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JAJC76
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First Time Sex Problem?
Posted: 10-17-04 08:31am
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First I must say I am a 28 year old male
virgin. I've had a girlfriend now for 3
months and I have no problem staying hard
during bjs and hand jobs and i'm always
hard around her. Two times though I was
hard and tried to climb on and have sex
with her but I totally lost my erection.
The first time it scared the hell out of
me,now its just freightening. What is my
problem?Did I wait too long to have sex?
Am I thinking to much? Please any advice
or information would help.Please i'm so
confused and now shes getting mad at me
like I don't think shes sexy but she
is.Please any help would be greatly
appreciated. Ja
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Posted: 10-17-04 20:01pm
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Maybe you are just nervous? Is she a
virgin? If she isn't perhaps you are just
nervous and think she has certain
expectations. Nerves can greatly impact
a guy's ability to stay hard. Just relax
and enjoy the moment with her. Don't
focus on this, you don't know there is a
problem yet. After all, it is not as if
you are unable to get hard ever. If it
keeps occurring over and over then there
could be a potential problem
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JAJC76
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Posted: 10-17-04 22:24pm
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No no I get hard all the time. I get hard
in my sleep for god sakes.Its not like I
need viagra or something.Its just very
confusing. Shes is not a virgin.She was
with one guy for 5 years. It must be
nerves and how much I built up this moment
to be.What do you think? Thanks ja
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southcoach
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Posted: 10-18-04 11:11am
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Yea well considering you can get hard at
all other times it sounds like it is a
nerve problem. After all, I bet it can
be intimidating to have your first time
with a girl who is relatively experienced.
Don't focus on this though. It should
be a special thing for just you and her
because you care about each other. Just
relax, take a deep breath and focus on the
moment and nothing else. Be patient and
just relax, with practice you'll be fine.
Good luck, take care
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JAJC76
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Posted: 10-18-04 11:18am
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Talking is helping and your advice is
helping. It must be because I havent done
it yet.I feel like I will be fine after
the first time. See just before I tried
to actually get inside we were dry humping
each other with just our underware on and
I was hard as a rock and felt like I was
close to climax.Also both times I tried to
enter her I had already had a orgasm
through other acts with her that same
night.Could that have something to do with
it? Thanks again for the help and
information. Japanese people sorry to get
so graffic its a very diffacult to explain
without it.
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Posted: 10-18-04 15:52pm
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Well if you already orgasmed then you will
definitely not stay hard afterwards. I
mean we generally lose our erections very
soon after we 'finish'. I think that
because it is new to you and you are not
used to it you may orgasm early. Just
use protection. Don't worry practice
makes perfect. It will get better.
It might help you to take the dry humping
and previous acts a bit slower that way
you can last while longer while you are
inside her. And don't worry about being
graphic thats what these forums are for...
Advice. Best of luck and let me know if
I can be of anymore help!
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Posted: 10-18-04 17:54pm
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I wouldnt worry too much.. The same thing
happened to my best friend's boyfriend.
He would put on the condom and right when
they went to do it, he'd lose his
erection.. Its most definitely nerves,
your just scared. Wait until your more
comfortable with her.
Goodluck!
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Posted: 10-18-04 20:57pm
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Let her get on you-maybe you are afraid
you wont do it right let her take the
drivers seat
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Posted: 10-18-04 23:03pm
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Just awesome advice guys I appreciate it
very much. I kinda thought there wasn't
something wrong because I am hard all the
time.The thing that scared me was she
kinda got upset last time because she
thought I wasn't attracted to her but I
made sure she understood that was not the
case.We are just fine now. I also
mentioned to her about her getting on top
and she thought it was a great idea.I
think we will try that. She is not a
virgin but she does know that I am. I am
a very honest person and had to tell
her.It wouldn't be fair not to tell her
that information.So thanks again for the
information and advice.Anymore things to
tell me just let it fly I can use all the
advice I can get. Thank you ja
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Posted: 10-19-04 10:48am
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At the same time though, getting on top
might make it worse because you can't go
at your own pace. You can slow down if
you need to when you are in control to
last longer. Just at thought, but
whatever works for you. Again, I think
just practice and be comfortable with
yourself and her before you experiment
with different positions.
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Posted: 10-19-04 11:03am
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You have been an enormous help and I
appreciate it very much.I will take all
the advice everyone has given me. I
wonder though if you think its strange
that a 28 year old male is a virgin? She
thought it was but she also thought it was
cute.I'm not religous or anything.I just
havent done it up till now.Hopefully soon
I will get over or figure out this
problem.Thanks again ja
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Posted: 10-19-04 11:17am
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Nothing wrong with that is it because you
are ugly?
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Posted: 10-19-04 11:19am
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No i'm not ugly.I've been told by many
that I am very good looking.I keep in
shape and I eat right.Its not about being
ugly.Its about being shy. Ja
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Posted: 10-19-04 17:40pm
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Meh.. Props to you.. Most guys are all
about getting in chick's pants.
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Yea
Posted: 10-22-04 13:17pm
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I think its sweet that a guy waits to have
sex , not many are virgins ,i sum time
wish I was a virgin I love mine at 14 and
im 17 now and dont get me wronge I love
sex but I dont feel n e thing with the guy
I am sleeping w/ now ????
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