 10-15-04 19:15pm
Hey momma love! Anyways I am not too sure
if its illegal or not considering parents
kick kids out all the time. Though paul
seems to think ts illegal to kick your
kids out b4 18 but didnt say anything
about moving out. But if your mom really
is that worried you can always look into
becoming emmancipated if you qualify and
your moms okay with it and it wont become
some huge court scandel... (qualify
meaning you and your spouse/bf make enough
money, can transport yourself, get medical
help, and still attend school. ) are you
still in school? Sorry i'm nosey I just
really wanna help ya out. I know how
parents can be.... Trust me I have the
most difficult ones no matter what anyone
says...
Anyways where do you live? How much is
the cost of living out there? Apartment?
House?
(oh and I would hoave replied earlier but
I just saw this one -only viewed it once
and am posting ) hahah
lemme know and i'll keep commenting
<3 jess jess
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bellax0x
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Jun 2004 Posts: 3572 Location: Jersey Baby!
Posted: 10-15-04 21:47pm
Ita with what chanda said. It may be tuff
but your baby boy needs you!
<3
gaby
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linuxChique
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 May 2004 Posts: 4535
Posted: 10-16-04 00:53am
Don't worry nikki!! It will be hard, but
you can do it. Just keep on your mother.
Make sure she knows that you are grown up
and she doesn't need to be mothering you
anymore. I know you will be fine! We are
here for you!
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nippz
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Sep 2004 Posts: 2173 Location: ,
Posted: 10-16-04 01:47am
Everything happens for a reason, and this
will make you stronger in the end.
Everything will be fine hunn :d
I moved into my own apartment when I was
16. I wasn't emancipated so my moms name
had to be on the lease. I don't know
your story, but if you're having moiney
problems do you really think you should
move out? Like I said I don't know your
situation and you might be better off
leaving, but i'd go where ever is cheapest
so you can afford baby clothes and what
not.
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Kia
Supporter
Joined: 23 Jun 2004 Posts: 6594 Location: Planet Tampaxia,
Posted: 10-16-04 06:31am
As far as I know if your parent(s) give
permission for you to leave then it's
ok.
I know everyone else has replied but I
know deep down nikki, you can do this, one
day you will look back and think"wow I did
it" maybe even smile about how hard it was
and how you felt. I know that day seems
along way off, but time will pass so
quickly.
<<<<<<<<<<&l
t;<<<hugz>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>>>
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ERICA83
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Mar 2004 Posts: 738 Location: clinton twp, MI
Posted: 10-16-04 08:07am
U sound like me a year ago. I always
stress more than I need to. Even my fam
tells me, if u dont relax ir gonna have a
heart attack. I really feel u I do. K
in 2001 my mom died, I moved in with my
dad, had 2 jobs and was goin to school n
everything was great. Then I met eric (no
regrets) and moved in with him. I quit my
job, stopped goin to school and was
partying every night, his mom was a severe
alcoholic and didnt work his bro didnt
work and eric didnt work. I ended up
gettin a job and his mom sucked every
penny out of me. And when she was
drunk,..... I was every thing in the book
from a female part of the body to a ugly
this, fat that health forum this I mean I
was called every thing. I wanted to move
out but had nowhere to go since I moved
from my fam to be with eric they told me
not to come back cuz I was rushing into
things. Anyway to sum it up here I get
preggy. Im supposed to be happy but im
even more depressed cuz I dont know how im
gonna do it especially living with a
drunk. Anyway I moved into my own place
with a lot of help from my sister and dad
and I couldnt pay rent if it werent for
eric but I am a hard worker and do
whatever is needed to pay bills and have a
smile on my face. Dominic is my
motivation and when he is bigger ill go
back to school. Anyway me and my mom used
to fight like cats n dogs I used to lay in
bed and think to myself, " I wished she
died" now she is dead and I didnt realize
how good I had it. I know there is not
much of and age difference between u and I
but im gonna be 21 on nov 21st. And I
have definitly noticed a huge difference
in my personality from when I was 17 . I
think totally diff and u will too. I even
used to be suicidal as in actually attempt
things. Just take things one step at a
time and u will get where u want. I wish
I could give u somethin for alex but I
dont have much for dom. Hes in 3-6 months
clothin now and unless my family buys him
something brand new which is rare, I go to
used baby clothing store. I got him like
5 really good carter outfits for 10 bucks
lol and I dont feel bad either, only a
baby wore it u know? Im grateful they
have places like that cuz baby's grow so
fast. Im blabbing now but like I said it
will be ok. Just look at ur lil boy im
sure he can squeeze a smile out of u. I
know we never really talked but here is my
yahoo id if u need me. Erica1
121us@yahoo.Com take care
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KissyBai912
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Aug 2003 Posts: 1762 Location: Venice, Florida
Posted: 10-16-04 08:38am
Nikki, I most definitely know how you
feel. And I know that you think it will
never be better, and that this is it, this
is how your entire life will be. But
believe me, I used to feel the same way,
and you will continue to feel like this,
until you decide you really don't want to
anymore. I tried a few different times to
commit suicide. One landed me in the
hospital, where I had to have my stomach
pumped, and then the hospital had me baker
acted so I was in the psych ward for 4
days. I learned a lot there, they scared
the hell out of me. Not only was it the
scariest place I had ever been, but it was
the cruelest. The nurses don't give a
damn whop you are or what you think, you
are just another brat they have to attend
to. They taught me what a selfish brat I
was being and how much I had to
appreciate. When my mom came to visit I
bawled my eyes out and was so thankful I
had her. I got out and we got into it
again, because I hadn't really learned a
damn thing, except that eventually, things
always go my way if I manipulate the
situation just right. But thats not how
life goes. You don't always get your way.
I got my mom to let me move to kentucky
with my grandparents. I ended up getting
pregnant, and I begged her to let me move
back. Of course she did. So I was still
the same spoiled brat getting my way.
Dewitt said he was going to be there for
me and the baby and all those other great
things, and when he wasn't, it broke my
heart. This was pretty much the first
time in my life that someone wasn't doing
exactly what I wanted them too. So I do
have him to thank for making me that much
smarter. But what I am trying to say is,
things are not always going to go your
way. But I was in really bad shape, I got
pregnant just a little over a month after
I got out of the hospital. I was really
depressed thinking I couldn't raise a baby
and I couldn't be a mom and I just wasn't
good enough for any of it, I made myself
good enough. You are only as valuable as
you think you are nikki. I think you are
a great mom. But you are going to feel
this way until you decide you want to feel
different. I know you think you want to
feel different, but deep down there
somewhere, you just want to be upset and
feel sorry for yourself for a while, and I
do it too, I don't know a person who
doesn't. But that will pass, then you
have to decide if you want to be depressed
and sulk, or if you want to get out there
and work your ass off and give life a
meaning. I wish I could get a job so I
could support myself and my son, because
sometimes, I honestly feel useless. And I
feel really depressed sometimes too.
Wondering how I went from being the
parents little princess who got
everything, to a single mom who has to
work for her f-ing dignity. I get sick of
people looking down on me saying im too
young to do a good job being a mom because
I dont know any better. And I bet you are
too, so go out there, find a job and prove
thos suckers wrong nikki. I know you can
do it sweetie! Sorry if I babbled, but
this is a bit of a pick-me-up for me also.
I love you hun and I am here if you need
to talk.
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bd1012
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 May 2004 Posts: 1998
Posted: 10-16-04 10:23am
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sdwood2
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Jan 2004 Posts: 645 Location: KY
Posted: 10-16-04 10:48am
It will be ok hun we under stand and we
are all here for you to talk to we love
you and dont want anything to happen to
you :hugs:
shelley
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jessamyn
Moderator
Joined: 18 Aug 2004 Posts: 4101 Location: San Diego, CA
Thanks: 11
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Posted: 10-16-04 14:32pm
Bd I dunno what ur referring too but i'm
here to talk if you want? Ive been
depressed alot since I moved out
here....But I just smile it thru but thats
me
Re: Not Here to Cause Drama.. Don't Bite My Head Off Posted: 10-16-04 14:46pm
bd1012
wrote:
ok.. I just had to say
something after holding my tongue for 3
days..
Why is it that she can come on here and
say these things and you guys lend a
helping hand, yet I am called a baby and
an attention seeker when you guys start to
think that I am depressed or something?
I'm not here to cause a fight, i'm not
asking a loaded question.. I just really
want to know why you all call me an
attention seeker and call me a big baby
when I didn't even say I was upset or
anything outright. That's all I want to
know.
one reason is that I know her better. I
know about her life..... I know her. You
are still a bit unknown to me. I know you
but not too much. Sorry.
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